What is she thinking? Is she interested in me or just friendly and likes my attention

[theguy1991]

I knew this girl from my uni orientation camp .

 

She often says I am weird, like a lot! I really don't get why she finds me weird so I asked her and she replied "maybe you doesn't know how to talk to girls"? I am even more puzzled seeing her reply. Any help with regard to this area is deeply appreciated. She ask what's my ideal type, how many crushes I have and whether do I care about appearance and boob sizes.

 

She ask if I am mad at her when I don't text and even ask why didn't I text her. She told me during our first date that she is currently seeing a guy and that guy asked her to be her gf but she needed time to know more about him. She added that she shouldn't had told me that.

 

So, I asked her to go out to the movies and ice-skating with me and she said she will consider about it as she has school work to be done. She then later turned down the offer when I prompted later again. It's such a lousy excuse I find as she has sat/sun/mon to do her work, surely she has a day off?

 

This really confuses me as she is sending mixed signals to me

[Assasda]

She tried to manipulate you, by telling you about some other dude, then she cancelled because you were putting too much pressure on her.

 

What you can do is go back to being yourself. Calm and in control, she tested you and you failed.

 

What you do is you move on to other girls, and keep calm and in control at all times, dont let girls pressure you, and you dont pressure girls

[theguy1991]

She tried to manipulate you, by telling you about some other dude, then she cancelled because you were putting too much pressure on her.

 

What you can do is go back to being yourself. Calm and in control, she tested you and you failed.

 

What you do is you move on to other girls, and keep calm and in control at all times, dont let girls pressure you, and you dont pressure girls

 

How did she test me? By telling me she will consider going out? What do these tests achieve for her?

 

I told her to let me know if she decided to hang out with me and only prompted her again as the day came closer.

[dragonfire13]

It seems this girl can't decide if she likes you or not. Speaking as a female, sometimes it takes a while before you know if you're interested or not.

 

I've been unenthusiastic about dating a guy before, even turning him down, only to eventually accept and I ended up really liking the guy. I'd say leave it for a while, and if she initiates contact, ask her out again. If she carries on being flakey, move on.

[Justletgo]

"She often says I am weird, like a lot! I really don't get why she finds me weird so I asked her and she replied "maybe you doesn't know how to talk to girls"?"

 

I was wondering the same thing on the date I had yesterday where she said similar things. Statements that could be easily taken the wrong way and seen as disrespectful.

 

She didn't feel the 'click'.

 

In other words, I doubt she is into you. If she were into you she'd be giving you clear compliments/ physical cues. Or in any case not saying these things.

 

Perhaps try to touch her (on the hand,wrist,shoulder) a bit, see how she reacts. Does she close herself off? Or does she engage you when you touch her.

[SidneyS]

From the limited information we have this signals are not mixed at all. She is not romantically interested in you and quite frankly I don't even consider her behaviour "friendly".

[Assasda]

How did she test me? By telling me she will consider going out? What do these tests achieve for her?

 

I told her to let me know if she decided to hang out with me and only prompted her again as the day came closer.

 

She tested you:

1. By saying that you were weird.

-She was trying to see how you react to that. If you are yourself. The best way to handle this is to say "Yeah I'm weird, so what?"

 

2. She tested you by saying she would consider.

- She's telling you that she'd consider like she was some prize, as if youre beneath her. Best way to handle this is to not care either way, because either way youre going to see a movie.

- You handled it the worst way, by being needy and pressuring her.

 

 

Anyway just move on, as I said, just be centered, dont be eager to please people that dont deserve it.