Grevensteiner Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Long story short, I met a girl 19yo like 2 months ago and I got friendzoned. She always meets alone with me, but: rejected a kiss like 10 times for three dates, I got just one little kiss in the mouth, after an hour of when she passionately kissed some girl, I had a hand between her legs and she didnt resist, on her boobs either, but no sex, she regularly meets with another dude and talks about him sometimes, but says its nothing serious, and now she doesnt wanna invite me to her place. I`d like to say I admitted to myself that I got friendzoned...but I would lie. She writes to me all the time, I write her back cause I think about her too often. What do I do now? Continue meeting with her and hope for the success? Stop contacting her and writing her back, completely? I tried to talked about it with her but she didnt want to.
d0nnivain Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 I'm confused. Were you touching her or the other girl? If you touched the girl you like in the way you described, you did not get friend-zoned.
marcjb Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Step out of the friendzone by ending such "friendship". There can't be just a friendship when either people involved have feelings. When she is in a relationship it will be hard on you, and it will also not be right to her future boyfriend that she keeps around a "friend" that has feelings for her. Go find someone who wants to be with you and forget about the girl that collects male friends. 3
Author Grevensteiner Posted August 25, 2014 Author Posted August 25, 2014 @d0nnivain - I was touching the girl I like. That's why I'm not sure if I should walk away.
Philosopher Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 I would end the relationship and avoid seeing her again. Instead focus on finding someone else who genuinely likes you. It sounds like this girl was never that into you in the first place, if she genuinely liked you she would have been far more receptive to your attempts to kiss her. You are extremely unlikely to get her to like you more by continuing the relationship, instead it will only lead to hurt when she starts dating other guys, which from what you say, she may already be doing so.
d0nnivain Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 @d0nnivain - I was touching the girl I like. That's why I'm not sure if I should walk away. She won't kiss you but she let you touch her boobs & between her legs? That doesn't sound sane to me. Have you ever asked the girl on a proper date or do you just keep trying to be physical with her? If you have never asked her on a date, do that before you walk away. If you have asked for a date & you have tried & failed 10 times to kiss her, perhaps walking away is the best option. 1
Author Grevensteiner Posted August 25, 2014 Author Posted August 25, 2014 Well, I succeded to kiss her finally, but having in mind how she threw herself on that girl...uh, that hurts. The worst thing is that I got pretty attached to her, I'm gonna try one last time, on a proper date, most probably fail and implement no contact the same day. Btw, because I'll probably end up with mixed signals again - is telling her about my feelings after the rejection o.k. here?
d0nnivain Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 No. Don't go declaring anything beyond I like you & want to take you on a date. If you are not another woman, have you considered that possibility that she's gay / into women & that's why she's not interested in you.
Author Grevensteiner Posted August 25, 2014 Author Posted August 25, 2014 I guess I'm just making excuses that "it was a girl, nothing serious" etc., but I begin to think I have lost my balls somewhere in the middle of this sick relationship. Now 4 days of painful waiting before our next meeting and we'll see what happenes. But I don't get it, how could she make out with someone in front of me and then text me all the time after that many rejections...Wtf?
todreaminblue Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 (edited) i have guy friends, i dont let them touch my boobs if they tried i would slap them, the look alone if they tried to even move in and touch my boobs.....would stop them dead......to me that isnt in the friendzone...and putting a hand between her legs....just no comment.....ask her out and stop mauling her.....deb Edited August 25, 2014 by todreaminblue 1
EngnimaticResponse Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 I have to agree with Enigma32 here. She's 19. She's experimenting. She's keeping you around because she likes the attention. You might be able to convince her to give you a little sometn-sometn, BUT, it will have to be with the affirmation that you understand she is not intrested in more. If she wants someing serious, it's not going to be with you. You don't Get friend-zoned. You are put there in the first 10 min.
EngnimaticResponse Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 i have guy friends, i dont let them touch my boobs if they tried i would slap them, the look alone if they tried to even move in and touch my boobs.....would stop them dead......to me that isnt in the friendzone...and putting a hand between her legs....just no comment.....ask her out and stop mauling her.....deb I'd get away with a boob-grab. No no. I would.
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