ColeTrain Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 (edited) I will try to keep this as short as possible. So right now I know this girl who is from Germany that is studying abroad for 7 months. We have known each other for 2months but never actually went on a 1on1 date until recently. Its basically been me, her and my sister. This girl is really close with my family as we have basically helped her tour our country. I am a student and living with my family as I have tuition costs and need all the savings I can get. I recently brought up the idea of her and I going to a dinner theatre together. She was more excited to go than I expected. So I looked up everything and planned it out and asked her if she was still interested. Of course she was and she even said she can't wait for it. So I book the night and drive her to the event. We had an amazing time! Basically it went way better than I expected and was an unforgettable night. I never really used the word "date" to describe the night. It was basically her and I just going out for a fun time. Some key points of the night: -The couple sitting beside us seemed more awkward than we did which was good. -On this night she was the happiest I have seen her. Laughing and being engaged with the conversation. -She brought up this family she is staying with that the husband is from my country, and the wife is from Germany. They met when he was studying abroad in Germany and married. I couldn't help but think about how relevant this was to us. -During a romantic song being played by the actors they put two spotlights on us and sang to us as if we were dating. -The stage performers said to the ladies in the crowd to applaud the good looking men in the crowd for looking so good and she clapped. This made her and I blush a little. -She even brought up this other guy that asked her out and told me that she wasn't interested in him. -We shared a few drinks back and forth. -The whole scene was set to be romantic even though neither of us had actually called it a "date". -Afterwards we went to a bar and had a drink. We didn't stay long because the atmosphere was not right. I could tell she was trying to make the best of it, but even with a less than satisfactory ending it was still really fun. -We never had any physical contact. No holding hands or anything. I really want to have another night like the one we just had but the night was so perfect it would be almost impossible to match it. Also I don't want to take things to slow or too fast. I feel like having a lasting relationship of more than friends is a possibility. I just really don't want to ruin what we have. I try to look into her eyes briefly but she rarely looks back. When she does, she smiles and looks away. She is pretty shy, and so am I. But I am horrible at reading whether or not people like me. Usually I over exaggerate the small things, and under think the big ones. I feel like I need to have nights out planned thoroughly before I let her know otherwise she won't know if she wants to do it. Going to a bar isn't really our style, and a restaurant seems like it will not be able to compete with my previous night out with her. Also I think some physical contact would help move things at a good pace during a date. I need second opinions on what is above as I am not really sure on if she does these things because we are good friends or if she actually has an interest in me. The fact she isn't going to be with me for more than 7 months is also something I'm not sure about. Like maybe she is willing to do an short term relationship or trying to stay friends to avoid loss. Edited August 24, 2014 by ColeTrain
Assasda Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Hopefully you didnt seem like her brother on the date. There are subtle cues you can do, to not be so platonic. At this juncture I dont think you have to have anything planned out. Its wasting too much energy for someone that youre not even romantically involved with. Dont even think that you have to compete with different dates. A simple dinner can be just as good. I know you said that there is no physical contact, but does she touch you at anytime? hopefully yes. If you want physical contact try bumping her sometime playfully, or pinky promising about something, it can break that barrier. Please, please dont verbalize your feelings to her
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