qwerasdf Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 (edited) Just a quick note - we're in mid 20s - we're both 26. We attended the same uni and that's how we met. She's out of uni now, I'm in my last year. So... My ex broke up with me almost a full year ago. It was messy. She was depressed and I guess I didn't realize how serious her depression was. She didn't talk about it, I didn't insist. Either way, she called it off after three years. The breakup left me unable to cope. I couldn't focus on my exams, I was miserable and unable to get my sh.t together. After a month of messy NC, it was time to go back to our classes and I'd see her again. It was f*cking with my head because she was acting like we were still together - sitting next to me in classes, using my notes, inviting me for dinner after class and even eating fries off my plate. It was breaking my heart. I tried talking to her about us but it never worked. She said she wanted a clean slate in her life, that life was unbearable to her as it was. Then we didn't talk for a while again... then I couldn't resist contacting her. So we started seeing each other again, but it was just making me feel more miserable to hear her talk about future plans that didn't involve me. So I told her that I couldn't do this anymore and that was the last time I spoke to her... this was in April. I still thought of her frequently, but I kept myself busy, kept meeting new people through new hobbies and such. In July, I felt ready to return her stuff. I arrived at the place where we agreed to meet, I was courteous and all. We chatted a bit and she decided to introduce a "friend" into the story - it was forced and intentionally ambiguous; it was clearly her trying to make a point. As life would like it, my new work environment made me a work colleague with her best friend. We've always been on friendly terms, but now that we work together, we communicate more. This girl mentions my ex to me a lot, I don't know why. But it's really not helping. I realized that I'm thinking of my ex again and that I still miss her. I'm contemplating contacting her because the recent actions of her and her best friend kind of seem to me like she might miss me too and that she might have been trying to provoke a reaction by mentioning this ambiguous "friend" when we last spoke. I don't know. I wish I could talk to her on completely honest terms about it. I really cared for her a lot and I can't help thinking that she cares for me more than she'd like, still. I could be wrong, of course. But I can't help but wonder. Edited August 24, 2014 by qwerasdf
Reels Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 When you had told her last time that you like her so much?
Author qwerasdf Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 About 5 months ago. When we spoke then, she said that she no longer wanted a "romantic relationship".
Mary Oak Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 What signs has she given you that she cares for you more than a friend?
ThorntonMelon Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Im a little confused what you're wondering about. She doesn't want to be with you, you're rationalizing the depression being the reason she doesn't want you, but she just doesn't. For whatever the reason. If she did, you'd know. Tell your work colleague you don't wish to speak of your ex anymore, if it continues, stay away from her altogether. And keep doing what you're doing, living life well and enjoying your world.
Mary Oak Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Yeah I didn't see the confusion either. I was thinking maybe she is doing something you have not mentioned to indicate she is interested.
Reels Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 About 5 months ago. When we spoke then, she said that she no longer wanted a "romantic relationship". And that was the end. You cannot expect anything then.
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