RyanBeynolds Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 So, my first relationship ended a few days ago and I am still very puzzled. I don't understand exactly what happened. I do feel she treated me very poorly, as I caught her in a few lies and sometimes she would bail on me one night when she was free and then the next night she would go out to a party or something. We were basically long distance and she made many trips to come visit me, as I was taking a Summer class. We attend the same university and we both agreed things would be much better when we are in the same city. We made many future plans, such as going camping, to an amusement park, seeing a movie coming out, etc. I just recently met her parents and everything seemed perfect. Then, when she came back to the college we are at, it all seemed to change. We hung out the first day she was back, had the usual sex, talked, etc. Then I never got to see her again besides when she would let me come over late night to sleep because I wasn't moved in yet. She did tell me she would be very busy, but I didn't think it would be to the point where she was literally ignoring me. She was doing her Sorority rush, and there were times where we had planned to hang out, and RIGHT before I was leaving, she would bail on me. There were times where she said she couldn't talk all day, but she is the type to always have her phone on her 247. She seemed to be doing everything on her phone this past week, BESIDES talking to me. So when I said we really need to talk, she basically avoided it, leaving me to have to break up over a danged text message. I texted her a few times, called her and she finally picked up and was whispering in the background to somebody. I didn't really think anything of it but my friends say she is probably cheating. So about 2 hours later I texted her asking if she was done with her friends yet and we could hang out, because we planned on it this night. No response for about 30 minutes, so I call, and once again no response. Then an hour goes by and I just had enough and broke up over text, which she didn't respond to for over 2 hours even though once again she was on social media. So I think you all see how she was bad to me, but I don't understand why she would tell me all these things, continuing saying she loves me, making plans with me, meeting her parents.... and then do this to me. We recently met up and spoke but she didn't really give an explanation. I'll post some recent texts of right after we met up: Me: "I got out of shower earlier and checked my phone because I thought I was going to have a text from you" Her: "I'm sorry!! I thought you were gonna text me lol" "I wanted to very badly" "Well finally you did!" "I'm glad I saw you but I'm not sure we got anything accomplished" "Yeah me either but idk what there is to accomplish honestly" "I still feel very confused as to what happened between us" "Idk either I know it's my fault but idk" "I wish you would talk instead of just saying idk" "Well when did you lose feelings for me" "It's not that I lost feelings" "Just tell me. Nothing will make me feel more hurt than I did the past couple days." "I'm sorry I just don't want to be in a relationship anymore" "I'm not trying to get you back because I can't trust you so that would never work out but I just want to know what went wrong so it doesn't happen in the future" "Idk honestly it's just me. I just don't want to hangout as much as you do. Like nothing against you at all that's just how I am in general. I like my alone time." Could someone explain what happened... PLEASE!
BroknHrt Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I think she wants to live her college life and not be tied down to someone. I'm sorry this happened to you, but she just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you any longer. It doesn't matter the reasons because the outcome is always the same. It's over. The best thing you can do is pick yourself up and walk away no matter how hard and painful that may be.
Author RyanBeynolds Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 I agree with you. I feel I am already over her, but of course I am still thinking about her. I miss those good morning texts. I just wanted to understand why she said yes to being my girlfriend if she probably felt this way all along. She said she couldn't have said no because she truly liked me. She actually just texted me and said hey. Should I talk or avoid contact? To be brutally honest I want to keep hooking up. I KNOW I wouldn't develop feelings.
Assasda Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 So, my first relationship ended a few days ago and I am still very puzzled. I don't understand exactly what happened. I do feel she treated me very poorly, as I caught her in a few lies and sometimes she would bail on me one night when she was free and then the next night she would go out to a party or something. We were basically long distance and she made many trips to come visit me, as I was taking a Summer class. We attend the same university and we both agreed things would be much better when we are in the same city. We made many future plans, such as going camping, to an amusement park, seeing a movie coming out, etc. I just recently met her parents and everything seemed perfect. Then, when she came back to the college we are at, it all seemed to change. We hung out the first day she was back, had the usual sex, talked, etc. Then I never got to see her again besides when she would let me come over late night to sleep because I wasn't moved in yet. She did tell me she would be very busy, but I didn't think it would be to the point where she was literally ignoring me. She was doing her Sorority rush, and there were times where we had planned to hang out, and RIGHT before I was leaving, she would bail on me. There were times where she said she couldn't talk all day, but she is the type to always have her phone on her 247. She seemed to be doing everything on her phone this past week, BESIDES talking to me. So when I said we really need to talk, she basically avoided it, leaving me to have to break up over a danged text message. I texted her a few times, called her and she finally picked up and was whispering in the background to somebody. I didn't really think anything of it but my friends say she is probably cheating. So about 2 hours later I texted her asking if she was done with her friends yet and we could hang out, because we planned on it this night. No response for about 30 minutes, so I call, and once again no response. Then an hour goes by and I just had enough and broke up over text, which she didn't respond to for over 2 hours even though once again she was on social media. So I think you all see how she was bad to me, but I don't understand why she would tell me all these things, continuing saying she loves me, making plans with me, meeting her parents.... and then do this to me. We recently met up and spoke but she didn't really give an explanation. I'll post some recent texts of right after we met up: Could someone explain what happened... PLEASE! You put needy pressure on her. You were acting like youre her father. You were trying to control her. - All of these things led to her not respecting you. Then it got over
Author RyanBeynolds Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 You put needy pressure on her. You were acting like youre her father. You were trying to control her. - All of these things led to her not respecting you. Then it got over I don't see how I was acting that way at all. I made time for her. She never made time for me.
Andy_K Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 She wants to be free to have fun with other guys whilst she's at college. There's no more to it than that. She still has feelings for you, but that doesn't change the fact that she wants what she wants. And what she wants is freedom. 1
Author RyanBeynolds Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 She wants to be free to have fun with other guys whilst she's at college. There's no more to it than that. She still has feelings for you, but that doesn't change the fact that she wants what she wants. And what she wants is freedom. Thanks man. That's exactly what it is. I just wish she had said no when I asked her out. But I guess she was still confused in her feelings.
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