cuterose Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Hi..I m a 26 yrs old girl. 2 months ago I started chatting with a guy from my office and started liking each other after a few days. We confessed our love. He said we have to be independent to get married. I m doing a job which doesn't suits my qualification. He told me to change job to get the job I deserve. Also he said I m not mature enough to survive in life as I sometimes behave like a kid. He didn't proposed me yet in person. He said he will propose me wen I will change my job and wen I will make him sure that I m mature enough to become a wife. He talks to me regarding future. But he is not giving time to me,doesn't going out with me..he said he will go wen I will change my job. He says he love me but doesn't show in office and wen I say he is ignoring me..he say he is not ignoring me but trying to mk me mature. I want to chat with him after office but he doesn't reply all messages.. He says life is not just chatting. I shud not waste my time and mk my career and become mature. He always tell me that I shud do this and dat. Pls tell me whether he is serious or not for me? What shud I do to get him committed to me and also mk him to get sometime for me?
Gloria25 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Woah, woah!!! One sec...lemmie get this right...After two months you and this guy are "in love"? And, he's telling YOU that YOU are in the wrong job? How old is he BTW? While we women are usually the ones who make the big changes to accommodate men and yes, I do believe in the man being the "provider", but this guy expects you to make so many changes to your form of livelihood (putting food on your table) and he hasn't even given you a ring and a date for the wedding. This screams red flags to me. I mean, only two months and in "love"? While I understand dating someone you work with may be against regulations at some places and can cause drama, why does he want you to leave the workplace you two share? 1
Zeurich Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I feel he is behind material stuff like states , job, and so. And you are not mature enough in age of 26? How old is he 76? I cannot tell you to dump him but If I were you I would just dump him.
Author cuterose Posted August 26, 2014 Author Posted August 26, 2014 Actually we know each other from the past 1.5 yes. He told earlier also to change the job be oz I deserve much better job. But only after chatting we get to know each other better and he confessed. But he said in order to get married we must be independent. So I shud change job because I deserve much better than this due to this qualification so that if family doesn't allow..then we can be independent enough to live separate. He is 4 yrs older to me.
Author cuterose Posted August 26, 2014 Author Posted August 26, 2014 Maturity is in the sense..he wants me to become independent with a good job so that if his family doesn't allow..he can fight for me. I m actually very emotional. He told me to not just flowing in the love river but also paying attention to my career as well so that we can have future together. Now he is living alone due to his job. His parents are in different city.
Gloria25 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I'm sorry, but this still isn't making sense to me.
xxmusical Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 Two months is too soon to be talking about marriage And he doesn't go out with you? As in on dates (movies, dinner, etc)? So what have you two been doing other than just him forcing you to change jobs? The man is weird...
Assasda Posted August 27, 2014 Posted August 27, 2014 This is like a feminism nightmare. OP, you must really be a child to be controled, since you didnt post any of your respoinses to any of this. Stay controlled or emancipate yourself
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