Need Guidance

[stan98]

So the girl ive dated for three years left for college last week. She told me before she left we will make it work, she would never leave and even cried on shoulder for hours about how scared she was that i would forget about her. She was in. Three days in she broke up with me with no explanation really. Im absolutely torn apart. I havent left bed, cant go to classes, have ate a sinlge piece of pizza in 3 days and have only slept 6 hours in 3 days. Im a wreck. I suffer from bad anxiety and depression so this has made everything so much worse and im scared im going to slip into chronic depression because im just getting worse and worse. This girl was my world. When my anxiety and depression was at its worst she was the only reason i wanted to live. I would give anything to have her back regardless of how bad she screwed me over after three years. I dont know what to do, should i text her, write her a long note, or just not do anything and wait for her to make the next move? Last summer she broke up with me saying the same thing sort of and texted me two days later saying she made the biggest mistake of her life and she was so sorry and wants me back so bad. But i dont know how long i can take it this time. Everything i look at reminds me of her. Shes all i think about. Im in a really dark place, if someone could please give me some advice id truly appreciate it

[d0nnivain]

Never make somebody else your world.

 

It's OK to grieve for your loss. We're coming up on a holiday weekend. You can wallow until Tuesday but be smart about it.

 

She's off on a new adventure. Most high school romances end when one person leaves for college. It's a transition time in life. It's more about her growing up then her rejecting you but your feelings ended up being collateral damage. Sorry. The fact that she did this to you once before is all the more reason to make it permanent this time.

 

Get treatment for your anxiety & depression. Eat something . . . even if you have to force yourself.

 

Come Tuesday, get out of bed. Go to your own classes Redecorate / rearrange your living space so you have fewer reminders of her. Box up & put away anything she gave you. Bar her from all social media. Put any digital pictures on a thumb drive & put them in the box with the other stuff. Bury the box in the attic or the back of your closet. Be active to keep your mind off her.

[lostsoul6486]

Listen, man, I know it sounds impossible right now, but you have to let her go. I'm going through the same thing with my ex right now, but I'm a little ahead of you. My ex was my world too. We did everything together and had a great relationship and I felt like the sky was falling when she broke up with me. I didn't eat. I didn't leave my room. I didn't do anything but wallow and feel sorry for myself. My grades suffered and my friends and family were worried sick about me. I went no contact with her for 5 months and throughout that time I just did things I loved. It took about two weeks of me wallowing and being miserable, but I finally took the advice everyone here gives and I started doing things I enjoy. Best decision ever. I was at what I thought was the lowest of the low (I was wrong, more on that in a second) and I had recovered and become happy again. Just when I was doing well again, she called and texted incessantly until I finally answered one night. She told me she wanted to get back together and she would do anything to regain my trust. I believed her. Worst decision ever. Long story short, I thought things were going well, but she was dating another guy behind my back. I went on vacation and when I came back he was her boyfriend. I have hit a new low. I know it hurts to be let go by someone you love so dearly, but trust me, it hurts a lot more the second time around. Don't contact her and don't answer if she contacts you. It will hurt. That is normal, but it's for the best.