First phone call tonight. What should I talk about?

[nyfan1992]

So I met this girl a few weeks ago at a bar, and we've hit off ever since. We text almost everyday and we made plans to go on a date when she is home from school. Everything is going well and it is very obvious we are both into each other.

 

The other night we were texting and I told her that I'd like to call her sometime to which she replied that she would prefer talking to me than texting too. We are planning on talking tonight, but am now just feeling nervous.

 

What should I talk to her about? How do I keep things from getting boring or awkward? Texting is easier because I can take my time with my responses, but on the phone I have to say the first thing that pops into my head. Does anyone have any advice?

[d0nnivain]

Don't say the 1st thing that pops into your head. It's OK to take a minute, count to 10 silently in your head & then speak.

 

Have some conversation starters written down if you think you might need them. Ask about likes -- favorite foods, songs, restaurants etc. Ask about school & career plans or even how she picked that school. Be interested in the answers & listen for natural follow ups.

[Gloria25]

Don't let it run too long...period

[Michelle ma Belle]

HALLE-F*CKING*LUJAH!! Finally a young couple interested in actually speaking over the telephone than texting all the way through their courtship.

 

What a breath of fresh air :)

 

Just relax. Ask things about her. Women love it. And if she says something that hits a chord with you, respond accordingly and VOILA! Conversation.

 

Good for you and good luck.

[Zapbasket]

ASK ABOUT HER.

 

Think of a topic you've investigated out of pure interest. A hobby or other passion. You wanted to know all the ins and outs about it, right? And each piece of information you learned inspired you to want to know more, and so you pursued thread after thread until you amassed a good bit of knowledge about the subject.

 

Think of this girl as a subject you about which you are passionately curious. Ask her questions, and listen to her answers. Use her answers to form your next question. If an experience she shares reminds you of a similar experience you had, tell her about it.

 

If she asks about you, don't just answer, "Yeah," or "Nah." (I've talked to guys where that's all I've gotten; it was like pulling teeth and I quickly lost interest.) Give her a thoughtful reply to each question, and then turn the focus back on her.

 

A conversation that flows like this quickly becomes easy and relaxing, even if it's intense. If you have a good sense of humor, don't be afraid to let that flag fly. I love when people feel they can let their goofy side show in a conversation.

 

Whatever you do, DON'T be guarded. It sucks to have to chase information out of a person. Guys are terrible at this--not all guys, but a lot of them. Just be forthcoming, honest, enjoy yourself, share some laughs, tease her a little, and if it's a good conversation, at the end THANK her for a great time and say you'd like to continue the conversation in person soon--how about Friday? (Set a date.)

 

Good luck :-)

[Superman2024]

HALLE-F*CKING*LUJAH!! Finally a young couple interested in actually speaking over the telephone than texting all the way through their courtship.

 

What a breath of fresh air :)

 

Just relax. Ask things about her. Women love it. And if she says something that hits a chord with you, respond accordingly and VOILA! Conversation.

 

Good for you and good luck.

 

 

After a few texts back and forth I always like to make a phone call. I'm always a bit nervous just before but it's always worth it because it makes a connection that texts can't. I like to write down a quick list of things we've never talked about that I can bring up just in case the conversation isn't naturally flowing.

[Assasda]

hahahaha its funny that he doesnt know what to talk about.

- OP do you have friend, if so do you talk to them?

- - if not do you have family, if so do you talk to them?

- - - If not do you ever talk to yourself about different ideas you might be interested in?

 

 

Talk to the girl about the same conversations that you, your family, or your friends may have

[Supernatural]

Don't say the 1st thing that pops into your head. It's OK to take a minute, count to 10 silently in your head & then speak

 

 

That's super awkward... My roommate does that...

 

"Hey how was your day?"

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"Good."

 

And that repeats for like 3 more questions... Then I'm like "K F*ck This I'm outta here." *logs on to LoveShack*

 

Just be normal, and don't say weird sh*t. Talk to her like you would a buddy. Be cool, calm, and tease her.

[d0nnivain]

So nyfan1992

 

How did the phone call go?

[nyfan1992]

Hey d0nnivain,

 

It went really well! We spoke for a little over than an hour and we had so much fun! We spoke very easily and naturally, and shared many laughs together. I had to end the conversation because I had to wake up early for work, but I told her I really enjoyed talking to her and we should do this again soon. She said she would definitely like that. I appreciate everyone's advice Now I suppose my next question is when should I call her again? I don't want to come off too strong but I don't to lose the momentum from last night.

[nyfan1992]

Also I forgot to mention this but she goes to school far away, but we're planning on meeting up for a football game mid-October and we will go on a date in early November when she's home on break. So although I received great advice from other posters to suggest meeting up in person to talk soon, that won't be possible until October since she's in school.

[d0nnivain]

If you can't see her again in person until she's home, wait until next week to call her. I'll cross my fingers that she calls you before that. Hopefully you will work up to Skype "dates" in the interim.

[nyfan1992]

Sounds like a good plan. Thanks for your advice and support