thoreau_lover Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 I notice a guy staring at me a lot but I'm usually the one to break eye contact. I usually catch him when I glance over at him and his eyes are staring at me. He always stares only in my eyes but he doesn't smile or look away. He is a serious, shy, quiet guy. I've read online that shy guys will usually look away if they like you. He hasn't approached me at all or added me on fb or asked for my number but I also don't know him very well (we had a class together in university). The only signs that I have noticed his potential interest is the staring. I catch him doing it often. What do you guys think? I get the feeling that he is quite humble and not confident which baffles me because he never looks away when we make eye contact. Also, I think this guy has tons of options which is why I have not been more aggressive.
moon_footprint Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 Hi, I think the only way you have to find if he's interested is go a little further. Smile to him, for example. This way you will find out if he answers back. It is better than keep imagining things in your head. If he's not interested, the more time you avoid this step, the harder it gets to feel rejection. And if he is interested, you will know. Shy guys also need to leave the comfort zone. Good luck. 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 Hmm thats a difficult one!... Personally I would go for "slowly, slowly catchy monkey" x You need to test the waters without being overally interested x
PerfectStorm Posted August 23, 2014 Posted August 23, 2014 Just add him on fb. To me that's a very low interest move that could be interrupted in different ways but won't make you seem overly interested. It may pique his curiosity enough to message you or approach you in class then you can more accurately guage his interest. 1
you_can_not_see_me Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 he probably is attracted to you, men are pretty easy to read, we look at what we like a lot. There are more or less two possilities: 1. He is too shy/scared/non assertive to make a move 2. Maybe he is attracted to you but he's already involved with someone. I think the first one is more likely. Go ahead and facebook add him and see what happens, he may need a bit of reassurance that your interested to make a move. 1
Author thoreau_lover Posted September 21, 2014 Author Posted September 21, 2014 (edited) Hey guys. So I took your advice and added him on facebook...it didn't end well haha. He never accepted and I actually saw him that day and he deliberately didn't look at me and acted like I wasn't there, so that night I canceled the friend request and tried to move on. I was pretty sad that day but got over it and intentionally avoided him for as long as I could. Then I saw him the other day by accident as I was looking around and noticed him staring at me dead on (no expression, just staring and not looking away) like he used to do. I made milliseconds of eye contact with him, broke the eye contact, and ran away pretty embarrassed. Is this a dead end? I don't develop crushes easily so I don't want to shut the door completely before I even give it a shot. In my deepest gut, I feel that he likes me and I really like him. I don't know what his deal is. I'm vexed. Edited September 21, 2014 by thoreau_lover
Gloria25 Posted September 21, 2014 Posted September 21, 2014 Oh gosh, I feel your pain...I've caught my recent crush like looking my way a while back and when I confronted him about him about it, he went into denial mode. I don't know what to recommend cuz I'm still trying to figure out my crush too...Now, while I also have similar traits like him, I think I'm a little more forward than he is... It's weird cuz like you react to what you think is him demonstrating interest, then seems like they take two steps back cuz you took one step forward. I'm trying to be friendly and not so "forward" (i.e. showing up at my crush's doorstep) in hopes that my crush can get comfortable and open up towards me... So, maybe you can try a more subtle approach to also showing interest in him and/or recognizing his possible interest in you?
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