purplesoccer34 Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 (edited) A few months ago, I met a few of my relatives including some of their friends. Everyone was talking about two guys (their parents came to the family reunion, but the two guys didn't come) and about how successful they are, how nice they are, blah blah. My mom's cousin briefly mentioned that I would look good with one of the guys and wanted to set me up with him. That ended up not happening though lol. Well I quickly became curious about these guys as everyone was talking about them, and me being the nosy person that I am, I looked them up on facebook lol. What happened after that was really strange--I found one of the guys to be very, very attractive lol. He seemed like a cool and amazing guy too. We are both in our mid-20s but the problem is that this guy lives almost 700 miles away from me so I know that there's no way we'd ever meet. Yet I can't stop thinking about him even though we've never met which is why I feel like I've gone crazy. He just seems really amazing! If he rejects me after I meet him in person, that wouldn't bother me so much but if I never ever get to meet him...that would really really bother me. I've never looked at a guy's photos and fell so head over heels lol. There are guys near where I live, but for some reason I'm not really interested in any of them--probably because I'm always thinking about this one guy. It's like I'm constantly dreaming about a Hollywood star that I'll never get to meet lol. I really wish I could talk to him even though he lives so far away, but I don't know how. I could never tell any of my relatives that I like this guy--it will spread like gossip, and we hardly ever have family reunions (just to clarify, this guy and his family are friends of ours, not relatives of course, haha) so I know I'll never see him in person. Also, I think it's weird for people to get a facebook message from someone totally random, so I couldn't message him lol. Is this something I should just give up on because it'll never happen? Edited August 24, 2014 by purplesoccer34
D.Mc. Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Hi PurpleSoccer34, Just send the Facebook friend request. He is 700 mile away. He will probably not respond, b/c it IS weird to get a friend request from a stranger, even though he knows your family...btw, the purpose of Facebook is for people w/"six degrees of separation" to get to know one another, but it just doesn't work out that way. His rejection of you will wipe him from your mind faster than you can believe, & you will be over your current obsession. Then you might be surprised how much more attractive the men who are actually available to you (locally etc.) become. 1
Author purplesoccer34 Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 Hi PurpleSoccer34, Just send the Facebook friend request. He is 700 mile away. He will probably not respond, b/c it IS weird to get a friend request from a stranger, even though he knows your family...btw, the purpose of Facebook is for people w/"six degrees of separation" to get to know one another, but it just doesn't work out that way. His rejection of you will wipe him from your mind faster than you can believe, & you will be over your current obsession. Then you might be surprised how much more attractive the men who are actually available to you (locally etc.) become. Haha I don't think I can call it an obsession. But I suppose I can take your advice!
Supernatural Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Haha I don't think I can call it an obsession. But I suppose I can take your advice! Yes. You are obsessed. Read your posting. I think you like him so much because he is so far out of reach. We really want what we can't have. Send him a message. Stop creepin'. 1
Assasda Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 ... Wow first of all pretty strange. Go ahead and contact him
soyou Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 I was in your shoes before. Crazy about a guy I never met and knew we could never meet in reality unless there was a miracle. I was obssessed about him for about 2 months (stalked the hell out of him via FB and his FB friends). I didnt do anything in term of contacting him because every single option just sounded creepy. Plus I have a high pride so it didnt help either. As time passed by, my crush for him became blurry and finally gone. Now thinking of it makes me feel how crazy and silly i was at that time. Decision is yours. But i truly believe that this type of crush or butterfly feelings happen all the time and they wont stay with you for long. Take your time and xi'm sure within a few weeks you will be able to flush it and move on.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 A few months ago, I met a few of my relatives including some of their friends. Everyone was talking about two guys (their parents came to the family reunion, but the two guys didn't come) and about how successful they are, how nice they are, blah blah. My mom's cousin briefly mentioned that I would look good with one of the guys and wanted to set me up with him. That ended up not happening though lol. Well I quickly became curious about these guys as everyone was talking about them, and me being the nosy person that I am, I looked them up on facebook lol. What happened after that was really strange--I found one of the guys to be very, very attractive lol. He seemed like a cool and amazing guy too. We are both in our mid-20s but the problem is that this guy lives almost 700 miles away from me so I know that there's no way we'd ever meet. Yet I can't stop thinking about him even though we've never met which is why I feel like I've gone crazy. He just seems really amazing! If he rejects me after I meet him in person, that wouldn't bother me so much but if I never ever get to meet him...that would really really bother me. I've never looked at a guy's photos and fell so head over heels lol. There are guys near where I live, but for some reason I'm not really interested in any of them--probably because I'm always thinking about this one guy. It's like I'm constantly dreaming about a Hollywood star that I'll never get to meet lol. I really wish I could talk to him even though he lives so far away, but I don't know how. I could never tell any of my relatives that I like this guy--it will spread like gossip, and we hardly ever have family reunions (just to clarify, this guy and his family are friends of ours, not relatives of course, haha) so I know I'll never see him in person. Also, I think it's weird for people to get a facebook message from someone totally random, so I couldn't message him lol. Is this something I should just give up on because it'll never happen? He's far away and you haven't even met. Why exactly do you have to meet this person?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 If you really want, send him a request. Don't be surprised if he doesn't respond, though. I personally never accept requests from people I've never met, regardless of whether or not we have mutual friends. You're creating an idea of him based on a FB profile and a few comments from a family member. The reality is that he's a stranger, whom you know very little about. Keep that in mind.
FitChick Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Why would someone want to fix you up with someone so far away? Let them arrange it then.
Zippy2000 Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Humans always WANT what they can`t have. You know he`s far away so out of reach and it "can`t" work. Thats why youre wanting him. I say take a risk and go for it! At least it`ll put you out of your misery if he says, no.
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