aleo Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 So there's this girl that I was talking with online and getting along with pretty well but she lived 2 hours away so I didn't pursue anything. We went on like that for the better part of a year. A few months ago she happened to be in my town and we met, talked for a couple hours, got along great. Recently she moved to my town for work and for a while before that we flirted a bit online, she started the conversations more often than not, and there were general hints that we were interested in each other. When she moved here we spent time together but of course me being me, I didn't make a move for the first couple times we went out. When I finally did, she gave me the "it wouldn't work because of the distance" speech (she's moving back where she lived before in a couple months). That was over 2 weeks ago, we've talked once since then. But I haven't been able to get her out of my head! I'm totally into her, way more than most women I meet. So what do you guys think? Did she always have only friendship in mind? Or was she interested and then changed her mind.....and is using the distance as an excuse? I'd like to think that she wouldn't be giving me excuses seeing as we've known each other for quite a while and got closer over that time. Who out there uses excuses? I for one try to be honest if I'm turning someone down or breaking up with someone, even if it makes it more awkward at first. I find it avoids misunderstandings. Am I the exception??? Thanks for your thoughts!
whichwayisup Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 I would just come right out and ask her how she feels about you. If you're that into her and right now she's not into you...Well, your heart is going to hurt abit. You could be waiting around for her and wasting your time when she isn't interested. The LD thing actually could be a factor. Ask her and tell her, Please just be honest with me - That's all, don't drop hints or play a game with me. Then see what she says! Hope this helps...
WHATINTHE... Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 I don't think its an excuse. You know its not going to work out being that she lives 2 hours away. And for the next few months that she's in your town, she doesn't want to spend it with you b/c you guys might get closer and then things are really hairy b/c she's moving back home. If you know there's not going to be a future (you wont move there, she wont permanently move by you) Then why pursue it? I was in a relationship for about a year and then he tells me that his former marriage went a wry so he never wants to get married again. So i had to end it. NO FUTURE
Author aleo Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 yeah I see your point. I'm actually looking for other work opportunities, and I could end up anywhere. So distance isn't a deal-breaker for me at the moment.
Hund1976 Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 If she was really into you I don't think two hours would matter. If I met the girl of my dreams and she lived two hours away I would do for it. It would be one thing if you lived in Japan and she lived in Argentina or something like that. But two hours isn't far at all.
Author aleo Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 ^you have a point too lol. i've dated women who've been willing to travel a lot farther to be with me. hmmmm
iceisles Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 My last ex lived 3.5 hours away, and I didn't mind driving to see her at all. When you love someone, distance is rarely a factor. I just started to mind when things started going downhill - that was often a long car ride home.
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