Lingo1 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I agree with you. Even if my ex-bf meant it with the whole engagement and life-together.. he throw it away and I will not always be around. I am not a doormat - sorry, I'm not sorry. I get the same flashbacks, but I think that they will fade away as the time goes by. I am sure you tried thinking about other things when it hits you, but try harder. It kind of helps me now Oh, I don't want to feel constantly sorry for all of us who are left for a stupid reason, but it is NOT FAIR. Maybe they all need that one selfish partner after a good one to realize that there is more in life than perfect looks and a big ego - the most of them haven't realized it and that's sad. Yep i believe in karma and its sad that they think everything perfect when they dump ous for no good reason but thats their way of not caring and then hurting in future ous dumpee hurt for now ,but in future we wont be and they will :laugh: 1
sly_fly1 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I was the hot babe (I don't want to sound arrogant!) and I danced ballet... am tall and was blonde with long curls... now I am even more thin and changed my look to be a more brazilian type of girl (which he wanted to have since ever). I look ridicules. I was a confident and friendly girl and now I'm just a shadow of it, finishing my last year at the Uni with no interest at all. I'm angry at myself for letting me/myself down. I have to work on me even more now... and I'm tired of it. But thank you for encouraging us women aha yup you sound just like me, accept im a guy. but still, i fell into the shadow aswell. once you get out of it, people knotice, its like a big boom, kind of like when musical artists make their comeback.. 1
Bella2 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 I don't think that you sound selfish... I mean, you are a human and a woman first and then a mom. It is just the way it is and it's okay to feel sometimes lonely and not understood. Work on it, because I think that it could make you feel better about everything. Learn to live (for some time) alone, without a partner - that is something I had to learn. You are capable of so much! You work, you care about your kids and you have friends (not everybody is able to care about thees things at once!). I understand you 100%. You miss him and it is a big hole in your life... you want to be loved and cared for like every passionate and loving woman. It's just life in all its fairness and unfairness. And I frogs are one of my favorite animals! Thanks Yep, it's a big hole. And yes, I should learn to be on my own... I know I know I know... (doesn't make it easer though)
Bella2 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 i suggest now you work on yourself and become that hot babe, expand your social network and delete him from the picture completely. give it a few months, once he knows your turning your face in a new direction. hell be on your door step begging. they always do. I'm not that bad for "a mom" My ex-boyfriend is a very attractive man, 4 years younger than I am, and lot's of women are interested in him. He works as a teacher, but is also an artist (quite successfull) and likes to draw female nudes (which made me feel insecure, yes, he did draw me once or twice, but I know I don't have the "perfect body" like he likes to draw. He never said anything about that, it's just once again my insecurity). But he really wanted to be with me. We were serious. He loved my "fun" and "spontaneous" side. But, I did try to adapt to his idea of "an ideal woman" (stupid idea). But then I started ruining things with my jealousy/insecurity, which is annoying for "the other party" and definitely not sexy When he said we should end the relationship he admitted being less attracted to me. Yes, he still "loves" me, but is no longer "in love" (ya know, all the clichés). And that he had been a bit shocked by himself noticing that he sometimes was attracted by other women. He's honest, and tries to stay nice, but it does hurt yes. We live in a not so big city, we like to go to the same places when we go out, and one of these days I'm gonna see him with some beautiful young lady by his side. Don't know how I will cope
Author neverenough Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 I'm not that bad for "a mom" My ex-boyfriend is a very attractive man, 4 years younger than I am, and lot's of women are interested in him. He works as a teacher, but is also an artist (quite successfull) and likes to draw female nudes (which made me feel insecure, yes, he did draw me once or twice, but I know I don't have the "perfect body" like he likes to draw. He never said anything about that, it's just once again my insecurity). But he really wanted to be with me. We were serious. He loved my "fun" and "spontaneous" side. But, I did try to adapt to his idea of "an ideal woman" (stupid idea). But then I started ruining things with my jealousy/insecurity, which is annoying for "the other party" and definitely not sexy When he said we should end the relationship he admitted being less attracted to me. Yes, he still "loves" me, but is no longer "in love" (ya know, all the clichés). And that he had been a bit shocked by himself noticing that he sometimes was attracted by other women. He's honest, and tries to stay nice, but it does hurt yes. We live in a not so big city, we like to go to the same places when we go out, and one of these days I'm gonna see him with some beautiful young lady by his side. Don't know how I will cope The attraction-stuff is always the real reason for breaking up. Believe me. You could have looked like Monica Bellucci and he still would do it, because he got bored. Make the best of yourself. Not for him, but for you. And when he comes back and says things like "Babe, I want to give you another chance" (yes, he will make it look like he is the one giving people chances) .. then you should tell him to GTFO. You did not go through hard times working on yourself so that he can come and enjoy it, that should be for someone who really appreciates it.
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