People who end long-term relationships and wind up married within 6 months

[Woggle]

Some men who have been around a bit tend to have sixth sense on whether or not they are being used as a prop and any smart man wants nothing to do with that. It is one of the worst positions a man can be in.

[smackie9]

This!

I'm kind of on the fence here. If I was with someone for years, have everything commitment related except the right, I don't see why I would worry about getting married.

On the other hand, why would you stay with someone for years, have everything commitment related and still be stuck up on not getting married...

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Been with my guy for almost 25 years....we are not married. Never wanted to get married...we are happy and still together.

[hotpotato]

Been with my guy for almost 25 years....we are not married. Never wanted to get married...we are happy and still together.

 

That's you. A lot of women want to get married.

A lot of men will say they don't want to get married, date that woman for 5-15 years, then immediately turn around and marry someone else.

[smackie9]

That's you. A lot of women want to get married.

A lot of men will say they don't want to get married, date that woman for 5-15 years, then immediately turn around and marry someone else.

 

Women need to harden up then and leave the guy for someone else instead of b itchin about it.

[smackie9]

The honeymoon or lust stage of a relationship is probably the reason why so many up and get married in 6 months. This is the stage where they are so jacked up on dopamine that they feel they want marriage and kids, which typical. It's natures way to assure pair bonding. But many divorce soon after because this stage wears off after about 6 months to a year and a half. Hollywood stars are living proof of that lol.

[hotpotato]

Women need to harden up then and leave the guy for someone else instead of b itchin about it.

 

IA, and that has and always will be my recommendation.

 

I don't think she should even bish about it. If he doesn't want to marry her, she should just leave. Don't even bother pressuring him. Take the hint.

[Absinthe]

Interesting replies to my OP.

 

This sort of happened with my parents. They were with other people for a long time, my dad wanted to get engaged, then these relationships ended. Shortly thereafter, they met, and got engaged within 3 months. They had a long engagement (2 years) and have been married 28 years.

 

They have almost divorced twice, and I think there's an unhealthy bout of co-dependency going on (my mum is...difficult...and my dad's a massive pushover) but hey. Not my relationship, though I am a product of it.