Gallaxia Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 So we've been in this fwb thing for just about a year now. We've gone through our ups and downs together (trying to figure this thing out) and our "whatever-this-is" has deepened some. Lately I've noticed (because it's happened 3x now) that whenever he's had a bad day, or needs someone to talk to or to take the edge off, I'm the first person he asks to come over. We hang out, talk, eat, drink and end up enjoying our evening. The other day he was so over the thing that made him so upset but by the end of the night, we were both laughing crying being silly at things. I'm really glad I can lift his spirits- but is this normal? To me, this is what friends do. But... while fwb'g? What do you make of this?
Gaeta Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 To me there is a difference between a fwb and a F-buddy. What you are experiencing is the Friend in fwb. That is all.
Author Gallaxia Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 Hey I'm not complaining. We get a long great. It's just this is the first time I'm experiencing this so it threw me for a loop. I guess I was more used to limited contact.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 So we've been in this fwb thing for just about a year now. We've gone through our ups and downs together (trying to figure this thing out) and our "whatever-this-is" has deepened some. Lately I've noticed (because it's happened 3x now) that whenever he's had a bad day, or needs someone to talk to or to take the edge off, I'm the first person he asks to come over. We hang out, talk, eat, drink and end up enjoying our evening. The other day he was so over the thing that made him so upset but by the end of the night, we were both laughing crying being silly at things. I'm really glad I can lift his spirits- but is this normal? To me, this is what friends do. But... while fwb'g? What do you make of this? You're becoming friends. Maybe more. Clearly the dynamic is shifting and you both have to re-evaluate what each of you are seeking.
you_can_not_see_me Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Relationships of any kind never remain static either you become closer or drift apart with time. There is no avoiding this. 1
Author Gallaxia Posted August 25, 2014 Author Posted August 25, 2014 You're becoming friends. Maybe more. Clearly the dynamic is shifting and you both have to re-evaluate what each of you are seeking. You're right about that. We've bonded no doubt about that... so I could consider more BUT(another) guy with potential just asked me out with full intent of a relationship... so this could get tricky.
smackie9 Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 IMO FWB should be short term like a few months not for a year or more. I agree the dynamics have changed. If you see a potential relationship then bring it to the table and see what he says. If he doesn't agree to take it to the next level, say your goodbyes. I wouldn't mention the other dude.....it is none of his business who you decide to start dating.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Yes it's normal, especially after a year...you are still FWB.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 You're right about that. We've bonded no doubt about that... so I could consider more BUT(another) guy with potential just asked me out with full intent of a relationship... so this could get tricky. There is no "tricky." Don't be a whore. If the new guy expects an exclusive relationship, don't try stringing him along so you can get both.
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