infamousma Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I broke up with my girl about a month ago. We were a long distance relationship, Im from the US and shes from Europe. We met online and I started talkign to her because I thought she was cute but really wasnt expecting much from it due to the distance but I thoroughly enjoyed talking to her as she did too. We talked as friends for a good 2 years as she would always come to me to vent about problems in her life, school work family and guys she wanted to date. Eventually I could feel she had feelings for me and we then started dating. I was her first pretty much for everything sexually and her first real relationship. But I look back and there were times where in my head I was not feeling the relationship and kind of wanted a way out...but I kept with the relationship anyways loving her. After we broke up we still talked a every day like we normally did and I had said that give it time to heal and maybe we'll get back together blah blah blah. I broke up because she told me she kissed a friend at a house party and she was sober. She didnt really know why but she said she didnt care for the guy but it just happened...I know that was probably true because well I trust her and she told me because she cared. but eventually what happened is my emotions got the best of me and I started becoming pushy annoying whiny little bish. Which lead me pushing her away and she had told me that changed her image of me but never knew I cared so much because apparently I never showed that much affection (which was one of her reasons of blaming me why the relationship ended). but the thing that really bothered me was she never tried to sit me down and just talk about our relationship to try to fix it. She says that she didnt want to be one of those GFs that has to ask and tell her bf. I obviously didnt get her "hints" as she told me which is stupid. I talked to some of our mutual friends and they all told her to talk to me about it, but she never did. Im just really bothered why she would not take their advice and just have talked things over. Like one of my friends said to me, it seems like she didnt try. I just started my NC but i guess in my fairy tale head im wishing she misses me and wants to talk again but im picturing in reality that she will probably not because of the fact that she never tried to talk to me about our problems before it all went downhill. I did talk to her a couple weeks ago and apologized for my behavior and she told me that she she was now talking to a "friend of a friend" who she has known for the last 2 years while she was talking to me and eventually ended up with me. She says she enjoys the fun talk and doesnt talk about me or us and shes trying to be stress free. I also just asked before that if we were to be friends that she needs to try on her part but she says that she doesnt know if she would and that she doesnt know if shes going to get back into this relationship anytime soon. Was it to soon for me to be asking this? This is why I am taking the NC to finally move on myself and give everything time to heal. I am currently talking to a girl via text and its fun and nice but to me its to early for me to get with anyone as I know she likes me. Thank you for reading
mightycpa Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Sometimes, a girl just wants everything to come naturally, so that there is no need for effort, just like when you start going out with someone. They don't want to "work" at the relationship, they want it to be good organically. Eventually, they will see that all relationships need some work from time to time, because everybody is different, and what are the chances you'll ever find a perfect match, especially from another country? You were a learning experience, my friend. Let her be one too. 2
Author infamousma Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 Sometimes, a girl just wants everything to come naturally, so that there is no need for effort, just like when you start going out with someone. They don't want to "work" at the relationship, they want it to be good organically. wow, well put, thank you! Yea i can definitely see that as when we first talked it was just fun and natural without any intentions. Yea i can see i'm asking for something thats not right at the moment. I just got to comfortable, stopped doing the little things -.-. after 3 years of talking and and about 1 year of official title. Oh wells but thank you for your input, it was very well put!
Chi townD Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 See, this is why I hate dealing with people that had "on-line relationships". Because, lets be honest, it's not a true relationship! Hell, your more of a quasi-pen pal thing going on! Dude, you're in the States and she's in Europe, let it go! Find a girl in the states. A girl that's local and that you can actually touch and take on real dates and cuddle with at night. THOSE are more fulfilling relationships! 1
Author infamousma Posted September 6, 2014 Author Posted September 6, 2014 See, this is why I hate dealing with people that had "on-line relationships". Because, lets be honest, it's not a true relationship! Hell, your more of a quasi-pen pal thing going on! Dude, you're in the States and she's in Europe, let it go! Find a girl in the states. A girl that's local and that you can actually touch and take on real dates and cuddle with at night. THOSE are more fulfilling relationships! This was a real relationship dude, I actually saw her, touched her, was her first for almost everything you can think of sexually and other. I visited her twice for two weeks at a time. This wasn't just an "online relationship" looking at a person through a cam, its everything a supposed 'real' relationship was -.- its just we did not communicate well enough and she assumed things...
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