GTO06 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Hey guys, So I have had a handful of OLDs this summer and I'm curious about something. Since online first dates are with someone you never met and the first meeting can be awkward at times, is trying to do a kiss on a good first online date considered appropriate or not? All the dates I've had so far from OLD have been pretty good, but not really ones that I felt like a first kiss would be a good idea and have just been ending the dates with a good old hand shake. However, this one that I just got back from, I felt more of a connection with than the others and almost felt like I should have tried, but just ended up doing the safer hand shake again in case I was wrong as I really didn't want to put her off in any way. I would like to hear some feedback on this and please note this question is coming from a 29yo guy that has never had a GF or a even first kiss at all yet, so maybe I''m over thinking this. Thanks
ThorntonMelon Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I'd go for the hug in date one, personally. Handshake is somewhere between friend zone and never speaking to them again as far as I'm concerned.
writteninreverse Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 If things go well.... First date = hug Second = hand-holding, kiss on cheek (maybe lips as well, depends on the vibe) Third = proper lips kiss (maybe full on make-out session) Fourth & beyond = depends on the person. The important thing with early dating is that you need to have progression with each date. If you kiss on one date, try and go for a more passionate kiss the next time. Stagnation or regression is the death-keel for early dating.
Author GTO06 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 I'd go for the hug in date one, personally. Handshake is somewhere between friend zone and never speaking to them again as far as I'm concerned. That's actually a great idea, that is probably what I should have done. I'm just not good on picking up on these kinds of things yet. I'll send her a message tomorrow night and let her know I had a good time and see if she is up for a 2nd date. We did both say to each other we had a great time though at the end of the date, so hopefully that is a good sign. I hope she doesn't think I wasn't interested in her because I really was. We had some great conversation for an hour and a half though, so I hope she is interested; guess I'll see soon enough. Any other thoughts on this guys?
Author GTO06 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 If things go well.... First date = hug Second = hand-holding, kiss on cheek (maybe lips as well, depends on the vibe) Third = proper lips kiss (maybe full on make-out session) Fourth & beyond = depends on the person. The important thing with early dating is that you need to have progression with each date. If you kiss on one date, try and go for a more passionate kiss the next time. Stagnation or regression is the death-keel for early dating. That sounds like a good plan, I can't believe I've been on like 7 dates from OLD and haven't thought of the hug; boy, I have a lot to learn 1
writteninreverse Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 If things go well.... First date = hug Second = hand-holding, kiss on cheek (maybe lips as well, depends on the vibe) Third = proper lips kiss (maybe full on make-out session) Fourth & beyond = depends on the person. The important thing with early dating is that you need to have progression with each date. If you kiss on one date, try and go for a more passionate kiss the next time. Stagnation or regression is the death-keel for early dating. Though I must say, I am very inexperienced as well and i'm an adult too, so take that with a grain of salt. Though I did get a full-on proper kiss on date three using this approach, so that counts for something.
Supernatural Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 (edited) Every date is different. But... From my experience... Start of 1st date Don't hug on initial meeting. Turn body slightly so she can't go in for it. Only hug if she is really wanting it.. Walking towards you with arms open. End of Date -Definitely hug no matter what, unless the date was real bad. -Go in for the kiss if date was good. -If kissing, kiss no longer than 5 seconds, or be first to pull away. 2nd date... Try to repeat. But don't kiss her upon first seeing her. Not even a hug.. make her really desire it, so once you do embrace/kiss... It's magic. Timing is everything with creating romance. And it's your job as a man to create the right scenes. One interesting thing I read once was if you're trying to see if the girl is into you near the end of the date, walk beside her and keep brushing the outside of your hand to hers... If she allows it, chance are you can go in for the kiss. If her body language curls in or she removes her hand from your general are... Don't. I also once read... You should always try to go for the kiss on date one. It gives you a clear sign of where things are at. Although... I made out with a girl 3 weeks ago on a first date... Then she disappeared. But at least I had no regrets and had a good kiss session. Edited August 28, 2014 by Supernatural
guest569 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 If things go well.... First date = hug Second = hand-holding, kiss on cheek (maybe lips as well, depends on the vibe) Third = proper lips kiss (maybe full on make-out session) Fourth & beyond = depends on the person. I would say that first date onward, ALL depend on the two people. All my dates have begun with a hug, some + peck on the cheek. I think this is fine. And a hug at the end as well. I don't really agree with the need for a steady progression as it's early days. I didn't get a kiss from a guy until about the 4th or 5th date, but I sure as hell stuck around for it. Because I liked him. I think it's the sort of thing you shouldn't put too much thought and worry into, and just do what you feel is right. It doesn't really matter in the scheme of things as long as you don't go too far and scare them with too much intimacy too soon.
d0nnivain Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 It depends on the people involved. I'm fairly tactile & tend to hug & kiss on the check a lot -- friends, family, colleagues. A good bye hug if there is a "real" connection would not be unheard of. A romantic kiss is a different story. Most 1st OLD meets aren't long enough to allow for the linger gazes & longing that usually precede a 1st real (French) kiss so they are not the norm.
Assasda Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Youre thinking about it the wrong way. Robotically. Youl shouldnt be thinking about kissing unless thats what she looks like she wants to do. - You shouldnt be thinking about anything unless that is the path that the date is going down. So you could kiss on the 1st day, hug on the 2nd, hug on the 3rd, and kiss again on the 4th. There is no formula. Get it all out of your head man. 1
sillyanswer Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Hey guys, So I have had a handful of OLDs this summer and I'm curious about something. Since online first dates are with someone you never met and the first meeting can be awkward at times, is trying to do a kiss on a good first online date considered appropriate or not? There's no rule. Sometimes it doesn't feel appropriate (or I don't want to anyway) and sometimes it feels appropriate (and sometimes I find out that I was wrong). Not all first dates are awkward. Perhaps the level of awkwardness could be a clue to whether a kiss is a good idea.
PegNosePete Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I always always always went for the hug and cheek kiss when first meeting, and again at the end of first meet. Seemed to work pretty well for me. I never got slapped, drenched in beer or an attack alarm discharged in my face. As for taking it further well it depends on the person and the connection you have. I've gone for first kisses as soon as the 2nd date and as late as 10th. You have to judge it on a case by case basis.
Author GTO06 Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 (edited) I always always always went for the hug and cheek kiss when first meeting, and again at the end of first meet. Seemed to work pretty well for me. I never got slapped, drenched in beer or an attack alarm discharged in my face. As for taking it further well it depends on the person and the connection you have. I've gone for first kisses as soon as the 2nd date and as late as 10th. You have to judge it on a case by case basis. Hmm, a hug on first meeting, huh? The only time I got that was on my first ever date, which happend to be just a few months ago actually; we meetup from OLD for the 4th of July fireworks. I was going in for a greeting handshake and she just hugged me instead; which I actually thought was kind of odd since it was the first time we met. I guess I've just never been much of a physically affectionate type of guy; but I'm trying my damndest to develop it because I want to be. Good thoughts guys, I'm going to try the hug to close my next first date and see how that goes. Thanks Edited August 29, 2014 by GTO06
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