koreice Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 I'm 18 and my girlfriend is 17. I am writing this while feeling very worthless and lost. Thanks to anyone who will offer me advice..! Summary: Me and my girlfriend had the perfect relationship, we rarely fought, understood each other and loved each other so much. We are young we made dumb decisions that her parents did not like and she ended up moving to korea. From there we continued our relationship with long distance and it was going okay but more fights broke out and insecurities came out and things were not going so good. So we finally broke up one day and i started to date someone else. Summer came around and i promised her before to visit her in korea no matter what happened and so i kept the promise and went to see her. Deep in my heart i knew i never stopped loving her. So i got my hotel in korea and she basically ditched her parents and stayed with me for 2 weeks. In those 2 short weeks we had the best times in our lives together and we admitted our love to each other and started going long distance once more, this was 3 weeks ago. About two week ago she said our relationship wont work out because of school and other reasons but she still loves me and is willing to wait for me(date in the future) so i agreed. But a few days ago she got drunk and told me she hated me and she blames me for ****ing up her life and her relationship with her parents. I later learn that her dad punched her in the face and she got a nose bleed and that he was not paying for her lunch money. She knows its not my fault but i feel like she just needs someone to blame... So suddenly after about a year and 5 month the love of my life now hates me and doesn't love me anymore. She is pushing me away ignoring most of my messages, answering in "yes or no" to me and it really hurts. Knowing someone you love so much just suddenly hate you is too much. I'm becoming depressed and insecure and everything is just a mess. My friends have told me to move on and everything but i just don't think i can. If someone can please enlighten me and offer me some reason as why she is doing this i will be forever grateful.. I don't want to feel like this about my self, i feel worthless.
Reels Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 Looks like you have wasted enough time on her. She is changed, she is not the same person anymore. She will be happy with you only if you ignore her, will you do that?
moonlightpath Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 She isn't the same person anymore. She's changed. You really just need to cut all communication with her. If you don't its going to keep hurting you.
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 You aren't worthless. You didn't ruin her life. Her father is ruining her life. It's a shame that he is physically abusive but I don't know what protections there are for women in Korea. About all you can do is pray for her safety & move on.
Author koreice Posted August 22, 2014 Author Posted August 22, 2014 Thanks for the response guys. Does any females want to give me any insight on why she is doing this? Is it because she doesnt want to blame her self so shes pushing the blame on to me? It seems kinda weird she changed from love to hate in 1 week...
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