ThisisIt606 Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 I met this guy off tinder, older by about 10 years. We dated for about me months (bf/gf). Things started of strong with him really pursuing me. He took me on a long weekend trip to his family's condo (paid for whole thing). He was often away (3 weekends in a row) visiting family out of state and then on a retreat. I was away one weekend too. We did hang out a lot after work/slept over, did fun things on the weekends when we could. At the beginning he told me at his age he knows it takes more than physical attraction and 3 months is when "true colors show". At 3 months he told me somewhat out of the blue he was having doubts and didn't see a future with me. When we were on that mini vaca. I noticed he was acting really sluggish, tired and just wanting to sleep. I asked him what was wrong and he admitted to being "a little depressed" and he hated his job. He works from home and was sick of not seeing people all day/ meetings online with what he called incompetent people. He has been hating his job/situation for awhile, before he met me. I still think about him a lot and wonder if he was just scared that we could be something/ a future together so he just ran off. Should I just give up? I don't know why he's liking all my IG pics and initiates texting.
me85 Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 If he broke up with you and said he doesn't see a future with you, you should probably let it go. He is confused and you shouldn't have to wait for someone to figure out what they want but still talk to you while they figure it out. /= Especially not on someone 10 years your senior. If it were me and I had strong feelings for him I would totally back off. If I responded to his texts it would be short and not at all flirty. Be strong. Good luck! 1
CommanderMadi Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 Hello ThisisIt606, Well basically I'd tell you that one being confused in a relationship definitely means there is something wrong. If he really wants to take a step further into your relationship, there shall be no hesitation. Anyhow, your healthiest practice right now in my opinion is to act like he is the one who is going to lose if he broke up with you or just went away, don't show any affection or love towards him because it can mean you are weak, specially in your situation. Act wisely and move accordingly. If he loves you, he will never be able to give you up so easily. Warmest regards. 1
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