Natsu21 Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Never met this woman. But she and I were talking for a few months. We got along, we had amazing chemistry. She lived 700 miles away from me. We were planning on meeting in September. But we've been fighting more than ever. This is how the fight started. She revealed to me, 4 months into us talking, that 2 years ago, she was involved with 4 different men, all who were either married or had girlfriends, and she was the other woman. She said she had changed. I wasn't too keen on getting close, but so far, I hadn't caught her in any lies. But what bugged me is that she was still very friendly to these people that she was involved with, but got REALLY upset whenever I would talk to a female friend of mine. She would always question it, but during the time she was talking to me, she had revealed she was still sexually involved with those two taken men, and it was nothing but something casual between friends, but if I do the same that isn't cool with her. Fast forward, she decides she wants to give up the guys for me(again, we haven't met yet) During this time, an incident in Florida goes down and I was framed on a domestic violence charge, but I got those charges cleared. She didn't show any support. My friends were helping me with legal issues and whatnot but she just told me that I better not end up in jail or she won't wait for me. But she would be glad to pick things up when I get out. I told her I wasn't interested in being her friend if she would leave me. She claimed it was unfair We were fighting more than ever after the incident in Florida because a lot of the the support I got were from females and she felt that they had ulterior motive and she didn't like it. Note: two months beforehand, I asked if we should call it a relationship and she said she didn't want the label. This also ticked me off, but being as we didn't meet yet, I accepted her answer. Fast forward, we were fighting more than ever because she felt like she couldn't trust me. We had planned our trip in September and she canceled it after one of our fights, saying that she was going to push it back when she felt like we were in a good place. So, I asked her "Well we've been talking for 7 months, you have a smartphone, why don't we skype so we can see each other live?" She said that I don't deserve to be skyped after all the words I said(in a fit of rage, I called her a selfish bitch) and that we will when we are in a better place. I've asked for us to skype and everytime I asked it's been some excuse. All I've gotten is pictures. Today it came to a boil. I demanded we see each other next month or I was ghost. She said I was being unfair and I blocked her. I had spent 7 months waiting and talking to her and all I got was diddly-squat. Question is, did I do the right thing? I'm not really sure. I asked friends what they would have done in this situation, and the guys and girls agree with me: if this person didn't trust me, they shouldn't be with me in the first place, otherwise, to not make excuses to not meet and move on. What do you guys think? Thank you for taking the time to read this.
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 I don't understand why you would talk to her for 7 months without meeting to start with. If she was unwilling to Skype what's the point?
Author Natsu21 Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 Btw, she, so far that I know, was honest about what she was and what she was doing.... So why did it bother me so much that she was so honest?
Author Natsu21 Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 I don't understand why you would talk to her for 7 months without meeting to start with. If she was unwilling to Skype what's the point? That's the thing...I was pissed because she pushed it back. I was willing to try something different, considering I just got out of a relationship. I don't think ANY reason other than work or family issues is a good reason. You'd think that if you like someone, you would meet them no matter what.
mammasita Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Honestly, she sounds like a tramp. Why are you wasting time on someone who probably won't be faithful to you anyway. The proof is all in your face. The other woman, not once, not twice, not thrice......FOUR TIMES? I would venture to say these are only the times she's telling you about. Do I need to go on? Ok, I will. So she gets mad when you do something that she does. um, Yeah. I'd have said hell no when she wouldn't Skype the first week much less a 7 month "relationship" and all this extra nonsense.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 Honestly, she sounds like a tramp. Why are you wasting time on someone who probably won't be faithful to you anyway. The proof is all in your face. The other woman, not once, not twice, not thrice......FOUR TIMES? I would venture to say these are only the times she's telling you about. Do I need to go on? Ok, I will. So she gets mad when you do something that she does. um, Yeah. I'd have said hell no when she wouldn't Skype the first week much less a 7 month "relationship" and all this extra nonsense. That's when the red flag went off. I appreciate the honesty but... her honesty made me think she's a very capable cheat.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 Still, it's hard for me to do this. I'm still very confused.
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