GarrusVakarian Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 I had been dating someone for the last few months. About a year after my marriage split. Everything was going brilliantly up until two weeks ago when she called it off. Had met all her family and friends. We was even supposed to be on holiday this week. Thing is she started a new job recently, she is very career minded. But at the same time she was the one pushing the relationship. She got a bit stressed recently with her new job as old employer was making her life difficult. Anyway she was a bit stressed the last time I saw her and I knew she had a busy week and would be working away. So I thought at the time, ill give her some space and leave her alone, if she needs me she knows I am here. Stupid when I think about it now. But I called her the day before the weekend and she wanted to know why I hadn't text her. Said I want to give her some space as I knew you was busy. Then she started saying you have the hump over my new job, saying your not a priority to me at the moment, my job is. She is on probation at new job, sales rep. She seemed to use it as an excuse to call things off?. Its strange how it was going so well and we both really liked each other made plans for the rest of the year and xmas together. We have spoken a few times via text about it all. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it all in person, let me know. She said let things calm down for a few weeks and then lets talk. That was almost two weeks ago. I have left it since then, gone NC. Should I wait for her to contact me or should I message her?.
SidneyS Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 As always we can only analyze based on the given information. There is a small probability that she was disappointed on your behaviour when she had stress. Typically you would want to comfort her, relieve stress (with good sex for example haha), be there for her, listen to her problems, analyse how you could help her and so on. Instead you give her "space" and do nothing? In a commited relationship you need to rely on the partner to help you through hard times. Sure it was only a couple of months but still. She might have generalized your behaviour. As for the higher probability...we can't really know. If you were just some random guy for a few months I would almost certainly exclude that she would ever present you to her good friends, even parents and make plans for holidays... IMO you need to talk to her face to face ASAP (now!). Don't be pushy but make clear that you do not understand at all and that you want to stay priority in her life because you have developed feelings for her. Good luck, please report us
Assasda Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I had been dating someone for the last few months. About a year after my marriage split. Everything was going brilliantly up until two weeks ago when she called it off. Had met all her family and friends. We was even supposed to be on holiday this week. Thing is she started a new job recently, she is very career minded. But at the same time she was the one pushing the relationship. She got a bit stressed recently with her new job as old employer was making her life difficult. Anyway she was a bit stressed the last time I saw her and I knew she had a busy week and would be working away. So I thought at the time, ill give her some space and leave her alone, if she needs me she knows I am here. Stupid when I think about it now. But I called her the day before the weekend and she wanted to know why I hadn't text her. Said I want to give her some space as I knew you was busy. Then she started saying you have the hump over my new job, saying your not a priority to me at the moment, my job is. She is on probation at new job, sales rep. She seemed to use it as an excuse to call things off?. Its strange how it was going so well and we both really liked each other made plans for the rest of the year and xmas together. We have spoken a few times via text about it all. I asked her if she wanted to talk about it all in person, let me know. She said let things calm down for a few weeks and then lets talk. That was almost two weeks ago. I have left it since then, gone NC. Should I wait for her to contact me or should I message her?. OP you've been a puppy dog long enough. See other people
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