Zahara Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 I think the hard part is dealing with the possibility that he thought I was amazing, until he got to know me. And this is where you need to come to a halt. When a guy like him is moving at a fast speed, he's driven by the "feel-good" feelings of an early romance. He's not completely focusing on you but moreso on the high that he feels. Self-deprecation is not the route that you should be going. His rejection of you doesn't make you any less amazing than you were before you met him. You're creating these scenarios in your head rather than looking at him and the lack of character that he presented in how he handled himself. This was never about you, Crila. When I read your first post, I could already tell this one was danger. It had nothing to do with you. Then was able to discard me for "possibly" someone else, just because they're in Chicago. We had decided I would move there in a year. Wasn't I worth waiting for and holding onto? A year would fly by so fast, and we'd see each other every other weekend. I don't understand why he was able to brush me aside. Again, another scenario in your head. You don't even know what truly is going on over there. Maybe he has found another woman, but with the emotional immaturity that this man has, do you actually think he's going to somehow turn into a prince for the next woman? No. When he asked you to move there in a year, this was future faking. It wasn't real. Again, he's was being driven by feel-good emotions and that is why it all crashed and burned so quickly. 3
ThorntonMelon Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 Crila - I read your original post just fine. As I usually recommend, read what Zahara posted. Then read it again, then read it say 4 or 5 more times. Then print it out, leave a copy by your bedstand and another by the toilet. Read it each time you're there. After you're sick and tired of reading it, well, then you're ready to take the next step.
lolablue17 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 No problem with your texts. It's normal. The good things is without the texts you wouldn't know where you stand for days and maybe more... So the texts did a good service for you. I like people like you who communicate like you instead of people that refers to communication as something to trade with.
SummerDreams Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 You have to realize that you didn't do anything wrong to make him dump you, he had it all decided and he was looking for a chance to tell you. He is a coward for choosing a text to do so and he never cared for you. The way a person breaks up shows too much for their character. He surely did show way too much. Mourn a bit but go on. Work on your insecurity issues or else you'll be always unhappy and it will be your fault.
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