It's official, my ex and my best friend are together..I'm left high and dry

[OK_computer]

Saw them hooking up in the halls. I'm completely and utterly devastated. I don't feel like eating, or sleeping, or doing anything at all. I just want to curl up and wither away. I thought I made so much damn progress, but no. I can barely function.

 

All I want to do is go off on her and call her all the most horrible things I can muster. And tell her how much she has crushed my soul and my life. I thought I made so much progress..NC since 5 months.

 

I am so lost. I am so crushed. I did this to myself. All the mistakes I've made, they're drowning me and I can't bear it. I'm at my lowest right now I've been in weeks. Im not going back to school for a couple of days. Maybe I AM WEAK. But I just can't bear it anymore. I cant.

[elseaacych]

They're *******s.

 

No seriously, with friends like that, who needs enemies? Sounds like you're in college. Keep going to class. Go to the campus counselor to work through your feelings. If you need to drop a class, do it soon so you get a refund if your campus offers that sort of thing.

 

Block them both everywhere. Do not initiate any contact. Do not respond to any contact.

 

Do not let them ruin your life.

[OK_computer]

This is my fault. I should've never got involved with her. I should have never showed weakness and vulnerablity in the beginning. I should't have let it cycle for so many years and times. Now I'm paying so dearly. I've showed that I'm weak, that i can get hurt, that S*#t hurts me. Now I can never 'win.' I'll always be below her and them. I'm just blown away.

[CDRdelta]

As long as you think you're below her then you will be, but the fact is you're not. We all make mistakes and are all capable of being hurt. You need to change your mentality as obviously neither of them are worth your time, especially someone who calls you their friend.

[Zapbasket]

I'm so, so sorry. I read this, and my heart leaped out to you. You haven't said anything about your crap so-called "best friend," but if I were on your campus I'd punch him for you. Do not give him ONE SECOND of your consideration or time.

 

They both suck. Trust me, you are far, far better than they are, and well rid of both of them. Think of this as a purging gift from the universe, ridding your life of muck and thus clearing the space for something worthwhile. That is what is meant by "good riddance."

[Chi townD]

Okay, what's your definition of "hooking up"?

[OK_computer]

I saw them kissing on the lips as I turned the corner, they both looked at me and then looked at each other.

[d0nnivain]

They have been together for a while. You know that but now you have that awful image in your head. Sorry.

 

This is rock bottom so now you can pick yourself up & move forward.

 

You are in Medical School. I bet there are lots of hot attractive women in the nursing program. Head over to that side of the school. Seriously. You are a catch. The heck with them. Get your head in the game. You will be find if you stop wallowing. Easier said then done I know but try.

[Chi townD]

LOL! well, bet they didn't expect that to happen.

 

 

Look dude, they're cowards. Now that you know the truth, they're going to avoid you like the plague and run like the cowards and backstabbers that they are.

 

 

Should be easy to avoid them now. Which, that's in your best interest.

[OK_computer]

LOL! well, bet they didn't expect that to happen.

 

 

Look dude, they're cowards. Now that you know the truth, they're going to avoid you like the plague and run like the cowards and backstabbers that they are.

 

 

Should be easy to avoid them now. Which, that's in your best interest.

 

Thanks bro.. I just hope them avoiding me is going to make it easier for me to feel better. It's just really hard to take it in...what would you do if you were my shoes Chi?

 

I'm just trying to reach out to all those around me, in a time when I usually would crumble in.

[Chi townD]

Well, to be honest, I had to go through your old posts and refresh my memory with your story. So, let me see if I'm missing something here.

 

 

On again off again and broken up several different times. This time, she dumps you and you have no intention of getting back with her.

 

 

During this time you had to witness the following:

 

 

1. Her flirting with your Ex best friend (is this the CURRENT best friend we're talking about in this thread, because in the other, you referred to him as your Ex best friend).

 

 

2. she started to date some sloppy loser dude that fails out of his classes. Also, heard them making fun of you.

 

 

3. She threw you a bone and unblocked you to the whatsup app and viewed it as "throwing you a bone". But, you didn't take the bait and she got mad at you.

 

 

4. Kissed someone during class and flirted with every dude in the classroom, while you stood there as if you were a statue (your words, not mine).

 

 

5. She hit you with her car and you ended up on the hood of her car as she screamed at you through the windshield.

 

 

6. Now you catch her kissing your "best friend" in the hallway. They see you and then look at each other. (whatever the hell that means.)

 

 

So, is that a close assessment of your situation? Okay, with point number 6, did they separate when they saw you or still lingered close to each other? Did they look shocked when you saw them or did they giggle as if to say, "Opps! We got caught!"?

 

 

Personally, given the 6 points above, she could give a damn about you. But, your "friend" knows he screwed up. You just don't do that to your friends. So, he waiting for the other shoe to drop from you. He's probably waiting for you to blast into him, because he thinks it's coming and he knows he probably deserves it. However, he's not going to go out of his way to try and explain things to you right now, if ever. He'll wait for you to cool off and even if he does wait, he won't tell it to your face, he'd probably send it via email or just wait until you approach him about it.

 

 

But, going through your posts, I saw that I took some time to give you some advice. What positive changes did you make in your life? What steps did you take to ensure that your contact with her was as minimal as possible?

[OK_computer]

Well, to be honest, I had to go through your old posts and refresh my memory with your story. So, let me see if I'm missing something here.

 

 

On again off again and broken up several different times. This time, she dumps you and you have no intention of getting back with her.

 

 

During this time you had to witness the following:

 

 

1. Her flirting with your Ex best friend (is this the CURRENT best friend we're talking about in this thread, because in the other, you referred to him as your Ex best friend).

 

 

2. she started to date some sloppy loser dude that fails out of his classes. Also, heard them making fun of you.

 

 

3. She threw you a bone and unblocked you to the whatsup app and viewed it as "throwing you a bone". But, you didn't take the bait and she got mad at you.

 

 

4. Kissed someone during class and flirted with every dude in the classroom, while you stood there as if you were a statue (your words, not mine).

 

 

5. She hit you with her car and you ended up on the hood of her car as she screamed at you through the windshield.

 

 

6. Now you catch her kissing your "best friend" in the hallway. They see you and then look at each other. (whatever the hell that means.)

 

 

So, is that a close assessment of your situation? Okay, with point number 6, did they separate when they saw you or still lingered close to each other? Did they look shocked when you saw them or did they giggle as if to say, "Opps! We got caught!"?

 

 

Personally, given the 6 points above, she could give a damn about you. But, your "friend" knows he screwed up. You just don't do that to your friends. So, he waiting for the other shoe to drop from you. He's probably waiting for you to blast into him, because he thinks it's coming and he knows he probably deserves it. However, he's not going to go out of his way to try and explain things to you right now, if ever. He'll wait for you to cool off and even if he does wait, he won't tell it to your face, he'd probably send it via email or just wait until you approach him about it.

 

 

But, going through your posts, I saw that I took some time to give you some advice. What positive changes did you make in your life? What steps did you take to ensure that your contact with her was as minimal as possible?

 

 

Same best friend but we had made up in the meantime for awhile, as she is a attention seeking b, he tried to just tell me it's all for fun, until point 6. Also, the car hood thing was an older ex from long ago. As for them moving away, they didn't, but they seemed curious to see my reaction. I didn't show and reaction, pretended I was in a rush to get somewhere and that I didn't have time for that stuff. But deep down all the air burst out.

 

As for changes in my life, I'm still maintaining NC, defriended her off facebook and blocked her back on whats app. (As if she cares). But Im just trying to be really good of not looking her direction are anything like that. Making new friends and working out a bit, trying loose 10 lbs.

 

I can't really do anything about making NC more than that...there are times in the halls we have to see each other, but its usually one of use seeing each other 1st, at which point we look away, so it makes it easier for me. But I used to catch her staring at me in the classroom often enough as I'd glance around, but that's been stopping too...You can guess why. She doesn't Give a damn about me. Which is fine, because it ended with both of us saying "I don't give a F$#@" After that it was over, but residual feelings are lingering for me, more than for her. Nowadays even if she hears my voice, she puts her headphones on. LOL. She really hates me.

 

It's just real hard having to see her move on and all that...This semester ends in november, after that Ill barely see her, so I know I'm in the last home stretch, which is also refreshing. Until then Idk how to deal with these anger/sadness episodes when I have to learn new crap about her.

[Chi townD]

Do more, dude. On weekends, don't be on campus. Take the weekends off and go somewhere! Anywhere! If there's a music festival going on three towns over, go! Grab some camping gear and go camping over the weekend! Get some fishing in. Ask a girl out! All she can do is say no. And even if she does, there are more women in the US than there are men! More girls to ask!

 

 

At the end of the semesters, you usually get a few days off, go somewhere! Believe it or not, you can go on a trip very cheaply and still have a great time.

 

 

And maybe enough time has past where you can go out and have a good time with a girl without any expectations. No pressure. Just a promise of going out and having FUN! This think you forgot what that word means. FUN! Go find it!