malin819 Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Me a girl from OLD and we pretty much connected right away. We were texting everyday and a few calls for a week. We were supposed to have a nice date yesterday evening. In the morning she said she could not wait to see me and was very happy she found a nice guy. We talked about some pretty personal stuff and planned the whole date together. Well after that zero contact. I texted her and called an hour before the date. Seemed like her phone was dead. I used my personal cell phone afterwards and he cell was working but no answer didn't hear from her yet. What do people act this way...I'm trying to understand maybe she had cold feet or something but cant wrap my head around the reason why!
irresolute Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Very weird. I'm sorry, I guess she wasn't sure to meet you at the end. Don't botter. Flake once, flake always
HappyLove Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Not weird AT ALL. Very typical of OLDing. Just search the words flaked, disappeared, no show and you'll find a ton of posts that start with something like......'met someone OLDing and they didn't show up'. Unfortunately this is the norm of OLDing you're gonna meet a ton of liars and wishy washy flaky people. A huge chunk of potentials online are also high school kids having a good laugh. So don't take it personal.
irresolute Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I don't think its the norm. No one had flaked on me before. No one. I haven't flaked either. Sorry about your bad experiences. You might have done something wrong or you're probably not as hot to her. Wait if she texts you.
CarrieT Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I'm guessing she was married and her husband found out. When I was doing OLD, I experienced this a LOT. Nine times out of ten, the guy was married and I was just a dalliance - they never had any intention of meeting in person. 1
Author malin819 Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 Ya I didn't bother calling or txting her since she flaked. One previous date that flaked told me she did it because it sounded to good to be true and she got scared. Its hard just being a nice honest guy and people don't even believe you. 2
longjohn Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Meeting people via OLD does have some quirks to say the least. I've never not had someone show or cancel last minute. I have talked to a few that just dropped off the face of the earth then returned weeks later and picked up as if it were normal. Had a few that I talked to on the phone, we'd call/text and again they just stopped responding without warning. While using OLD I typically assume a few things up front: I'm the rule, never the exception. If they all of a sudden stop talking to me it's likely because of the following, no matter now "nice" they where or how I thought I felt about them: a. Found a "better" offer/lost interest b. Already in a relationship and got caught/nervous c. Couldn't or didn't pay their mobile/cell bill - You don't want this one anyway Regardless, I'd move on to the next. When you find someone genuinely interested in you they'll make the effort and hang around. They'll even email if something happened e.g. lost/stolen phone. People that flake out early on are doing you a favour. You can now cross that person off your list and find someone that's actually interested. A lot of people unfortunately using OLD run the numbers and run them too high. Many get the feeling that something better is out there.. maybe the next one, or the next one.. etc. 1
smackie9 Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I'm guessing she was married and her husband found out. When I was doing OLD, I experienced this a LOT. Nine times out of ten, the guy was married and I was just a dalliance - they never had any intention of meeting in person. I would go with this, or her ex stepped back into her life. 1
Author malin819 Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 thanks guys and girls! I always think its me that did something but when I reread our last txt everything was good to go! On to the next one... 2
longjohn Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I would go with this, or her ex stepped back into her life. There's one I forgot.. yes the ex can always show up to ruin things when you least expect it lol.
Author malin819 Posted September 22, 2014 Author Posted September 22, 2014 She made contact Saturday telling me Hey Sorry and then told me she was afraid since I seemed like such a nice guy. She backed off and was thinking she wanted back with our ex and the same old BS with him happened again She wants us to date
Gaeta Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 She made contact Saturday telling me Hey Sorry and then told me she was afraid since I seemed like such a nice guy. She backed off and was thinking she wanted back with our ex and the same old BS with him happened again She wants us to date Really lol, please tell me you're not considering meeting with her. She lacks consideration, she could have come up with any kind of excuses to delay meeting you instead of leaving you with no news. My bet is after a couple of weeks of dating you the ex will come back again and she'll play that same little game. How long ago she broke up with him? Stay away from women recently out of relationships. 2
Author malin819 Posted September 22, 2014 Author Posted September 22, 2014 I kind of new that she went back to her ex since they were broken up just over a month I have no clue for her ex but I know he is still lurking in the background somewhere. I believe they have an on/off relationship to be honest.
LostOnes05 Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 Going through the same thing recently. Gotta let her go man. That's what I'm doing/trying to do. You can never make someone stay with you. If you were her priority, she would be with you. Don't get caught up in your feelings (keep telling myself this haha), remember her actions. How easy was it for someone to walk right in between you two and her to leave you. This is not a one time thing...as Gaeta said, it's going to keep happening. As long as you keep the string on your back, she'll keep using you as a yo-yo. Let the two of them lurk together.
martaldn Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 She made contact Saturday telling me Hey Sorry and then told me she was afraid since I seemed like such a nice guy. She backed off and was thinking she wanted back with our ex and the same old BS with him happened again She wants us to date plan the meeting and then No show. pay her back with the same money. Flake people are the WORSE species.
Author malin819 Posted September 22, 2014 Author Posted September 22, 2014 plan the meeting and then No show. pay her back with the same money. Flake people are the WORSE species. I'm laughing so hard at work right now haha I won't be nothing till she figures out her own life ... my life is pretty awesome right now
smackie9 Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 I kind of new that she went back to her ex since they were broken up just over a month I have no clue for her ex but I know he is still lurking in the background somewhere. I believe they have an on/off relationship to be honest. omg that is the worst kind of person to date. Tell her thanks but no thanks. No need to be someone's other option. 1
martaldn Posted September 22, 2014 Posted September 22, 2014 I'm laughing so hard at work right now haha I won't be nothing till she figures out her own life ... my life is pretty awesome right now as long as you are not waiting for her is fine
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