Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Hi everyone. It's been a while since I was here. Thing were going great for me, I'm still single have no interest in dating, but I really am enjoying my single life ...it's been a year since my ex and I spilt up and I haven't thought of him at all, until today..I couldn't stop thinking about him today for some reason! I can't concentrate at all, and it makes me sick! I even tried to meditate, and couldn't do it. I thought about everything and the reason how it all ended.. It was a bad break up! I don't know where this comes from and I don't know what to do..why is it do difficult to let go...I mean, he is the nastiest person I've ever met, yet I can't let go! I don't know how to deal with that?
disparate Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Hi everyone. It's been a while since I was here. Thing were going great for me, I'm still single have no interest in dating, but I really am enjoying my single life ...it's been a year since my ex and I spilt up and I haven't thought of him at all, until today..I couldn't stop thinking about him today for some reason! I can't concentrate at all, and it makes me sick! I even tried to meditate, and couldn't do it. I thought about everything and the reason how it all ended.. It was a bad break up! I don't know where this comes from and I don't know what to do..why is it do difficult to let go...I mean, he is the nastiest person I've ever met, yet I can't let go! I don't know how to deal with that? I understand your frustration. I've been NC for close to 8 months and although things got progressively better, the past few weeks have been terrible. I have really regressed and think about my ex constantly, it's hard to feel optimistic about forgetting about my ex completely or being indifferent towards her but the only thing we can do is keep going. Sorry, I haven't offered much help but just thought I'd let you know we're in a similar situation.
Zahara Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 It will pass. There are times I get a bad taste in my mouth over an ex that I've ended with years ago. Sometimes a little trigger can bring back a little bit of the past. It will go away. 1
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 I understand your frustration. I've been NC for close to 8 months and although things got progressively better, the past few weeks have been terrible. I have really regressed and think about my ex constantly, it's hard to feel optimistic about forgetting about my ex completely or being indifferent towards her but the only thing we can do is keep going. Sorry, I haven't offered much help but just thought I'd let you know we're in a similar situation. That helps a bit, knowing that it's not me, it's just how it is...however, how do you deal with that? Everything was so great, I didn't mind seeing photos of him on some peoples fb, I didn't even pay any attantion to them, I didn't care about anything...why now?! I really don't want to go thru anger and that unbearable pain again.
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 It will pass. There are times I get a bad taste in my mouth over an ex that I've ended with years ago. Sometimes a little trigger can bring back a little bit of the past. It will go away. Thank you, Zahara
disparate Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 That helps a bit, knowing that it's not me, it's just how it is...however, how do you deal with that? Everything was so great, I didn't mind seeing photos of him on some peoples fb, I didn't even pay any attantion to them, I didn't care about anything...why now?! I really don't want to go thru anger and that unbearable pain again. Those are the exact questions I'm asking myself. I'm slightly different in that I have absolutely no way of seeing her photos or knowing anything about her. I think we just have to remain strong and keep going, hopefully it will pass. 1
Haydn Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Hey Zoe!!!! Missed you. Glad things are good and you are enjoying life. Ive been around the same timeframe as you as to the ex. Just a little bump in the road. I think you have let go already. I think about my ex in the same way. Nasty nasty but.....But it will pass my friend. Hi everyone. It's been a while since I was here. Thing were going great for me, I'm still single have no interest in dating, but I really am enjoying my single life ...it's been a year since my ex and I spilt up and I haven't thought of him at all, until today..I couldn't stop thinking about him today for some reason! I can't concentrate at all, and it makes me sick! I even tried to meditate, and couldn't do it. I thought about everything and the reason how it all ended.. It was a bad break up! I don't know where this comes from and I don't know what to do..why is it do difficult to let go...I mean, he is the nastiest person I've ever met, yet I can't let go! I don't know how to deal with that? 1
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 Those are the exact questions I'm asking myself. I'm slightly different in that I have absolutely no way of seeing her photos or knowing anything about her. I think we just have to remain strong and keep going, hopefully it will pass. I don't know..people come and go, walk in and out in our lives and we move on..I can remember feeling like this before! What makes me mad is that I was fine, better than fine...but today, since I woke up, I couldn't stop thinking about my ex..this is so frustrating, he doesn't deserve me thinking about him..but..there he is! I hope tomorrow I'll be "back to normal"
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 (edited) Hey Zoe!!!! Missed you. Glad things are good and you are enjoying life. Ive been around the same timeframe as you as to the ex. Just a little bump in the road. I think you have let go already. I think about my ex in the same way. Nasty nasty but.....But it will pass my friend. Nice to hear from you Haydn ....little bump? This is like a smack in the face? What the...?! How? ) Edited August 27, 2014 by Zoe Lilith Typo
Haydn Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Zoe, i take it back. A big hole the road then. Seems like that? Did you meet anyone who during this year? Could you prevent yourself from seeing pictures. They were a trigger for me...... Out of sight did help me a great deal. Nice to hear from you Haydn ....little bump? This is like a smack in the face? What the...?! How? )
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 Zoe, i take it back. A big hole the road then. Seems like that? Did you meet anyone who during this year? Could you prevent yourself from seeing pictures. They were a trigger for me...... Out of sight did help me a great deal. Yeah, a hole, that's how it feels like..I haven't been in a relationship yet..I love my single life..it's fun! I didn't look at the photos, I recognised that huge head of his, but I didn't look at them or go thru them..I really didn't care, I thought I was alright..but I feel like I failed today, like I am trapped and I will never let go..if I have to thru this every once in a while, it's gonna be really frustrating.
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 I even checked my skype just to see if he somehow sent a message, even tho I blocked him on every social network, I barely use Facebook and skype, I don't use at all...this was so low and pathetic of me! I really hope tomorrow will be a better day.
Haydn Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 We always retain part of our ex`s. (I think). I cut mine off as soon as i realised more damage was being done. It is a horrible learning process but if you are enjoying life then you are almost there Zoe. 1
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 We always retain part of our ex`s. (I think). I cut mine off as soon as i realised more damage was being done. It is a horrible learning process but if you are enjoying life then you are almost there Zoe. I hope you're right. I don't want to be checking skype or whatever in hope to see a message from him..I don't need this. I don't want it. I hope this is just a day, it happens and I hope it won't happen again, ever! 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 I'd say it's normal it's grief really.. First you are sad all the time then you have a few okay moments, then the okay moments get longer & more frequent and then you suddenly think u are over it as u realise u haven't been sad for a while then you get a random day where it hits again but you are def on the right track... You are healing x
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 It doesn't switch off it fades out I'd say x 1
Author Zoe Lilith Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 I'd say it's normal it's grief really.. First you are sad all the time then you have a few okay moments, then the okay moments get longer & more frequent and then you suddenly think u are over it as u realise u haven't been sad for a while then you get a random day where it hits again but you are def on the right track... You are healing x Thank you HeartbrokenNewbie, I'm wondering how is it possible? I mean, it's been over for more than a year now, how long does it grief take? I've been in relationships before, for much, much longer than this one and I have been dumped numerous times before, but I never felt like this in any other relationships..yes, I grief for a few days and move on..This one really got me, it seems.
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