Tranquility89 Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 (edited) So I met this guy at a club last week and we ended up spending six hours together talking and eventually we made out a lot (only slightly drunk). He asked me out on a date for the following week, picked me up from my house, paid for dinner, took me for a movie (which he reluctantly let me pay for when I insisted) and dropped me home but only kissed me on the cheek this time? (plus a peck during the movie). I asked him why only a kiss on the cheek and he said well I thought your parents might be watching (because I live at home still with strict parents and he dropped me to my door - I am 24 and he is 21 for the record). He has insinuated that he wants to go out again and has already texted me after the last date saying he wants to pay for all next time. But my question is even though we made out the first time we met, how come he didn't make out with me the second time I saw him? Is it a good sign that he is taking things slow with me and doesn't just want physical stuff from me? Do you think this date went well? Thank you in advance Edited August 31, 2014 by Tranquility89
Potz4prez Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 The first time he was drunk... the second time he was not. Open and shut case, Johnson. 1
irc333 Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 The first time he was drunk... the second time he was not. Open and shut case, Johnson. Who is Johnson?
Gloria25 Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 The first time he was drunk... the second time he was not. Open and shut case, Johnson. I disagree, cuz if he 'couldn't get it up' on their first meet cuz of alcohol or whatever, on the 2nd date he would have tried to make it "booty-callish" (i.e. a meet at her place or his or over drinks). This guy sounds like a gentleman. Also, let him pay. Yes, the Femenazis have told us women that we have no value unless we are contributing financially...but that goes against our biology and men naturally want to provide and protect us. Also, if you insist on paying, the guy is gonna take it as you want to keep it friendly and are not interested in him romantically. Oh yes, and the Femenazis have also taught us that we're supposed to have sex like men, so if a guy isn't boning you, something is wrong. Taking it slow physically is fine, as long as he's demonstrating 'some' level of physical contact with you - and so far he seems to be into you physically (i.e. making out with you, kisses on the cheek). Enjoy him and getting to know him without the actual sex. When sex happens, often people don't take the time to really get o know each other cuz the sexual energy is what's keeping the RL burning. And, when the 'high' of the sex comes down, what are you left with? Also, the sex will be better if you actually have a connection with him. Think of it as sex being the "icing" on the cake. Would you like icing (sex) w/o cake (the RL)? I don't think so, cuz while icing is nice, it doesn't taste great by itself. But, cake always tastes great - with or without icing. Icing just makes it better
Author Tranquility89 Posted August 31, 2014 Author Posted August 31, 2014 Thanks for your replies - I paid only because we are both students (I am full time and he at least has a part time job) so I felt bad not contributing for that reason. And yes he was affectionate the rest of the time, had his arm around me in public and holding hands during the movie.
Potz4prez Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 This guy sounds like a gentleman. That's what I meant... he acted like a normal guy that went "Oh ****, maybe I rushed things a bit when I was drunk." Also, let him pay. Yes, the Femenazis have told us women that we have no value unless we are contributing financially...but that goes against our biology and men naturally want to provide and protect us. Also, if you insist on paying, the guy is gonna take it as you want to keep it friendly and are not interested in him romantically. Eh, I usually take that as she's interested in me for reasons other than a free drink/meal.
Gloria25 Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Thanks for your replies - I paid only because we are both students (I am full time and he at least has a part time job) so I felt bad not contributing for that reason. And yes he was affectionate the rest of the time, had his arm around me in public and holding hands during the movie. I understand, but still, don't take away from a man what a man must do. If he can't afford a date, he shouldn't invite you on one. He should come up with something else to do (i.e. walking in the park). See, that's the problem now a days, men are losing their purpose (i.e. to be providers and protectors) and what we're getting is a bunch of "boys" who wanna sit down and play video games instead of becoming men. Back in the day, a man could not date a woman unless he was in the position where he could afford her and a family. He also had to go through a woman's dad before he could take her on a date... 2
preraph Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 He likes you. He didn't like you paying and told you so, so stop it. You can cook him dinner or make him cookies and he will find that a perfect way to reciprocate for him paying for your dates. He's being respectful. He is a man with a plan. Sit back and enjoy it and don't derail him by wanting to move too fast. 3
SidneyS Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 If I was this guy and you asked me in this situation why only a kiss on the cheek I'd be really freaked out lol...it's all good, just go with the flow. Man this reminds me of my first love in high school, she literally threw herself at me after our first date and I hugged her...lol 1
central Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 First few dates, no biggie. Beyond that, if he takes it slow, then there MAY be a problem: a) he's got ED b) he's got a small penis c) he's got sexual hangups d) he's got religious hangups e) he's got no experience, i.e. a virgin or nearly so (psychological hangups) f) he's not that into you in some way, and is waiting to see if he will be
thefooloftheyear Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 First few dates, no biggie. Beyond that, if he takes it slow, then there MAY be a problem: a) he's got ED b) he's got a small penis c) he's got sexual hangups d) he's got religious hangups e) he's got no experience, i.e. a virgin or nearly so (psychological hangups) f) he's not that into you in some way, and is waiting to see if he will be Probably this... TFY
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