irc333 Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 This is something I have heard quite often from women. Not painting them all one brush (as I need to put in this disclaimer as to not offend anyone), but I've heard some women say that if a many doesn't pursue her in earnest either it be multiple phone calls or asking her out numerous times before finally getting a "Yes" That if he "gives up" to easily, he's only wanting to get laid, nothing more. Is this just common rhetoric that some women say if the guy gives up too easily? "Oh, he only asked me out once, and I told him no...so he must just be interested in getting in my pants." Where have some of these women come up with these assumptions? That's kind of like the previous post about some guy at a bus stop who came across to women trying to get him to look at her ass and then calling him gay if he doesn't.
hotpotato Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 That's not necessarily true. A lot of guys will come at a woman hard when he wants sex. They will go through the motions of actually wanting to date her. 4
Woggle Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 If a woman says no I take her seriously. If people mean something they should have communicated better. 3
No Limit Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I think those women are stuck with Disney movies and pretty guys riding on horses and fighting dragons for them. Personally I'd think he's just too busy. Besides, from what little almost-not-existant experience that I have I must say those guys that really obviously just wanted to get in my pants were rather urgent than hesitant.
GemmaUK Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 IRC if a woman says no at your age..as in she is about your age she just means 'no'. There is no hidden agenda. She isn't interested in you romantically nor sexually. 2
Imported Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I think those women are stuck with Disney movies and pretty guys riding on horses and fighting dragons for them. I think these women are in his imagination. 9
me85 Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Huh? Uhhhh...no. Now, if a girl goes out with a guy on a date and he tries to kiss her and she pulls away all shy like saying she likes to go slow on dates...then they go out again or even a few more times and the same thing happens and the guy doesn't call back for another date, then ya, he was definitely just looking to get laid. 1
GorillaTheater Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I think these women are in his imagination. You don't have enough material for 500+ threads if you're restricted to stuff that actually happened. 11
Raena Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 This is something I have heard quite often from women. Not painting them all one brush (as I need to put in this disclaimer as to not offend anyone), but I've heard some women say that if a many doesn't pursue her in earnest either it be multiple phone calls or asking her out numerous times before finally getting a "Yes" That if he "gives up" to easily, he's only wanting to get laid, nothing more. Is this just common rhetoric that some women say if the guy gives up too easily? "Oh, he only asked me out once, and I told him no...so he must just be interested in getting in my pants." Where have some of these women come up with these assumptions? That's kind of like the previous post about some guy at a bus stop who came across to women trying to get him to look at her ass and then calling him gay if he doesn't. Never heard of such a thing. If a guy asks me out and I tell him no, I don't expect him to try again. I said no. No means no. Now if I say I can't that night, I'm busy, then that's different... but "no, I don't want to go out with you" means "I'm not interested, don't try again" Quite honestly, what man ISN'T trying to get laid? Sooner or later that's what he's eventually going to want... some want it sooner rather than later, but isn't that part of the goal of dating? To find someone you connect with on various levels... and intimacy is part of that.
HeartDesires Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Quite honestly, what man ISN'T trying to get laid? ..... 1
WesternWizard Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Quite honestly, what man ISN'T trying to get laid? Me, for one.
D.Mc. Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 I think a woman would be foolish to just say "no" only to see how much effort the guy puts in...very hot & young women may do this & actually get results w/men who clearly want to "conquer" them. It doesn't apply to the rest of us. As it happens a version of this on OLD is the messaging back & forth a dozen times & no request by the man for a number or even an email. Now that IMO is not pursuing with "much earnestness". After a series of these, I just stopped responding & the men never "came back" to me. In this case, they weren't looking to get laid, they just weren't interested & I'm still confused as to why they kept sending a few generic lines over 3-4 days? I'm old fashioned & believe that it is the man's role to make the first move IRL or OLD, just move things along...heck, if I'm talking to you to start with that's my clear signal of interest. If this "test" the OP is talking about is working for women, please invite me to the weddings! 1
salparadise Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Now, if a girl goes out with a guy on a date and he tries to kiss her and she pulls away all shy like saying she likes to go slow on dates...then they go out again or even a few more times and the same thing happens and the guy doesn't call back for another date, then ya, he was definitely just looking to get laid. Is that a fact? Good thing I tuned in to get the official interpretation. And there I was thinking that no kiss by the third date meant that she's a cold fish and expects a guy to wait until they're married... learn something new every day.
salparadise Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Quite honestly, what man ISN'T trying to get laid? Sooner or later that's what he's eventually going to want... some want it sooner rather than later, but isn't that part of the goal of dating? To find someone you connect with on various levels... and intimacy is part of that. Exactly! I don't know why trying to get laid is seen as an evil deed. And if women are so anti getting laid, then why are they spending 265 billion annually on cosmetics to attract men... all of whom are just trying to get laid? That's the projected global beauty products market for 2017. I'll tell you why... because women want to get laid too. But of the 3.5 billion men on the planet, they're all hot for the same 70 million men and it's quite competitive. And it just pisses them off when one of those lesser beings has the audacity to think he has a shot at it.
jessicachoi Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Exactly! I don't know why trying to get laid is seen as an evil deed. And if women are so anti getting laid, then why are they spending 265 billion annually on cosmetics to attract men... all of whom are just trying to get laid? That's the projected global beauty products market for 2017. I'll tell you why... because women want to get laid too. But of the 3.5 billion men on the planet, they're all hot for the same 70 million men and it's quite competitive. And it just pisses them off when one of those lesser beings has the audacity to think he has a shot at it. Wait, do guys seriously think we buy cosmetics and such to attract men? I think that is probably one of the last reasons we do it. What a mesed up thought. Men try to get "laid"... most women don't, it is not our goal, first need a guy who makes us interested and attracted to him, making US want to have sex with him. Also saying "getting laid" is rude or even a big turn off. Makes it sound like you think you won something, ****ed a girl and only care about your own pleasure. 1
Author irc333 Posted August 31, 2014 Author Posted August 31, 2014 Exactly! I don't know why trying to get laid is seen as an evil deed. And if women are so anti getting laid, then why are they spending 265 billion annually on cosmetics to attract men... all of whom are just trying to get laid? That's the projected global beauty products market for 2017. I'll tell you why... because women want to get laid too. But of the 3.5 billion men on the planet, they're all hot for the same 70 million men and it's quite competitive. And it just pisses them off when one of those lesser beings has the audacity to think he has a shot at it. Right, and not to forget fake boobs. lol
GemmaUK Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 Wait, do guys seriously think we buy cosmetics and such to attract men? I think that is probably one of the last reasons we do it. What a mesed up thought. Men try to get "laid"... most women don't, it is not our goal, first need a guy who makes us interested and attracted to him, making US want to have sex with him. Also saying "getting laid" is rude or even a big turn off. Makes it sound like you think you won something, ****ed a girl and only care about your own pleasure. Right, and not to forget fake boobs. lol What I find hilarious is that the male ego (that which gets crushed in a second flat) still thinks women do these things for their benefit. Some men have no clue. Women tend to have more pride in themselves is all and will work at looking good - not for anyone but themselves. Men don't tend to err this way as they have much more of a view of 'I paid for my belly!' Ewww! I'm off dating just now, I haven't dated nor flirted with anyone in er..a year and a half (aside from being chatted up by randoms) and I'm still not wanting to.... so...you would think I would get lazy with my personal appearance if that is the case, some men would think that...not the case. Funnily enough when I do have a day when I can't be bothered like today in yoga pants...man! Way more attention than I want! The grocery store was er..embarrassing at certain times.. the security guard at one of the stores incredibly so. Everyone heard him! Gaah! My personal appearance and grooming though makes me feel good - all I am doing today is cooking and housework yoga pants works for that. - sod any man! 1
salparadise Posted August 31, 2014 Posted August 31, 2014 (edited) Wait, do guys seriously think we buy cosmetics and such to attract men? Yes, of course you do! Are you seriously going to try and get us to believe it's because you want to be more attractive for women? Do actually believe that yourself? You've been drinking too much of the feminist coolaid, sugga. Men try to get "laid"... most women don't, it is not our goal, first need a guy who makes us interested and attracted to him, making US want to have sex with him. Women don't have to "try" just to get laid. Women could pick up a guy at the grocery store at 7am on a Monday if they wanted to. Women have to try and act as if they aren't interested most of the time, you know––the pure and demure routine. But when that two-percenter guy shows up she damn well better be looking her best if she wants a shot at him. And yes, it's not just about getting laid... she wants it all... his wealth, status, power and being. Sexual attraction is what she has to offer and she knows that as well as anyone. Women's fortune in the world is tied to sexual attraction, directly and indirectly. To deny that you get painted up to attract men is nothing less than delusional. Also saying "getting laid" is rude or even a big turn off. Makes it sound like you think you won something, ****ed a girl and only care about your own pleasure. Only if you look at it that way, and only if you consider getting laid something that men DO TO women, to their benefit and the woman's detriment. Not all women see it that way, thankfully. There are actually women in this world that have very positive feelings about sex. Most don't bang strangers, some do. Some bang strangers while acting demure and making the guy they're actually interested in wait and work for it. These things become a lot clearer if you don't take it all so personally, and don't get so invested in playing the demure, chastity routine... it's just human behavior. Switch to macro view. Edited August 31, 2014 by salparadise
salparadise Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 What I find hilarious is that the male ego still thinks women do these things for their benefit. No, they do it for their own benefit. Looking sexy is how women prosper, historically. Some men have no clue. Some people have no clue. You can tell who they are because they doth protest too much.
guest569 Posted September 1, 2014 Posted September 1, 2014 Cosmetics are sometimes required for us to be socially acceptable or professional looking. Sexist but true. I dont often use makeup, I might use a tiny bit on dates or parties but its so i feel good about myself, not to attract men, otherwise you wouldn't see any non-single women wear makeup would you?
Author irc333 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Posted September 1, 2014 Only if you look at it that way, and only if you consider getting laid something that men DO TO women, to their benefit and the woman's detriment. Not all women see it that way, thankfully. There are actually women in this world that have very positive feelings about sex. Right, there are some women that are very free about their sexuality when they are dating someone exclusively. They have no hang up. I noticed this with some of the free spirited, non-prudish "hippie" types. Those types tend to reserve themselves for someone special and don't begrudge men for desiring sex...they'll put on the brakes, but they don't go around saying, "How dare he want sex from me!"
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