dragonfire13 Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 (edited) Guys...help me out here. I hired a removals guy and we got chatting on the job. The dude seemed really intrigued and when it came to paying him for the job, he said he felt guilty taking money off me and wanted to take me out for coffee as a way of making it up for it. Throughout our chatting, I caught the guy staring at me from time to time, and also dropping compliments, calling me beautiful etc. He kept reiterating how he wanted to go out for coffee to continue the conversation once he finished the job, so I told him to text me sometime to arrange. About an hour after he dropped me and my stuff off, he reached out on Twitter, again saying he wanted to meet up again soon. This was a week ago and I haven’t heard from the guy since. There’s no way I’m going to contact him first, especially as it was him who kept saying he wanted to hang out again. So… lost interest or just playing it cool? Write-off or should I just be patient? Thanks! Edited August 30, 2014 by dragonfire13
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 He thought you had no interest because you didn't reach out. You just lost your opportunity.
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 What you should do? That is up to you. If it were me I would send him a flirty text.
elseaacych Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 Short text: "Hey stranger, how've you been?" 1
Author dragonfire13 Posted August 31, 2014 Author Posted August 31, 2014 Thanks guys... I dunno, I would have been willing to reach out if he hadn't been the one to repeatedly say he wanted to meet up...and then go silent all of a sudden. I don't want to reach out to someone who has lost interest lol. Also feel like if someone can't follow through on something simple like that, it says a lot about their character.
elseaacych Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Sometimes life happens, and people get busy. Talking to us about it won't do anything to actually make him call you. Life is short. If you're still interested and you don't make it known, you may miss out.
Lani Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Sometimes life happens, and people get busy. Talking to us about it won't do anything to actually make him call you. Life is short. If you're still interested and you don't make it known, you may miss out. ^^ this x10
OwMyEyeball Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Thanks guys... I dunno, I would have been willing to reach out if he hadn't been the one to repeatedly say he wanted to meet up...and then go silent all of a sudden. I don't want to reach out to someone who has lost interest lol. Also feel like if someone can't follow through on something simple like that, it says a lot about their character. Clearly you're interested otherwise I don't see why you would have created an account on LS and asked for advice. What if he has lost interest? What's wrong with reaching out and rekindling it? His inaction says nothing of his character. Absolutely nothing. You know nothing of him, his life situation and his reasoning.
Gloria25 Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 It's only been a week... I think you should reach out with a light Tweet, like a "hi, how's it going?"...And watch his response, if he doesn't follow up, then you got your message w/o coming off as desperate.
Author dragonfire13 Posted August 31, 2014 Author Posted August 31, 2014 Thank you to all who replied. I should add that this removals job was a long distance job so we ended up spending the whole day together and getting to know each other. That, combined with him repeatedly saying he wanted to take me out some time, makes me think a text or a phone call from him would be more appropriate, and we wouldn't need to do this silly dance on social media. If he hadn't seemed interested romantically by repeatedly saying he wanted to meet up again soon, I would be more than happy to keep it friendly and wouldn't be expecting him to contact me. I know I may not know his circumstances etc but in my view, a man interested is a man who follows through. A female initiating contact may not be a big deal, but in my experience I've found that this tends to set the tone for the rest of the relationship (if it was heading that way) I was interested in the guy hence the question here on LS, and I guess I was expecting clarification that he'd lost interest and that I should move on lol. Thank you for all your input, but my gut is saying he's not interested and if that's not the case at best, he's unreliable and I'm just going to let the situation be.
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