Author Lingo1 Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 Need little help anyone here feeling a little urge to text her i am resisting so bad right now
tornforever Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 hello, One thing i learn't about breaking no contact is that you open yourself up for more daggers, put a shield up buddy i honestly wish i did, when you contact them you sit in limbo, when my ex cheated i sat in limbo for months because we kept contacting each-other trying to sort things out or thinking it is possible to repair, although sometimes i still feel like ****/guilty i wish i found these forums before not after all the drama, everyone here is supportive and you can learn alot here, i hope this helped
Author Lingo1 Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 hello, One thing i learn't about breaking no contact is that you open yourself up for more daggers, put a shield up buddy i honestly wish i did, when you contact them you sit in limbo, when my ex cheated i sat in limbo for months because we kept contacting each-other trying to sort things out or thinking it is possible to repair, although sometimes i still feel like ****/guilty i wish i found these forums before not after all the drama, everyone here is supportive and you can learn alot here, i hope this helped Thanks man well i didnt text her i held out i will keep posted on these forums everytime i get the urge to
Author Lingo1 Posted August 21, 2014 Author Posted August 21, 2014 Well so far so good i have been talking to a girl ,but right now as i am typing this i am crying ( i know men arent suppose to shed a tear) but its so much pain because i never though that this would happen to ous and this is the only way for me 2 move foward which i am doing . I am still in NC i have been tempted but i have been doing great by not texting or calling , and even checking her on social media just need someone to talk to
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Author Lingo1 Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 Ok well since summer has begun i have messed up really bad my girlfriend dumped me in May because of a couple of reason such as anger,telling her i would like to see her in certain types of clothes, and not being there for her. Well she started talking her bestfriend ex( her bestfriend dated him when they were little 7th grade ) .So now says she wants me to change ( fix my temper,anger and etc) so i told myself i will fix these problems and come back to see how things go but how can if there is someone else she is talking to possible even dating and she just doesnt want to tell me ? Its been 2 months since we broke up we spoke here and a there i begged and stuff to get her back she didnt move seem like she cared but then when i started to change she started to say "i miss you "i mean the the other boy knows about me so its like is he a rebound? Is she just filling the hole that i messed up at ? She told my friends hes better then me, and when my friends ask can u give me a second chance she says yes i will but then she changes the decision to "idk" i am wondering is confused about it?. For example i am taking anger management classes so i told her i have to go upstate for a while i may not have my phone she told me " dont do this , i am going miss you " i told her "this is the only way for me to atleast try to get you back " she started crying and now idk what to do or think i mean i am doing no contact until she hits me up i just started the other day so i just wanna know these questions (Her friends tell me to move on) (She told me move on because she happy but then does this so its like huh? what to do ?) And please easy with the harsh comments i was on another website earlier and people were just making me feel worst about myself 1. Is he a rebound? 2.Can i get her back? 3.Will NC atleast make her miss me? Update!!!!!!! ell i have been coping well i am surprised how well i have been doing , but the other she texted me and said " leave me alone tell your friends stop texting me i am happy leave me alone " ( i didnt know what was going on at all) I replied: What are u talking about i am not even bothered by u what are u talking my friend ? who hit u up She Replied: i though i could be your friend but clearly i cant sorry i will be MIA for a while take care of yourself i am happy I replied: Aww ok??( really doesnt bother me lol ive moved on lol) you take care too i mean idk why they hit u up i told them not too and i am happy for u I have no clue why shes mad at me like i told them to hit her up when i wasnt even thinking about her for 1week lol. I was literally sleeping when they texted her , but at the end of the day it shows u that the girl u though u loved and that she loved you really was fake because if u really loved someone u would have stayed to work things out but instead of u move on to a more "happier phase" and i found it funny because before i did NC she we would talk a little i would ask what u doing today she would say " i went to his house and we hung out etc etc" remind u the boy left already ( he goes to college upstate and he plays football)so whos house are u going by a imaginary friend??? lmaooo but i am happy surprising i already deleted his completely from my life when she looks stupid i will be long gone and wont want her back anyone got advice? or statements? I even surprised i am healing so fast and well
Chi townD Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Dude, you bought into a breadcrumb. No one was talking to her, she wanted YOU to talk to her. Believe me, if she thought you were being all weird and stalkerish, the cops would have been at your door. She just wanted to inform you that she will be MIA for a while. Then, she wanted you to ASK why she's going MIA, or for you to even look into it. She wants to tell you something. But, I'M TELLING YOU RIGHT NOW THAT IT ISN'T GOOD! SO, DO NOT LOOK INTO IT!!!! LET IT GO!!! Move on with your life.
Author Lingo1 Posted August 25, 2014 Author Posted August 25, 2014 Dude, you bought into a breadcrumb. No one was talking to her, she wanted YOU to talk to her. Believe me, if she thought you were being all weird and stalkerish, the cops would have been at your door. She just wanted to inform you that she will be MIA for a while. Then, she wanted you to ASK why she's going MIA, or for you to even look into it. She wants to tell you something. But, I'M TELLING YOU RIGHT NOW THAT IT ISN'T GOOD! SO, DO NOT LOOK INTO IT!!!! LET IT GO!!! Move on with your life. Thank u and i have i didnt even ask why she was going MIA i didnt even care she was lmaoo right now i am happy very happy && and i have let go since 1 week ago
Author Lingo1 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 (edited) lmaoo she called me ignored the first time then she called again the next day so my cousin answered the phone she said can she speak to me my cousin told her didnt u tell him to move on why are u still talking to him or wanting to speak to him so my cousins gave me phone Me: Yes Ex: hi how are u Me:Fine? Ex:Good to hear u been good? Me:what do u need ? Ex:Nothing? Me:what is it? thats only time u call Ex: Well the boy asked me out today Me: o really ok what does that have to do with me :laugh: Ex: i am scared i dont want to rush thing and i am scared of getting hurt Me: i never hurt u the clothes situation , and calling u stupid (during argument people say anything their mad) so dont say i hurt u u are the one that decided to leave me i wanted to work things out sorry but its your problem now date him if your like its your choice u take ur chance Ex:ok well i call him muckin(she use to call me that) and hes really special Me: ok????i am not getting jealous if u thats what ur trying to do i am moving on like u said well i am busy :laugh: ttyl Ex:i think i am going say yes Me: ok but i still have to go though.. bye lol Ex:Bye :laugh::laugh: idk what she was doing but it didnt hurt me or made me feel any type of way me personally u shouldnt have to doubt the person u want to date if u doubt someone u dating then it wasnt meant to be but apart from that i am feeling great! any replies? idk if she believe telling me that he asked her out that i would cry or beg or something but it really didnt Edited August 28, 2014 by Lingo1
Chi townD Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Okay, you've been here long enough. Let's see how much you learned. You tell me exactly what you think is going on here.
Author Lingo1 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Okay, you've been here long enough. Let's see how much you learned. You tell me exactly what you think is going on here. Let me take a guess she either saying these things to get me jealous or she is just trying to have her cake and eat it because why would u call me to tell me he asked u out :laugh: to bad i am not falling for it i am long gone
Chi townD Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Let me take a guess she either saying these things to get me jealous or she is just trying to have her cake and eat it because why would u call me to tell me he asked u out :laugh: to bad i am not falling for it i am long gone Yep! Pretty much! She wanted a reaction out of you. She wanted you to get upset and tell her NO! She was looking for an ego boost and see if you'd "fight for her". And she wanted to make you jealous. To prove to you (actually, more to herself) that other people find her desirable. I thought she was going MIA? The thing is, she wants you to fight for her. To put her back on the pedestal you had her on. She said, "I'm going MIA for a while." She WANTED to hear, "NO! Please! I have to have you in my life in some way, shape or form!" She didn't get it. She said, " So, douche rocket asked me out and I'm thinking of saying yes." She WANTED to hear, " NO WAY! You're MY woman! Don't you even dare think about doing that!" She didn't hear that. Now, would you PLEASE go for a strict NC this time?
Author Lingo1 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Yep! Pretty much! She wanted a reaction out of you. She wanted you to get upset and tell her NO! She was looking for an ego boost and see if you'd "fight for her". And she wanted to make you jealous. To prove to you (actually, more to herself) that other people find her desirable. I thought she was going MIA? The thing is, she wants you to fight for her. To put her back on the pedestal you had her on. She said, "I'm going MIA for a while." She WANTED to hear, "NO! Please! I have to have you in my life in some way, shape or form!" She didn't get it. She said, " So, douche rocket asked me out and I'm thinking of saying yes." She WANTED to hear, " NO WAY! You're MY woman! Don't you even dare think about doing that!" She didn't hear that. Now, would you PLEASE go for a strict NC this time? U put the nail in the coffine and yes strict NC funny because i told my cousin i dont want the phone it was like my cousin happen to have it and forced it onto me so i said ok i will just see wtf she wants but i already told my cousin if she has my phone and she calls dont answer Funniest part is i knew what she was doing even when she was talking she even asked " Why do u sound so happy":laugh::laugh: i said am i suppose to be sad?? My days of feeling sad,chasing,or missing you are gone i tired to get u back and u left me here looking stupid so never again will i chase you or try to date you again so she can go somewhere with that lmaooo . I am a changed person ever since these anger management classes it showed me not to get anger over something that isnt mine and that not everything can work out the way u want it so what she was trying to do was pure bs i wasnt falling for it period She said she was MIA IDK how she ended up calling me 4 days later :laugh: i guess she missed me o well i am moving foward not backwards like she told me
Author Lingo1 Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 Thank you everyone well its been about 5months we spoke a little she fed me some false hope idc as we spoke when we calls i ignore it we havent spoken in about 3 weeks or so . she still trying to get me jealous through ig but i am happy with the new girl i am building a relationship( i am taking it slow) she knows what i have been through and we are really clicking well THANKS CHI TOWN REALLY THANK YOU MAN i am feeling better then ever .I have been going to the gym,better in school, and just told this girl i liked that i like her and we are talking every day going to see where it goes .There was a time she told her mother that i believed she hated me because i found out the boy was at my ex girlfriend crib alone ( i never said he mom hates me i just told her that crazy how mommy let him in and he was home but i didnt care ) she me and her mom spoke about it we are good set at each other funny when i brought up that the boy is my ex girlfriend boyfriend her mother said thats her friend but hi idc i love my life the way it is its been doing wayyy better ?! THANKS EVERYONE!
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