Lipitor11 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I went on a second date with this guy awhile back, and we were talking about relationships and what kind of girls he likes to date, etc, etc. Anyway, I made this comment how frustrating it was for me and that I just "haven't found him yet". Then, I thought to myself, that I shouldn't have said that seeing that I was a date with this guy and I was getting wined and dined. Maybe he thought that I didn't think he was the right guy for me? Was that inconsiderate? After all, it was just the second date, and I like to keep it real and not say anything crazy like he's my soulmate!
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I could have taken it either way, depends on your delivery.
Assasda Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 You sound fine. The only way the guy would be offended is if he's super insecure 2
aussietigerwolf Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 My smart ass comeback would've been "here I am" 1
Supernatural Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 My smart ass comeback would've been "here I am" Then she would be like: "No... You're just some guy buying me dinner *takes a huge gulp of wine*.. And gettin' me drunk." Then I would be like: "oh... Ya... Can I kiss you at least?" Then she would be like: "...Maybe" Then I would be like: *holds glass up* "To possibilities!" *We clink glasses* 2
Dork Vader Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 It was not really rude but it's not exactly something you want to say on dates. It can depend on how you delivered it. But still not something you want to say. I wouldn't be concerned about it. But guys can take it as you indirectly saying you are not for me. I wouldn't really care. Is he still contacting you? How did he react when you said it? If you're still interested and he's not contacting you contact him... But if things are still going well just continue on as is.
HeartDesires Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Oh gosh, Lipitor11, I kinda think that was the wrong thing to say...poor guy probably thinks you don't like him.
guest569 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I dont think so, usually on a 2nd date if i was in his shoes i probably wouldn't think anything of it, you've just started getting to know each other, and maybe he is the one
54JA Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Yeah, I don't think it was that bad. It lets him know that you are available and are looking for a relationship. I hope he took it that way.
Fondue Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 First date? Totally okay. Funny little joke, too. Second date? That can be up for many different interpretations. Including him being in that "list." I think there is a tiny chance he took it the wrong way. I believe most people would have found it to be just a cute remark.
HappyLove Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 If a guy said that to me on a date I'd think he wasn't really interested and I'm not the one for him. How would you feel if he said that to you? You say the date was a while back so I'm guessing that was the last date? If so, there's your answer. Don't beat yourself up about it though. Early dates you tend to blurt out things you normally wouldn't. It happens.
CarrieT Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I don't think it was rude. It was only a second date and while he *might* have been THE guy, that early in getting to know someone, you do not know if you have met him yet... But, as others have said, delivery would have been key.
preraph Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I agree it could be taken the wrong way. But you can make up for it by just being extra flirty and nice to him so it leaves no doubt, but don't bring that up or anything. That's if you think you might like him.
ap10 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Coming from a guys perspective, if im on a first date, i wouldn't care if a girl said that as i tend to say anything on a first date myself. I treat the girl like a mate. Second date means your interested and you took a liking for the guy. You still act similar, but if you are going to say something like that, just make sure you make it flirty/joky. Again it depends on the guy I remember on my first date with my ex, she was talking about where she lives and then i replied on the lines of something like 'so yea when im in your room then....' her reply was 'err for the record, you will never be seeing my room', but she made the eye contact and was flirting. I didn't think anything of it. 3rd date i was in her room and i was in her bed too!
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