kane30us Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I've been dating this great girl for over a month in a half. We get along really well. Lots of fun but there is no romance or passion between us. I keep waiting for that "spark" to hit me but so far nothing. We've both spoke about it and she feels the same as me. But she is more optimistic then me. She feels that spark is over rated and burns out and if two people get along and have fun then go with it. I'm kinda torn. I want to see where this goes but I also feel its not going to get any better between us. I want to look at her and feel those butterflies and I don't. Everything else is awesome. We have these long talks. I love snuggling with her. We laugh a lot. but the romance department, not so good. Again, she feels its going to get better as we get to know each other better. I'm not as optimistic. Anyone else experience this?
ap10 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 (edited) I've been dating this great girl for over a month in a half. We get along really well. Lots of fun but there is no romance or passion between us. I keep waiting for that "spark" to hit me but so far nothing. We've both spoke about it and she feels the same as me. But she is more optimistic then me. She feels that spark is over rated and burns out and if two people get along and have fun then go with it. I'm kinda torn. I want to see where this goes but I also feel its not going to get any better between us. I want to look at her and feel those butterflies and I don't. Everything else is awesome. We have these long talks. I love snuggling with her. We laugh a lot. but the romance department, not so good. Again, she feels its going to get better as we get to know each other better. I'm not as optimistic. Anyone else experience this? A month and a half is a decent amount of time to begin liking someone (6 weeks). BUT how often do you see her? Second question - Did you not feel the initial spark on the first couple dates???? Thats normally a good indicator of the early stages to come i.e. 1 months, 2 months etc You have the initial spark where you LIKE her then you want to get to know her and then you should want to TELL yourself that (yea i really do like her) its like looking for the REAL connection as the first initial spark is only an indication for 'yes i like what i see and hear so far, lets get to know her more!) If you are questioning it now then it is a possible red flag of just leading her on and wasting everyone's time. Edited August 26, 2014 by ap10
Author kane30us Posted August 26, 2014 Author Posted August 26, 2014 She has a crazy work schedule. So I see her once a week or twice a week at the most. The first date, yes. There was a spark. But, now I don't think so. Or maybe its just we are comfortable with each other. I don't lust for her (if that makes sense). Like I have in past relationships. And, I don't think that's a bad thing. Lust burns out and those past relationships were not good. I do get excited when we get to see each other. I just don't have that urge to take her in my arms and make love to her. I feel she deserves that. So I'm leaning on ending this, with hopes we could stay friends.
Zippy2000 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Im sorry you dont have the urge to rip her clothes off but for me I ve noticed in my past relationships. With some people I get this excitment. I dont call it a spark because I ve never had it. Ive met people before and theres been nothing there until maybe a few years later down the line when I see them differently. I d say give it maybe another 1 o 2 meets and if you arent feeling it to give up. The reason is you dont want to get too deep and attached where you find it harder to let go. I ve been there and where I havent though things were right I d struggle on how to end it. Good luck my friend. 1
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