failedineveryway Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Hi guys, So i've know this girl for about 3week and im wondering if she's interested in me or probably she just like my accompany, i went out with her once everything seems to be fine but i don't often text her probably a few hours of text everyday and she when to study cause of her exam is in this week. she said we could have another date soon and on this friday is her last exam, so she told me if i would like to go to a club with her and her friends, but first she said she doubt that she will be going and a few min later she text me and said she is going to the club with another guy, well this guy who is her classmate, she met earlier before she know me. but she told me that she is not really into him but more into me. so i'm not sure what should i do or should i just break off this friendship so i would feel better ? after that i replied her kinda cold and she told me if im upset and i somehow lied to her saying that oh no im not upset and after all we are just normal friend, and she didn't reply at all i guess she might went to study again. what do you guys think should i somehow break this friendship or talk things out with her ? P.S for my poor english.
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Go to the club. Bring your friends. Flirt with her & see what happens. If she pays more attention to the other guy, bow out of her life. BTW, FWIW: texting a few hours every day is a LOT of contact. 1
PegNosePete Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 She is playing stupid games by waving this other guy in your face. Unless you enjoy this kind of immature game I would break off contact with her. If you carry on, there will be much more in store.
Author failedineveryway Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 but in someways i just felt like she just likes my accompany or maybe she just want to friend zone me, and i get really upset when she said she was going with another guy. should i just break this friendship now or i should go to the club, but seeing her with another guy just make me feel upset.
Author failedineveryway Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 how should i do to break off this friendship with her ? i cant just ignored her text cause i did it once and she was like very upset when she said she was scare if i never gonna talk to her again.
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 I get the sense that you are both young. You are therefore both making missteps. I think if you show up at the club she will pay attention to you because the other guy is being friendzoned but if you can't even face the possibility that she will be with him then you shouldn't go. Have you made your intentions clear -- no texting, or BS wanna hang out messages . . . point blank call her up. Wish her well on her test. Tell her you are not going to the club where she will be throwing some other guy in your face but you do like her & would like to take her out to dinner an actual date on Saturday to celebrate the end of her exams. If you can't take the bull by the horns & be the man you are doomed to this cat & mouse game. 3
Author failedineveryway Posted August 27, 2014 Author Posted August 27, 2014 thank you for sharing with me, i guess i'll go for your advice.
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 thank you for sharing with me, i guess i'll go for your advice. I gave you two different pieces of advice: 1. Show up at the club with your buddies 2. Ask her out They are vastly different but you need to do something rather than wallow & wonder. 1
MoreCoffee Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 If you have a good time, and I mean don't look to see what she is doing out of the corner of your eye but truly enjoy yourself, she will: 1) Know you don't need her to have fun. 2) See you as independent, a big plus in most gals' eyes. Remember, if a gal is into you she will either look to ride or ruin your "good time."
Author failedineveryway Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Well I'm kinda upset when she told me that and I somehow replied her saying I'm not sad and after all we are just friend and that was the last message and after that she did not reply me until now. I'm not sure if she is interested in me or not
sid3 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Well I'm kinda upset when she told me that and I somehow replied her saying I'm not sad and after all we are just friend and that was the last message and after that she did not reply me until now. I'm not sure if she is interested in me or not Safe to assume she is not. Good news, there's millions more where she came from.
Gloria25 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I don't know, but your "relationship" seems to be like you two study partners who went out once... Looks like you're in the friendzone....
todreaminblue Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Dont lie when she asks you what si wrong.....its a mistake to lie when you are upset......you should let her know the truth.....she can not read your mind...... donnivain has given you some really solid advice ...either ask her out or go to the club....i would go for ask her out and be honest with hr from now on on how you feel about her ...if she rejects you ...you have your answer...but wondering is not going to get you anywhere....deb 1
d0nnivain Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Well I'm kinda upset when she told me that and I somehow replied her saying I'm not sad and after all we are just friend and that was the last message and after that she did not reply me until now. I'm not sure if she is interested in me or not Well now she thinks you only see her as a friend. She thinks you rejected her & now she may see if the other guy is an option. Your lack of self confidence caused you to shoot yourself in the foot. A more confident guy would have gotten in there to show her that you wanted her.
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