mammasita Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Music as a dealbreaker? Never. I'm with those that stated there are more important things like, hmmmmmm -> character traits. I'd steer clear of the person that states "I hate country music" vs the person that says "It's not my favorite but I'd give it a try again if it's something you like" 2
TayTay415 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Liking the same music is a bonus, definitely not a deal breaker. You're very young, you'll likely regret letting a lot of these guys go for something so silly when you're older. 4
smackie9 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 perhaps, then, you should just look for someone who is "passionate about music" and not "passionate about MY musical tastes" because you can easily find the same level of passion/interest in someone who is deep into whatever genre of music they like, but perhaps it won't be the same as yours. you seem very young though by your statements, and perhaps with some age and experience you will see the shift in this desire for something more substantial. it'll hardly matter what music tastes you have in common with someone when you've got kids and a mortgage and bills to pay. I did find someone who is passionate about music and my musical taste....my husband. He ticked off every box....if that is what it takes to have someone (almost 25 years now) it's worth all the fuss. And ty I am very young at heart...I just turned 50 this year. No kids, and now mortgage free. 2
newmoon Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I did find someone who is passionate about music and my musical taste....my husband. He ticked off every box....if that is what it takes to have someone (almost 25 years now) it's worth all the fuss. And ty I am very young at heart...I just turned 50 this year. No kids, and now mortgage free. the comment(s) were directed at the OP, not you... :-)
smackie9 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Here is some advice for you kids.....We are not talking about financial, or behavior traits....those are a no brainer to sustain a healthy relationship. BUT for the long haul, if you don't share passions and introduce new passions, your marriage will fall apart or will barely hold together. Once the responsibility of children and mortgage ends...many find themselves feeling they are living with a stranger. AND I see people easily poo poo the idea that music shouldn't be a deal breaker but have no problem coming up with what they feel is a deal breaker...talk about the pot calling the kettle black.
smackie9 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 the comment(s) were directed at the OP, not you... :-) TY for clarifying that...much appreciated. I wish they had a delete button. Or is that something you have to pay for 1
Elle1975 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 I went out with this guy once, and when we got to the point of having sex, and I therefore got to see him naked.. got turned off by one of his tattoos. It was a huge smiley face stamped on his thigh. Bad ink, bad tattoo, just staring at me. I suppose it can fit in the "weird turn off" category. 1
todreaminblue Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 A guy who eats his own snot would turn me off.....or guys that do that spit thing with a wad of phlegm and then suck it up again ...i would quite likely retch, definitely wouldn't want to kiss him as far as music goes i don't like thrash metal or death metal.....makes me feel like a giant shark is around the corner....like jaws.....if a guy i was with, was into thrash metal i would make him wear headphones.....and i would boogie to earth wind and fire on my ipod with headphones(going youtubing now)....maybe even attempt to dance together with listening to my music and him listening to his ..might create a fusion music dance thang....... whatever deal breaker you have is your deal breaker and we all have them....deb
TigerLilly78 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 No because half the fun is sharing new things and interests just cause some one starts off not into something doesn't mean they cant end up learning to love it..
smackie9 Posted September 3, 2014 Posted September 3, 2014 No because half the fun is sharing new things and interests just cause some one starts off not into something doesn't mean they cant end up learning to love it.. No one said they were not open to learning about new things...this is key in any relationship to keep it fresh...just you need a good base of compatibility, and shared passions to feel connected with that person. Everyone has their own thing that they feel strongly about, and want a partner that is on the same page. I have wasted much of my time, giving guys a chance even tho they didn't share my passion for music and cars. I threw in the towel and waited for the right guy instead.
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