Should I or shouldn't I?

[nightbird101]

quick and simple like most my posts in nice cut up chunks

 

Background

 

So I'm about to start dating this really lovely girl. We're both really creative and I'm looking forward to getting to know her more. We've only spoken face to face a few times after dance class and haven't' really opened up to each other yet.

 

First Issue

 

I asked her out on a date. My request goes something like this "so I'm kinda sorta asking you out on a date if your into dating". Her response was "your sweet. and yes I would love to go on a date with you".

 

Second Issue

 

so today I log into facebook and suddenly get a message from her saying that she still wants to meet up but tells me she just recently came out of a relationship and wants to remain single to heal.

 

My Problem

 

I to recently came out of a rather long 7 year relationship 5ish months ago. I want to get back into dating again (but slowly build a relationship with someone that I can trust). I'm willing to open up to this girl if I can see us getting along but...

 

My question is...

 

Should I open up to this girl and build a relationship with her slowly. Or should I close myself away from her to save the heartache.

Edited August 29, 2014 by nightbird101

[sdrawkcaB ssA]

quick and simple like most my posts in nice cut up chunks

 

Background

 

So I'm about to start dating this really lovely girl. We're both really creative and I'm looking forward to getting to know her more. We've only spoken face to face a few times after dance class and haven't' really opened up to each other yet.

 

First Issue

 

I asked her out on a date. My request goes something like this "so I'm kinda sorta asking you out on a date if your into dating". Her response was "your sweet. and yes I would love to go on a date with you".

 

Second Issue

 

so today I log into facebook and suddenly get a message from her saying that she still wants to meet up but tells me she just recently came out of a relationship and wants to remain single to heal.

 

My Problem

 

I to recently came out of a rather long 7 year relationship 5ish months ago. I want to get back into dating again (but slowly build a relationship with someone that I can trust). I'm willing to open up to this girl if I can see us getting along but...

 

My question is...

 

Should I open up to this girl and build a relationship with her slowly. Or should I close myself away from her to save the heartache.

 

 

 

seems to me that you still need time away from serious dating. As you seem leary and only think your time will be wasted as your pitfall. Give the girl a break, enjoy what you have in your friendship. trust her that she'll allow things to move along with you.

 

 

i spent a great deal of time allowing and enjoying someone who i deeply connected with, thinking we'd be best of friends and nothing more. just having them ment more than getting too deep. but we both allowed for differences to be shared as well as our wants and needs. eventually allowing for a full relationship that was not all about being needy or sex driven to fill a void.

 

 

if your filling a void, no woman is willing to go any further than casual friendship, as being clingy is the last thing they want, when finding themsleves again from a bad relationship.

[HappyLove]

Just go out on the date! Don't put so much weight on it. You can't plan the future! You might not even like how she chews and that'll be that.

[irresolute]

Yeah. Invite her. Take it easy. And hurry! She might get mad at you waiting for that date.