sid3 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 Weak. Considering the fact that you have absolutely no idea how you'd get along after the first few dates, if even that long. He may be the greatest guy in the world, or may be the world's biggest douche bag. You may never know merely cause you fear a little rejection.
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Weak. Considering the fact that you have absolutely no idea how you'd get along after the first few dates, if even that long. He may be the greatest guy in the world, or may be the world's biggest douche bag. You may never know merely cause you fear a little rejection. True. Maybe I will just toss the humor compliment at him and gently push from there.
Gloria25 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I want to be a touch more subtle. I am thinking about coming onto him a little stronger. I couldn't identify his flirting for a while and I know mine fails. Maybe I'll bring up something along the lines of how well we would get along and assess his reaction? Yeah ^^ that was what I was gonna ask/suggest... I mean, if he wouldn't ask you out is probably cuz you haven't demonstrated interest. Why don't you ask your gf at work to see what her opinion is as to whether or not you've been giving him enough signals that you are into him? 1
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 Yeah ^^ that was what I was gonna ask/suggest... I mean, if he wouldn't ask you out is probably cuz you haven't demonstrated interest. Why don't you ask your gf at work to see what her opinion is as to whether or not you've been giving him enough signals that you are into him? She sees that I am friendly but says I need to try harder in the flirting department. I am aware that I suck at flirting. Looking back he tries pretty hard and I put in lackluster effort. Not that I am not interested, i get all nervous when his truck pulls up, it's that I suck at flirting.
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 She actually brought it up a few months, like 5, ago that she thought he had a crush on me. I bumped up my conversation level with him since. A few weeks ago I was carrying something large and he made a joke at the fact that the object was bigger than me. My coworker pushed me in the back room and asked me if I thought he was attractive because he was totally flirting with me. She then mentioned it to a coworker within earshot who agreed. The next time we crossed paths I was coming up a flight of stairs, he made a comment about how I "ran" up the stairs. My coworker shot me a look. I said hello nervously to him and signed for the package. When he left she got on me about why I didn't ask about his weekend or how he was doing. Since then I've tried to plan a bit on what I am going to say the next time I see him. Trying to let it be mostly natural too though.
smackie9 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 You have been at this for 5 MONTHS?!! Your subtle approach isn't working hun. Just hand him your number and get this ball rolling.
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Posted August 28, 2014 I was at it a tiny bit. then I cooled off a little. This time I'm definitely more interested now that someone else sees it from both of us. I'm getting there.
Gloria25 Posted August 28, 2014 Posted August 28, 2014 I was at it a tiny bit. then I cooled off a little. This time I'm definitely more interested now that someone else sees it from both of us. I'm getting there. Don't wait too long then, cuz I did that with my most recent crush...I didn't reciprocate when I had the window to talk to him (well, I was in a stressful place and wasn't open to talking to any guy) and now that I have more time on my hands and am trying to chat him up on the regular, I gotta watch my pace cuz I don't wanna come off as too strong or pressuring him.
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 29, 2014 Author Posted August 29, 2014 I do need to push forward or risk missing something possibly awesome. Could go the other way I guess too. Just getting courage to gather my lady parts. It's kind of scary
smackie9 Posted August 29, 2014 Posted August 29, 2014 I do need to push forward or risk missing something possibly awesome. Could go the other way I guess too. Just getting courage to gather my lady parts. It's kind of scary I have no idea why you guys are so scared......I can have a guy eating out of my hand within mins. Stop being a bunch of chickens. It's not that hard to do. A strong smile, a soft touch, a wink then they are putty in your hands.
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 30, 2014 Author Posted August 30, 2014 Spoke with my coworker today. She dug him for some info. She told me his work schedule, which I did terribly care about, and she said she is trying to find out if he is single. So far she has tried by asking what he has plans to do. She said he never mentions anyone else involved. We will see.
Author alexisjones289 Posted August 30, 2014 Author Posted August 30, 2014 Whoops. I mean I didn't care terribly about his work schedule.
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