Shields boy Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 Hello people, I'm looking for advice on how to approach the ladies and to get a bit of a conversation going with them. Hopefully ask them for their number or a date by the end of it. Yesterday I was chilling in the sun outside a coffee shop with a latte. All the tables and chairs in the area were empty. Then in the space of 5 minutes, there was a beautiful women on the table to my right, and an attractive girl on the table to my right. It was if they came and sat beside me in the hope I would chat one of them up. I literally did not know what to say and how to go about it. Opportunity missed. I'm 30 and have been single for 6 years now. Any tips?
Assasda Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 naa no opportunities missed man. If you didnt feel like you had anything to say, then dont feel the need to play entertainer. Never try to force it. But if you really just wanted to talk to her a little bit, you could have just invited her to your table, ask if she was waiting for friends or something like that. - Then ask a questions like "Are you one of those people that are super into coffee?" I dont think you missed out on anything, because you didnt even know them. Dont be too hard on yourself 3
DrSimple Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 Be aware of your environment, it is always your friend in starting a conversation. What is she doing? What is going on around you? Is there something truly unique that she has accessory wise? Any hot topics locally? These are just some of the things you can use to break the ice, focus on the here and now rather then trying to used canned lines. Women can tell the difference from something "pre-planned" and something genuinely in the moment. 2
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Good openings in that setting are the clichés: Nice day isn't it? I can't believe summer is almost over -- or I'm getting that fall chill in the air. If she wants to keep talking she will say something to which you can respond. If she doesn't want to chat she will avoid eye contact & probably start looking in her purse or fiddling with her phone.
morbot_k Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 You just need anything to break the ice in a way that doesn't put any pressure on someone. See if you can make eye contact - that is feel out if they are open to talking or kinda in their own world not wanting to be disturbed. "Excuse me, are you familiar with the menu?" "Hey do you know what that whatever is all about?" "Mind if you watch my bag for a minute?" Just break the ice. 1
bastus Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 <p>if Internet were exist earlier, i believe tevin campbell would make a same poster here..<img class="inlineimg" alt="0" src="https://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/smilies/redface.gif" border="0" smilieid="3"></p>
WonderKid Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 "I so can't wait for Cider Season" "Wait....why you're lookin at me like that? Is it because I'm black?" "You're phone's not talking to you. I am." "Um, excuse me Miss, can I help you? I'm the manager here and you're too pretty. We can't serve very pretty people I'll have to ask you to go to another vendor." Lmao don't use those though.
Author Shields boy Posted August 24, 2014 Author Posted August 24, 2014 Thanks for the tips and advice guys. I appreciate it. I'll bump this thread if I manage to get a result sometime soon
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