acapelo_dp Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 You both sound a bit unstable. Fighting should never get that far as to hit or spit on another person, that you "care" about. Sounds like you guys need to work on your anger issues asap. 1
bentleychic Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Ok so after reading different opinions from people who don't know me i decided to call her... We both apologized and agreed things went a little too far. She forgives me and confessed she had wanted to call me a few times but was doing what i did to her - give me space. I learned a lesson and hopefully she did too. Thanks guys and girls for clearing my head and stopping me from going another night not calling. Hopefully you guys can learn from this experience. My initial reaction when I first read your post is that you all are better off separate. You do not sound good for each other. However, since you're giving it another go, good luck. Learn from your lessons and try to do better together. 1
bentleychic Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 BTW, if someone had spit at me, they'd probably have my hand print on their face and my boot print on their arse. HUGE sign of disrespect, IMO, to spit on someone. Of course, what she did was definitely disrespectful as well, but I wouldn't have stayed around for THAT long enough to spit on her, either. 1
irresolute Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 @ExpatInItaly - I was not talking about you my friend. I did not quote you. @irresolute - I'm sorry you feel the need to judge me and my girlfriend you can go back to stalking you're EX on Facebook now. Again, thank you to every one else. Noo...not judging you. It just seems a little unhealthy. But whatever, I hope you too will be happy. Just be careful violence and aggression doesn't escalate...This type of relationships normally don't improve and once respect is lost...well you know.ok now to stalk my ex (i dont want yyou to get mad at me good Lord what are you capable of doing to me??) Just kidding
Mopparon Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I do not know why it is seen as perfectly acceptable for a few of you all to judge me on a the spitting but ignore about the full blown punching to the chest i received that sparked my action. Seems we still live in the world where its ok for one sex to do something and not the other. No one should lay hands on a partner either - and i did not and never have. Seems it's easier to take sides here than it is to understand. This is EXACTLY why you two are better off separate, so you don't end up in an abusive relationship with her. Once someone punches you its always better to call it quits and move on, surely you've heard people say that? You deserve better, and I'm sure given time you could find someone much more compatible with you who won't react to the things you do in the extreme way that your current gf does.
bathtub-row Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 (edited) I think there's a lot of anger between the two of you that you're not seeing. For me, someone messing up my hair when I'm annoyed would just flat-out tick me off. I'm not justifying what she did but I'm just trying to point out the passive anger here and how your act of play didn't feel like play to her at all. Spitting on each other? Don't judge? I'm sorry, that's an extremely offensive thing for most people and even though you be thinking it was ok, I don't think she did. Maybe I'm wrong but I think you've got problems that have been building up over time. As far as her hitting you, she absolutely should not have done that. Sometimes women think if they hit a guy, they're not actually hurting him. Even if she hadn't inflicted pain on you, it's something she should never do because it says a lot about her lack of character and that she could likely take that further someday. This alone should be a red flag for you. Instead of expecting an apology from her, I think you should see it for what it is -- she will strike out at you physically if she gets angry enough. This is a showstopper. From what I can tell, this sounds like a very immature relationship and, worse, you push each other's button way too much. This is why people are telling you to find someone you're more compatible with. It's obvious to the readers here that the two of you are not compatible, but I know you're going to keep insisting that you are because of the good times you've had. The truth is, pushing each other's buttons like that overrides those good times. I think you need to mature a little more, and cease the spitting habit, like immediately. Btw, due to the pouting, anger, spitting, hitting, and general immaturity of this relationship, I have good news for you -- the two of you will get back together again. It won't last but I can almost guarantee she'll either cave in to your persistence, or she'll come running back because you're both attached to the drama. I know, I know -- it feels SO much like love that you can't separate the two things. Someday you'll be able to. Right now, all you want is to get her back because you think it's so real and right. Someday you'll see it differently. Edited to add: I just now read the other posts and saw the one about you calling her. Funny, I'm not at all surprised. Good luck with this relationship. If you both don't grow up fast, it's doomed. Or as someone else said, this is a match from hell. Edited August 29, 2014 by bathtub-row 1
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