Bantosm Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 There's a woman I've been interested in. She had a bad break up and then said she needed time to heal. I've been talking to her on and off for a few months. Today I was on facebook, and she had a status update saying she's tired of being single. There was already 25 likes mostly from guys wanting to dating her. I messaged her and she said she's interested in hanging out, when would be good. The only problem is I have been working too many hours and I look terrible. Plus I got a bad haircut three days ago. This is the last week that I'll be working a ton of hours. I figure if I wait two weeks, my looks will be back to normal. Would it be better to go on a date now even though I look bad but don't have much confidence or risk waiting a few weeks?
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Go on the date now. If you think she's so shallow as to not see past a bad hair cut or being tired what's the point of dating her? 5
hellon Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Hmmm. I think waiting a week or two wouldn't affect the outcome of the date, but going on a date when you're not feeling confident might. It's really up to you, but I don't think you should feel rushed about it. 3
Gaeta Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 she had a status update saying she's tired of being single. There was already 25 likes mostly from guys wanting to dating her. In 2 weeks she will be interested in one of those dudes. Don't be vain and get her on a date. 2
pteromom Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 I would go now. Get the haircut fixed. And get plenty of sleep the night before the date. 2
slizl Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Strike while the iron is hot or she will get swooped up by someone else. On a side note, a girl who posted that on FB to get likes and compliments no doubt, probably not what I would be looking for, but I'll leave that decision to you (IE, watch out, she's nuts!). 2
Georgia2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 I would go now. If she meets you now and likes you then that means she likes you for you and not just for your looks. I've gone on dates with my Rosacea in a full flare. Some of my flare could be seen through my makeup. I didn't let my Rosacea keep me home. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 go on the date.......she isnt dating your hair...hopefully....truthfully i have not actually met a woman who has said he had really bad hair and cancelled further dates..........deb
hellon Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Guys, OP said he didn't feel confident because of lack of sleep and his bad hair cut- it's not about vanity.
hellon Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Not to mention, getting "likes" from a bunch of people on FB has nothing to do with getting dates. That's a big assumption to make, but say she does have guys lining up to ask her out- she'll probably say yes to a few of them, but being the first one up isn't necessarily to your advantage. Set a date with her now, but it doesn't have to be for tomorrow. Make it for when you're feeling good, and then she'll have something to look forward to.
Author Bantosm Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Go on the date now. If you think she's so shallow as to not see past a bad hair cut or being tired what's the point of dating her? Yeah. I know I'll have plenty of competition but it might be better odds than waiting a few weeks. 1
Author Bantosm Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Strike while the iron is hot or she will get swooped up by someone else. On a side note, a girl who posted that on FB to get likes and compliments no doubt, probably not what I would be looking for, but I'll leave that decision to you (IE, watch out, she's nuts!). Her ex cheated on her, she had a bad break up and was feeling depressed for awhile. If can get a ego boost by getting some compliments on fb, more power to her. 1
Author Bantosm Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Guys, OP said he didn't feel confident because of lack of sleep and his bad hair cut- it's not about vanity. Exactly. I notice when I'm working too many hours I tend to just stare out in space and not even realize it. A date is going to be difficult. I'm worried I'm go on mumbling about nothing. Maybe if drink coffee beforehand.
Elias33 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 On the other hand, if she likes you she will wait. And if there's competition, come as your best, only one first date.
Gloria25 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Baseball cap.... I mean, it's summer...I'm sure you can pick an outdoor event where you can get away with wearing one. Shoot, you can even take her to a bar or cafe or restaurant where you can eat outside and get away with the cap.
hellon Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Exactly. I notice when I'm working too many hours I tend to just stare out in space and not even realize it. A date is going to be difficult. I'm worried I'm go on mumbling about nothing. Maybe if drink coffee beforehand. Yep, this. I recently went on a date that I was excited about, and ended up doing exactly that. I had a lot of life stuff going on and was exhausted, and by two hours into dinner could barely focus or form a sentence. Not the first impression I was hoping to make. On the other hand, if it's right, it's right. A couple of days isn't going to change that.
HeartDesires Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Lets be real. OP wants to look and feel his best on a date...nothing wrong with that. I think it's quite okay for him to wait until he's feeling more confident. 1
ascendotum Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 Lets be real. OP wants to look and feel his best on a date...nothing wrong with that. I think it's quite okay for him to wait until he's feeling more confident. If he's the pick of her bunch it might not be too bad to wait till he's are more confident. If she just thinks 'he's not bad' but so are 10 of the other guys orbiting her, then its not so straight forward. If he holds off I think he should tell her why (minus the haircut) and let her know how he is really looking forward to going out with her,and stay in touch, so she definitely knows he's keen. These other 'FB likes' dudes will be asking her out for sure when she posted that. Depends on what state of mind she is in, how long she has been single and if she has good self esteem over being single and not rushing to be a couple again asap. I found with quite a few young women, the first one to manage to sleep with her, usually had the girl fall into a relationship with them, despite not being her ideal. Some of these guys are going to try tee up a date over the next few weeks that will involve alcohol with the theme being - boom boom boom lets go back to my room so we can do it all night and I'll make you feel right
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