troubledvery Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 Hi everyone, First post here. I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years last night. This was our second break up. He is in his mid thirties, 7 years older than me. Our relationship has been rocky due to age, background, and cultural differences, but we tried our best to be compatible with each other, even though we fight a lot for the tiniest things. I broke him up about half a year ago, it was nasty, happened right after a huge fight. He called me a week later, wanted me back, so we reconciled and got back together. I went for a 3 months trip shortly after our reconciliation and came back in July, things have been great for us, we both loved each other very much, and it was the first time ever that I felt like things are starting to look up for us. And out of the blue, yesterday he brought up the conversation of us "not compatible for each other". I was a bit surprised as everything is fine between us now. He said that "there's a lot of things that we both need to address… I know from the start of our relationship that you don't want to get married and have children, but for me, it is what I want in a relationship eventually." I told him I have not changed my mind about the future I wish for (childless), then he said, "you and I are too different. We want different things in life. I love you so much, but I know deep in my heart that we will not have a future together. We have different opinions on too many things." I thought for a bit, nodded. I agreed with him, but I was torn inside, knowing too that we do love each other so much but still, we are just not compatible as a couple. So we broke up, mutually understood, hugged and cried when we said our goodbyes. He said, "we can still be friends", but I told him I can't. His last words to me were "I love you", they tore me to pieces because I can't understand why two people deeply in love with each other have to break up because of life goals. I asked him, "is there any chance we can work it out?", he replied, "if it can be worked out, then there wouldn't be so many cases of divorce." So here I am, second day into my single life, grieving for the happy memories we have shared, and can't help but having the post breakup obsession of thinking, "can we get back together? Any chances left?" I do know in my heart that we can't have a future together, but I also know that we loved each other so much at the time we broke up that it's way too painful for me to take. We have not contacted for the past two days. I have strong urge to contact him, but I know I shouldn't. Yes, I'm sad just like anyone that has just gone through a breakup. Worst thing for me is, we still love each other. What do you think I should do in the meantime to feel better? And, any chances that we can get back together?
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