mortensorchid Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Good Lord, in the last 20 minutes ... I got a text message from someone asking how it was going. I texted back "Who's this?" He said he was (name) from (website). I texted back "Oh right, I remember." He asked if I wanted to get together sometime. As we are talking weeks/months ago when we were in contact, and he was clearly bored and wanting to try to reach out to someone he was in contact with in the hopes of getting someone else, I simply texted back "I'm sorry but since our contact drifted I moved on." No response. Then the phone rang. I picked it up and I said hello, the person on the other end just said my name "(Name)". I said "Yes, I'm sorry who's this?" He said "This is (Name)." He had sent me multiple texts, called several times (at one in the morning no less). I had texted back to him after the multiple texts which I had responded to "This is not a good time, more later", eventually saying "You sound desperate, please do not contact me again." That was him who called. I said "I am not interested, thank you." He said very angrily "Why did you give me your number if you aren't interested?!" I said "You'll understand." And hung up. That all happened in the last twenty minutes. Crazy.
Author mortensorchid Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 Thank you Dork Vader, I did not know that was possible on a cell phone as of yet but good to know.
you_can_not_see_me Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 I don't think its such a big deal, sure its not pleasant either but I m sure he's going to stop contact you pretty soon. Its seems to me he just called to vent a bit of anger cause his ego was hurt. You see this behavior in younger more self conscious men who take rejections more personally.
smackie9 Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Good thing to know is, if you have no intention of getting romantically involved, don't give out your number. If it dies off, delete number, don't respond to numbers you don't recognize. Good for you for cutting off the phone call promptly. He didn't need any explanation....what a jackass.
Assasda Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 That guy is totally wacked-out lol after he yelled at you, you should have said "Since you yelled at me, I'm interested now" 2
you_can_not_see_me Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 That guy is totally wacked-out lol after he yelled at you, you should have said "Since you yelled at me, I'm interested now" obviously he won't be getting awards for politeness, but I don't think the guy is as terrible as you make it sound. Some girls cry or beg when they get shot down and some guys get angry when they get shot down, its not like this guy threatened her, he just asked her why she gave him her number in an angry tone. like I said its not a pleasant thing to deal with but its an exaggeration to start calling the guy the worst and all.
aussietigerwolf Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 I can understand her annoyance as I've had similar happen to me. The number was given because "you" are interested but after the drifts away and doesn't respond to you then you move on. Contact months or (in my case) a year later acting like nothing happened can be very annoying and even more so if the person gets angry and accuses you of never being interested in the first place. 1
GemmaUK Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 It's lack of another option on the part of the guy. I also put it down to Irritable Male Syndrome - I knew and have done for years they had a hormonal cycle but didn't realise it had a name. It's PMS for men basically without the M part but with the same kind of mood swings that some females get with PMS. Men get it daily but also it can be monthly, bi-annually and annually in a more severe way if they are affected. Plus it's hit late August so an impending Christmas alone is coming up. It's come to be pretty predictable to me having been on and off OLD for a while now. Aug/Sept and March/April (impending holidays alone) are the months when you get the grumpies coming out badly. A new moon is always an indicator too. Some folk (men and women alike) get affected. 1
Mrin Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Don't know if I believe we men have a monthly cycle but definitely under periods of stress we can get snippy. But, I will tell you Manopause is definitely real. Basically a loss of testosterone which results in anxiety and lack of self confidence. Usually hits in the late 40's and early 50's. I see it with coworkers - you know, when you wake up to 700 emails of some dude freaking out about the status of this and the follow up of that. I usually read them out loud in a "Leave Brittany Alone" voice for the full effect.
smackie9 Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 It's lack of another option on the part of the guy. I also put it down to Irritable Male Syndrome - I knew and have done for years they had a hormonal cycle but didn't realise it had a name. It's PMS for men basically without the M part but with the same kind of mood swings that some females get with PMS. Men get it daily but also it can be monthly, bi-annually and annually in a more severe way if they are affected. Isn't that what they call "Blue balls"? lol
Airborne Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Was it the same guy? I couldn't tell for sure. You seem to have this move where you never know who anyone is. I've noticed it in other threads too. Talk about emasculating. No wonder these guys get irritated with you. I'm horrible with names but I put people in contacts with a small note to give me some idea.
Author mortensorchid Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 Yes it was the same guy. There are times that I would start texting with someone from a website, and the communication died eventually. Months / weeks later they would contact out of the blue when I had erased their numbers from my phone so that's why I forget the person's name or what they are about. Wouldn't you?
preraph Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Good Lord, in the last 20 minutes ... I got a text message from someone asking how it was going. I texted back "Who's this?" He said he was (name) from (website). I texted back "Oh right, I remember." He asked if I wanted to get together sometime. As we are talking weeks/months ago when we were in contact, and he was clearly bored and wanting to try to reach out to someone he was in contact with in the hopes of getting someone else, I simply texted back "I'm sorry but since our contact drifted I moved on." No response. Then the phone rang. I picked it up and I said hello, the person on the other end just said my name "(Name)". I said "Yes, I'm sorry who's this?" He said "This is (Name)." He had sent me multiple texts, called several times (at one in the morning no less). I had texted back to him after the multiple texts which I had responded to "This is not a good time, more later", eventually saying "You sound desperate, please do not contact me again." That was him who called. I said "I am not interested, thank you." He said very angrily "Why did you give me your number if you aren't interested?!" I said "You'll understand." And hung up. That all happened in the last twenty minutes. Crazy. Well, you know when they are doing random things like this, they're just calling/texting a million girls hoping for a hookup. 2
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