FrostBlaze Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Just wondering if there are other people out there, that only love/loved one person their entire life? Even if they didn't end up toghether, i wanna know if it's a disease or people are like this. In my familly...it's a big issue. Aunt loved one man, he married someone else, she moved near him and stood by his side her whole life as friends(now 60). The guy and his wife allowed it...knew what she was going through. PPl wanted her, she refused everybody. Another aunt did the same, only to forcefully marry someone at 35+ years since she had to settle down, she ain't happy. My father did the same but he got to marry the one he loved after years of TRYING and being refused at first...lol. Me, i am in the shoes of my first aunt, i can't get over my one and only, she has someone else ofc . I can't like any other girl for some reason, idk what's up.
preraph Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I've said it over and over on this forum: A lot of people are raised to believe in fairy tales where you meet your predestined man or woman and that is your one and only love. I think the first time any of us fell in love, we felt that might be the case. It's hard to imagine that those intense feelings are coming from inside us, not being projected out to us by the unrequited man/woman we are pining for. We feel there is just something wrong that they do not realize we are the one for them. But we are not. They simply resemble our ideal (what little we know about them) and we don't resemble theirs. That love stays with us because it came from us, not from them. It is there for us to shine on any other person who comes our way if we choose. It's true some people are more widely lovable, just as it's true some people have a big circle of friends and some only have a couple at a time. Some people are able to love a wide variety; others are very set on the image in their head and always looking for someone to fit that. 1
Author FrostBlaze Posted August 26, 2014 Author Posted August 26, 2014 The fact that when i look for someone new it has to resemble my ex is sure not helping haha. Well no really i tried, i just can't get invested in someone else idk what's wrong with me. I tried being with someone else and i was wasting their time, because i was still thinking of my X 24/7, so i called it off. And it hasn't been a few month's it's yearz . And the first and last thing i think about each day when i wake up or go to sleep, is her. This is insanity, i think...just can't get over. I don't think like that "that they do not realize we are the one for them" lol. I realize i was not what she wanted, wich is sad. But she is what i wanted and i can't let that go. I was extremely happy when i learn of her successes and when she got her loving BF, i couldn't stop smiling for her, but i was also sad it wasn't me.
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