Lacey87 Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 So I let my mother 'break up' with the fictional boyfriend she had been loving since 2008 (not yet fictional, but he didn't want to be with her) and writing to (and that time it was me with a fake email) for one year every single day. I'm proud of myself because this was one of my biggest fears and I was terrified and I eventually made it. But now everything is spiraling downwards: she is begging me to tell her he will come back, she doesn't want to go out and she's clinging to the hope he will come back eventually because otherwise she 'can't live' and will kill herself because she has no hope to build a life again. She is 60 and has been married for 35 years in a really messed up marriage where she and my dad would live constantly together (and I'm talking about 24/7) and she was never alone. Than four years ago they divorced and she felt so lonely and grasped to the hope of being with this person... She doesn't work and hasn't many friends and she's not the kind of person that I can easily push to making new friends or starting a hobby..: What can I do? I am currently sleeping with her (she wakes up crying, but it's been just a couple of days since I told her) and I'm so afraid that the shock isn't over, that her hopes are still intact and that things will get worse. I'm not strong enough to tell her repeatedly that person won't come back, and med school is starting again in days and I'll have to take my classes and work in the lab and she'll be alone at least in the mornings...I'm so scared.
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Can you get her into therapy? I'd also remind her she survived the demise of her marriage so she will survive this.
Author Lacey87 Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 Can you get her into therapy? I'd also remind her she survived the demise of her marriage so she will survive this. I wish I could I'm into therapy and it helped me heaps so she even knows the benefits...she just doesn't want to. Yeah, I've already told her that when dad left we were completely alone and didn't know how to do anything, now it's different... She answered me she had hope, then, to eventually end in a relationship with that man, and now she knows it's not gonna happen.
CC12 Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 (edited) Sorry, I'm confused. Would you mind clarifying something? So I let my mother 'break up' with the fictional boyfriend she had been loving since 2008 (not yet fictional, but he didn't want to be with her) and writing to (and that time it was me with a fake email) for one year every single day. What do you mean by the bolded part? Because it sounds like you catfished your own mother. Did you catfish your own mother? Why would you do that? Oh, I just read your other thread, and it seems that you did trick someone into believing many, many lies. Not sure why you make things up, but you should get some help with your severe mental issues. Edited August 25, 2014 by CC12
Author Lacey87 Posted August 25, 2014 Author Posted August 25, 2014 I've already said I'm in therapy, and my mother at that time told me she would have killed herself if she couldn't be with that man. So I made things up. I'm sorry about what I've done but I didn't know what else to do, and I'm ashamed because I've been so weak. I'm already seeking help, as I previously said. Anyways, I know this might be shocking for you, and I know that by exposing myself in a forum I have to deal with what people will think of me or tell me, I really wish you could understand I was desperate and spiraling down in a pit of anxiety disorder and self injury. I meant no harm.
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