CarrieT Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 The flat was a PLACE. It was not directed to YOU, as a person, but at a SITUATION. You are reading way too much into it and shouldn't have broken NC. 2
Reels Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 You know how he is once again. You must be involving yourself like you did before, but you should not.
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 His comment was neither nasty nor cruel; he wasn't trying to hurt you but you are extremely sensitive & vulnerable right now. He's looking forward to the next chapter in his life. You should too. That means in part blocking him from all social media. If you can't see his Twitter feed it can't hurt you.
Author Lalocket Posted September 15, 2014 Author Posted September 15, 2014 I wanted him to take it down because I thought our mutual friends would think it was a reflection on me and it basically looked like a big F U. There was no need for it in my opinion because all it did was put me right back to week 1 of the break up in terms of hurt. I've not once resorted to social media to say anything that could be considered insensitive or hurtful because I don't wanna stoop to that. I can't believe the person who cried so much on our last meet up would be so numb to emotion now. Can't understand
d0nnivain Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 There is no rhyme or reason in a BU. You just have to put all thoughts & contact with the other person away.
LuckyLady13 Posted September 15, 2014 Posted September 15, 2014 I can't believe the person who cried so much on our last meet up would be so numb to emotion now. Can't understand He's playing games with you. And you're watching. You asked why he'd be so cruel but it's not him being cruel to you - it's you! You're hurt, sensitive and vulnerable and leaving yourself open to more hurt so you're doing this to yourself. Your mutual friends aren't braindead, dear. Give them some credit! They can see things for what they are and don't need your help there. So help yourself. Be good to yourself. He's not interested in doing that so you really need to take extra care right now with yourself. Leaving yourself open to reading his games (I really do think he did it on purpose, actually, because he knows you and knew how you'd take it) is only hurting you. I honestly think he's not just playing games with you but also your mutual friends. I highly doubt they're putting energy or thought into what he's doing or saying and he's going to, in the end, look bad. So continue to take the high road you're taking and not sink to his level but drop him on any and all social media so you can move on with your life in a direction that's going to make you happy. Don't allow him to play any games with you. Put a stop to it. You said he cried so much on your last meet up. Because he thought that benefited him. And now he's so the opposite on social media for the same exact reason. I think the guy is not a stranger to playing games with people and one day in the not too distant future you're going to find someone so much better and you're going to be happy and look back and do a facepalm, wondering why you ever got hooked up with him in the first place. I really think this breakup is going to be one of the best things that's ever happened to you. 1
travelbug1996 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 If you were not following him on social media you would not have seen it. Go NC. It will give you your life back. 3
travelbug1996 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Who cares if he's playing games or whatever his motivations may be. He should be a non-factor at this point. Its OVER.
Author Lalocket Posted September 16, 2014 Author Posted September 16, 2014 Who cares if he's playing games or whatever his motivations may be. He should be a non-factor at this point. Its OVER. bit harsh.
Author Lalocket Posted September 16, 2014 Author Posted September 16, 2014 I think the guy is not a stranger to playing games with people and one day in the not too distant future you're going to find someone so much better and you're going to be happy and look back and do a facepalm, wondering why you ever got hooked up with him in the first place. I really think this breakup is going to be one of the best things that's ever happened to you. Thanks so much, i am trying to tell myself it is.
mea_M Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Breakups are never easy. You are feeling all the emotions at once and this can be very overwhelming. My advice to you as in how this ties to social media, would be to seriously cut social media ties with him at this time. Social media can be addicting and it's certainly something that adds to more emotional upheaval when we are not in a great place. With that said, forget his twitter, FB or whatever else you're connected with him on and give yourself some space. You will get through the stages of this just fine. Best wishes. Mea 1
Author Lalocket Posted September 16, 2014 Author Posted September 16, 2014 With that said, forget his twitter, FB or whatever else you're connected with him on and give yourself some space. You will get through the stages of this just fine. Best wishes. Mea Thank you, Mea It's only when i go on his twitter (it's public so doesn't matter he's blocked) that i get upset. getting out of the habit of this will make the recovery so much better, I know it. Bit pathetic that he uses it as a tool to hurt me..guess that shows true colours.
LuckyLady13 Posted September 16, 2014 Posted September 16, 2014 Lalocket, like Mea said, breakups are never easy. They are one of the hardest things a person can ever go through. I broke up with a guy I had so much in common with because he was abusive. The real kick in the butt was I felt doomed to not ever find someone like him again who I shared so many things in common with and I was so depressed for a while. I had no choice. I missed him, thought about him all the time and wished he could've just...acted like a man instead of a psycho so we could've lived happily ever after. And in my totally doomed feeling state, I moped around meeting guy after guy after guy who I just didn't click with and there was no chemistry and we had barely anything in common so there was nothing to sustain a good future. With every guy I met, I felt more doomed. What a bad time in my life. So I decided, since I was doomed, to get involved in a FWB situation. That ended up being great at the time because I really had something to look forward to. Great sex, at least. One of the things I missed from having a relationship. And after a while, out of the clear blue sky, bam! There he is! The guy I've got tons in common with! The guy I didn't think existed. I broke off the FWB situation ASAP and concentrated on a real relationship. And now? I can't believe I ever spent 5 minutes missing my jerk ex. I understand what you're going through and the state of mind you're in. It's hard. But the best thing for you is to drop this guy from social media and avoid anything for a while that will get you info on what he's up to so mutual friends bringing him up is not good for you either right now. There are a couple BILLION men in this world. And it might not be easy to find somebody you're going to adore who adores you back. But you can do it. And be really happy. Just get your butt out there! As a matter of fact, there's a guy out there who is 10 times better than your ex. You just have to find out where he's hiding. 1
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