moon_footprint Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 Hi, I think I need some help. Two years ago I met a man and we felt in love. However, after the third date something went wrong and we split. I felt guilty, and I tried to have him back. He was back, but somehow it was not the same. He kept teelling me he was busy and could only be with me during an hour. But he was very obssessive with the time he gave me, and I didn't understand. I broke up with him million times but we always met in the middle of the street and everything started. I felt like I knew him for a thousand years: we had the same tastes, same opinions, and sex was just as if we were one, naturally. I didn't understand how he could not see that. However, after an year he saw that, he told me I was right and he never met someone like me, and he wanted to have a relationship. But he continued with this one-hour meetings, always apologizing he had not more time for me. My intuition told me he had another girl, but I never asked him. I was only complaining about our kind of relationship, because he texted me one hour before our meetings asking if I was free and this was, basically, our relationship. We always met in his house and I always left first, we never left together. That made me feel very very bad, but he kept acusing me for being over-sensitive. When I asked him what was going on, why we don't see each other more often, he told me always he's busy with work, but he always avoid breaking up. But the last time I met him with another girl, and I did nothing. He saw me and after that I texted him, told him it was Ok, if he is happy with it. We were meant to meet that week, but he never answered me. He had not even a word for me, and I don't understand it. He just humiliated me and I don't know how to get to life again. I dream of him at night, he can't leave my mind. And in october, I must do an internship in the same place he works, although he does not know. I wouldn't know how to act, how to get over it. I tried to go out, have fun with another guy, but my body rejected and I got sick. I just want my life back. Please help me.
wiser2 Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 I hate to break it to you but it sounds like you were just a booty call to him and the "relationship" was in your head. He gave you crumbs and you thought it was a loaf. You say that being with another man made you sick. If you work on your self-esteem and belief in your value, you will never allow another man to use you like he did. I hope someday soon you will feel rightfully sick when you think back to the disrespectful and devaluing treatment you tolerated from that man.
Author moon_footprint Posted August 23, 2014 Author Posted August 23, 2014 Yes, I know that, I knew that from the beginning, don't know how I got trapped in it and it seems to me it is impossible now to leave this hole and have my dignity back. He's older than me, like 30 years and a psychologist, this is not a reason to justify my blindness, it is just he manipulated so well. Thanks anyway
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