a2324flier Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 I broke up with a GF I could not commit to because of feelings for my ex wife . I finally came to terms with the divorce and my gf ( ex) met a guy who is fat and ugly. She always said I had the best body and was the best lover she ever had.. She has been seeing this guy for 7 weeks and even though ,came over for coffee at my house to talk. While there she heard another woman call me on my answering maxchine which was loud enough for her to hear.and ran out of the house upset.Two days later ... after she was obviously drinking she called me for a booty call i refused because her kids were home asleep( 12 30 am ) and I felt it was wrong . I met with a friend of hers to interceed and we agreed to meet me for dinner to talk.. At that dinner sghe said she acant trust my sincerity and fears the kids will be hurt with an on again off again relationship. The next day I called her and she was sleeping .I asked her if she would prefer I never call her again she says no we will talk more the next morning . At 715 she calls to say the more I pursue her the worse chance we have of working it out. I agree to give her space. Not 45 minutes later I get an email accusing me of stalking and telling me to stop calling her or she will get the police involved. I emailed her one last time saying I will never call her again but still love her and if she wants too she can call me .I also told her I was casually dating someone but am hoping she returns to me . I go to the same gym as her and this bum and live close to her (3 blocks) I have not called her but am missing her .I am ready to commit now but think its too late ,. I am confused in the change of attitude from her.She says her therapist says I am bad for her but obviously she tells him only her side . Is this a big game or is she actually moved on I am so depressed and confused I know her kids love me as I do them . I just want to know what she really trhinks Is this hard ball or is she testing me. She tries to got to the guym at different times from me. Any opinions /advice greatly appreciated. What do you think How should I handle it . To reiterate I have not called her since I wrote that last email . Thanks !!
voituregirl Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 She asks for space, and I think it is a good idea to back off for a while and let her (and you) think about this for a week or two without calling och seeing each other. If you want her back you shouldn't date anyone else, otherwise she won't be able to trust your intentions. It is always harder to get someone back the second time, at least in terms of trust. I think silence for a while would be good, because then you also show her respect. After that you could send her flowers and tell her that you want to be with her and that you love her. Something like that. I wish you good luck!
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