Levi12345 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 (edited) It's a bit story but I feel like the details are important, sorry. Ok so, here is the story. I met a girl online 2.5 years ago, she was wonderful in every way so we exchanges numbers and texted everyday from then, all day. We soon found romance and it all started there. The issue was she lived 8hours+ away from me. After texting for around 6 months we decided we just had to meet, so we arranged to and I flew to hers and we spent a weekend together and it was magical. Bear in mind she lives with her parents and so do I. Anyway, we went on holidays and trips together whenever we could through these monthly/2 monthly meet ups and we were happy but we really wanted to be closer as you can imagine. So we moved in to a flat near where she lived for a year. At the start it was so good but towards the end I lost my job and she finished college so we were stuck doing not much for the last 2-3 months which we both found quite boring. Especially with little money. It made us fight a bit more and fights got really bad. Anyway at the end of the year lease we agreed to go to to the middle of both my family and hers and I'd start a college course and she'd get a job which is what she wanted at the time. That didn't quite happen. I'll be honest, at the end she said I should go to my parents for a week or so while she can spend some time with her family alone. I felt a bit 'thrown out' and it quite hurt me. So we had a bit of an argument about it the day we moved out and she was cleaning with her mum at the flat, and I and her dad moved stuff to their house. She phoned me up and said she can't do it and we have to break up. She seemed so adamant and sure it hurt so bad because she said she doesn't like how she is becoming with me, like she got extremely angry and said hurtful things, I did too. (when we fought) So I was heartbroken, and went home the next day. It was horrid. We started speaking again the next day and basically both acted like a couple but she said she didn't want the label. I got a bit upset and it was left. She got in contact with her friends again(they all basically ignored her for a year) She got invited out to a party and she drank. I didn't mind this too much, but we never drank apart before. I said you won't get too bad will you? We could chat at night and stuff. She agreed to that, but she just said "I'm just having a drink" but she said she would send a text in the night to make sure we was ok. Anyway needless to say she got wasted, it was horrible. I was worried all night. She text me at half past 9 (she went out at 7) all she said "all fine here" So I reply how is it? And she didn't reply for an hour. She said signal was bad and had to go to other room to talk to me which she found rude and annoying. I can see why now, but I was incredibly worried and upset. She didn't seem to care about me when she drank. Anyway we had a fight and I apparently made her cry, and her friends saw and from then on hated me seemingly. I think this was the first step in the 'actual breakup'. A day later she said she's still upset and scarred but we still chatted and stuff, but then on by few days later we were back to our couple selves. Watched films together over the internet etc it was nice. But She was always scared to go out incase I got mad (admittedly I used to be quite controlling since I was on my own in the flat as I has no family and friends near and I got jealous) I think this was the second step. We had another fight about something and she texted my mum saying she loves me to bits and I mean the world and stuff like that. We got on better and I made her a cute video slideshow thing and she loved it. She then a day after sent me a really cute card(we used to do it all the time long distance) with pictures of us everywhere saying I'm the love of her life etc. Now this is where it gets interesting. We agreed she'd come visit me and we'd fix us. I was so excited. But she would not book it every time I asked, she said prices don't change and that she needs to ask her mum to look after her granny (third step) because she is ill atm and has to do something she promised with her. Her mum couldn't get it off but she said its ok because she will just come a day later(it was Monday and she was just gonna come Tuesday) She said I'm really sorry but it's also Wednesday so I can't make it. This was a day before so I was so upset and we had a fallout. I said well what about Thursday to Thursday? She said she doesn't know because she doesn't know what's going on next week. (I feel like I should be put first if it's that important to her)but then she said granny comes first. That hurt not because I'm selfish but because she said a day earlier I come first. We still weren't right but I said: Will you talk to you mother tonight or tomorrow and sort it so it's all booked and guaranteed or not? She said no. So I replied Enough is enough I'm tired of being messed about I think we should go our separate ways. She said "ok then." Anyway we didn't talk all day and I went on her twitter to see what she was doing(stupid I know) and she seemed to be out having a laugh with her friends as usual. It hurt but the next morning I said look I'm sorry I didn't mean what I said blah blah and she basically said I'm sorry I don't want us anymore I've made my mind up. She seemed so sure. I just said ok, no problem. That's where the story ends, I've not spoken to her for 3 days from that point. I'm living in hope she will send a text to me, but it never happens. I keep checking twitter so see what she's up to and she seems fine and happy, I don't know if this is a cover up though. Probably not. She out with friends all the time now. I don't know what to do. Did she mean it? Thoughts so far: -confused as to why it's very sudden, she said some deep stuff in that card. -thinking her friends are a replacement to me. -they go to uni in a week or two (what then?) -will she find someone else fast? -is she edging to contact me or not? Is she waiting for me to contact her? Lastly: I wanted to send her a surprise card and not tell her, nothing to lovey dovey but say stuff to remind her of me in a good way, the person she fell in love with. Thanks for reading I hope you guys can give me some advice, Not stuff like "forget her and move on" because if there's a shed of chance I want to give it all I have before I give up. Thanks again guys. Edited August 26, 2014 by Levi12345
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