btvdts Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 ok I know there are many guys/girls who have been out of the dating scene for a while, but I think this question is mostly directed at girls. ok my question is when is it realistic to give up on a girl? Ok i'll give my personal example. met a girl, took her out twice, texted in between, and then she disappeared. her way of telling me she wasn't interested was by not responding to me anymore. Ok I took the hint, left her alone. here's the thing. people will say be persistent...girls like that you keep trying and not give up right away, but I'm not sold on that. Yes, I liked her...yes I would of liked to get to know her better...but if she's not even bothering replying to me anymore, how exactly is being persistent a good thing? others will say, date many girls so that when one disappears on you, you will barely notice... lol not to be an ass here, but if I could do that, I wouldn't be asking for advice here. so women, please shed some light. If you like a guy, you'd would hint it to him right? Not disappear and hope that he will continue persueing you right?
Clockwork Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Throw out the book when it comes to "playing it cool" or "not looking needy" or "playing hard to get." Life is way too short. If you like a girl/guy you tell them. You just simply hit on them when you get the chance. That is one sure-fire way to ensure you aren't in the "friend" zone. If it works, you have a girl who kisses you back and the rest is history. If she rejects you, so be it. You tried, you were open and honest and took a chance. Welcome to the real world, men get rejected. This girl however is either the type to play games or she is just simply not interested. That happens. I say move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Supernatural Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 (edited) Hi, And welcome back to the show "Answers". Iiiiiiiiii'm Supernatural, your host. This questions comes in from user "btvdts". And "btvdts" would like to know "How to pursue a girl?" Well, btvdts... 1. Get in you car *Car door shutting sound* 2. Start engine *Vroom* 3. Drive to girls place *Zzzzzoooom* 4. See girl come out of her place *Horn sound* 5. See girl see you. *Grin* 6. Drive towards girl as she runs from you *Ahhhh* 7. Keep pursing her until you catch her *People Cheering* 8. Persistence. That's 7 easy steps; to pursuing a girl! Now go get'er! Next time on the show we'll answer... "How to win her back!?" ----------------------------------- okay. Let's settle down... Everyone. btvdts has asked a serious question and he wants a serious answer. Honestly man, a girl will always let you know if she is interested most of the time, the good ones anyways. And if you're sending her texts and she doesn't return texts, and she is in fact interested, you don't want her and her game playing. That's lame. Spend your energy on girls who don't waste time and will treat you with as much respect as you treat them with. My new rule: If a girl is annoying me with simple things... She isn't worth it. (Ex. hours to text back, playing hard to get, won't call back, won't make plans and always makes me, etc) Life should be simple, easy, and fun. There will be tough times, yes. But day-to-day things like text and all that should never be a concern, and the second I feel they are... Not for me. I have been there. Ideally; drop text convos. Use text to set up times and that's all. Always call and be full of action when you hangout. Edited August 28, 2014 by Supernatural 1
Assasda Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 ok I know there are many guys/girls who have been out of the dating scene for a while, but I think this question is mostly directed at girls. ok my question is when is it realistic to give up on a girl? Ok i'll give my personal example. met a girl, took her out twice, texted in between, and then she disappeared. her way of telling me she wasn't interested was by not responding to me anymore. Ok I took the hint, left her alone. here's the thing. people will say be persistent...girls like that you keep trying and not give up right away, but I'm not sold on that. Yes, I liked her...yes I would of liked to get to know her better...but if she's not even bothering replying to me anymore, how exactly is being persistent a good thing? others will say, date many girls so that when one disappears on you, you will barely notice... lol not to be an ass here, but if I could do that, I wouldn't be asking for advice here. so women, please shed some light. If you like a guy, you'd would hint it to him right? Not disappear and hope that he will continue persueing you right? Where did you get the info that chicks like to be pursued???? They like to be approached by guys, but pursued. BTW nice little pursuit analogy by Supernatural. If someone doesnt respond to your text, they are being RUDE. Why continue messaging them? -If you continue that, the person will have less respect for you, because you have less respect for yourself. Also, just as supernatural said. Keep Texting for setting up dates. Move on man, move on
d0nnivain Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 After you fail to get a response to 2 contact attempts, preferably spaced out by more than 1 day, give up. She's pulling a disappearing act because she doesn't have the words or maturity to tell you that she's not interested.
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