Maya_x Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 I have had a FWB for almost a year now and not long ago I said I was unhappy with the situation and thought we should call it quits because it wasn't going to work for me anymore, at that point he told me he has feelings for me and doesn't want to stop seeing me. Since then we had been talking loads and he brought me back a present from his holiday, and I know he told his friends that he told me about how he feels, but we still hadn't spent any time together that wasn't just sex, making me doubt whether he meant what he said, and making me think he just said what I needed to hear to keep on sleeping with him. Weekend before last I spent the night at his and it was very lovey dovey and different to the way we used to be with eachother and we left things really well or atleast I thought we did, since then I have barely heard from him, he hasn't replied to a text but was still sending snapchats of standard chatter, and the last 3 days we haven't spoken at all. I'm so confused after him telling me he doesn't throw the word feelings around easily and has trust issues etc it all made him seem so believable but his actions just aren't backing him up at all, if you like someone you want to talk to them and spend time with them.. My friend thinks he's freaked out by his feelings and is withdrawing because of that but she's probably just trying to make me feel better. Any thoughts on what I should do? I dont want to outright ask him if he's avoiding me and make things awkward if he's just been busy and im overthinking it but I do want to know whats going on.
smackie9 Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Guess what, if you want a relationship with this guy, now is the time to act like it. Communication is key, there is no other way around it. Asking a bunch of strangers isn't going to get you any true answers just guesses. Harden up and tell him to make a decision, because you can't wait forever for him to figure things out. Be real honest with him that you don't appreciate being shut out.
Dork Vader Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Smackie is right. You told the guy you were unhappy with the situation. He tells you he has feelings for you... Now I don't know how you responded to that. But he basically put the ball in your court. If you have not shown interest beyond what things were.. He's likely going to assume you are uninterested. All that aside you need to have a conversation with him. NOT VIA TEXT!! Call or do it in person. Just tell him you have feelings for him too (if you do) and so on. If says he does too.. Then tell him actions speak louder then words. But make sure your actions have been showing interest as well. See how he responds..
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