My story for you all

[rdaya0]

Whats up guys. Im 25. Me and my girlfriend went out for about 6-7 years. The last 2 was rocky because of my stupid mistakes. Through out the relationship i had a problem with talking to other girls or other girls trying to mess up our relationship, you can say im pretty good looking. I also got into a wrong group of friends who always wanted to go party and find girls who are down to bang, got involved with selling drugs and gambling. While all still with her, shes a very mature girl who has a good job and is trying to pursue hair/make up for a career. She wanted a break in june 2013 i couldn't accept it and acted needy tried to win her back and bug her alot, she almost issued a restriction on me. I felt crazy ans didn't know what to do. Left her alone as best i could, we started to miss each other and ended up tryimg again December 2013 things were going good owning ip to my mistakes telling her ill change for good. We got back to hanging out doin alot of things and having sex. I also had a problem with buying and selling cars. Made profits off 3 cars within a month. Last car i sold tho took me while and i loed to her about the first buyer said he handed me a deposit but didnt end up. Trust was huge and crucial at this point since we're not "official" again yet. She wanted a break again and after 3 weeks is now talking to her cousins good friend in Vancouver who was here in my city for a wedding. She even visited him for august 2014 long weekend. Last text she told me i destroyed the trust again and shes done moving on and she started talking to him after i lied to her about car. Knowing me i already started talking to girls when she said she wanted a break. My ex posted pics on instagram she flew to Vancouver to hang out with her cousin and this guy, she didnt post anything of them hugging or anything so i post a pic of the current girl im talking too and my ex posts a pic of the guy then deletes all of our pics together and blocks me on instagram. Did she still have feelings for me? Did she get hurt? Is this guy a rebound since hes long distance? Did i make things worst by posting a pic? Ive been thru this love **** before it was crappu the first big break up but im stronger now from experiemce and i know she is too. Did i finally ruin things with her? Thoughts would be nice, no contact is easy for me since ive gone thru this road before but i love her still andcare about her alot, should i stick to no contact move on or fight for her from this gay boy in Vancouver?

[Shields boy]

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

 

Yeah mate, you have probably hurt her. She is now playing a game and getting back at you.

 

I would back off and give her space if I was you. Move on and you never know what will happen further down the line.

 

Maybe contact her in 4 months after the dust has settled and your thinking more clearly?

[rdaya0]

She probably likes the guy but there is no way she loves him for knowing him for only a montb. Thanks mate I'll wait it out for awhile

[Mythodea]

A piece of advice about her new guy:

 

DO NOT react to him. And I mean, DO NOT. The more you try to tell her how wrong he is for her and how much better you are for her, the more you push her into his arms. If people keep telling her how it's not going to work, the more she will want to make it work.

 

The best thing you can do is pretend like he doesn't exist. Don't mention him. Don't bring him up in coversations. Nothing. Act unbiased by the idea of her dating someone else. If she sees you don't care about her new guy, that will tell her that you are ok with her moving on, and that might make her rethink her decision if she still has feelings for you, if she doesn't have them, well, there's no much you could have done about it in the first place anyways.

 

Besides, her realizing the new guy is not so great and that you are better will be a million times more powerful than someone telling her just that. Not until she has experienced it will she be certain of it, if she just dumps him because of what other people tell her, she'll always have the curiosity of "what if" or "what would've happened"... and will probably want to try again with the guy.

 

So just let their thing run its course. If it's a rebound and she still had feelings for you it'll end sooner than later and then you might give it a shot again. She will appreciate you that much more for having respected her decision to see someone else rather than hate you for being a pain in the ass about her new date. Just let it be and make sure you keep your distance, you don't want to be available to her because that will only help the other guy's case.

 

Think of yourself as the old lovely teddy bear she goes to when she's sad and misses you. And think of the other guy as the bright new shiny toy that is great fun and exciting. If you hang around and are available to her all the time, she'll go to you whenever she's sad and misses you and once you comforted her, she'll go back to have fun with her new toy. That will only makes things easier for her to move on so, DON'T DO IT.

[rdaya0]

It hurts alot but I've hurt her in the past too though. But I know she cares for me/loves me, I just know it. Before this second break up one of the most last dates we had at the movies was about a child and god and stuff. She cried in the car after because we could of had a kid earlier in our relationship but she was stressed and lost it. I hugged her and kissed her so tight that night and told her i love her so much. Then this stupid car this happened then a week later she texts me asks why im out partying, we went back n forth with questions and she told me she still has feelings for me but she put it on hold, obviously shes letting her friends/cousins wash her brain with other ****, then 2 weeks go by she flies to Vancouver to visit her cousin the possibly "new guy". I should of fixed things within that week she wanted a break huh? She's all about communication, while i gave her space this guy was entertaining her which im so pissed about...help guys