Darren2013 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 I am a 34 year old male and I know myself at this point. My relationship needs are fairly low maintenance. I don't want to see my girlfriend more than once a month. I like spending the majority of my free time alone and eating out by myself. So now I realize I should go after women who are in the Military. There's a good chance their busy schedule will fit with my desire to not spend alot of time with them as they may be shipped off overseas for months at a time. There is someone to fit everyone and if I were a woman I would be a compatible wife for a boyfriend who goes away on missions for months. I also wouldn't care if my girlfriend looks at porn and has flings while she is overseas. She has needs that have to be met regardless of having to go away on assignments or not.
Gaeta Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 With all due respect why don't you just get an escort once a month? You don't want a girlfriend around, you want your space, you don't want sex that much, you just don't want to bother with a relationship. Military women are like any other women. They want a connection, they want time with their man, they want a commitment, fall in love, and the whole package. Military women aren't more busy. They leave once in a while on training or on mission then they're back on base and it's 7h am to 3 pm day in - day out. 3
mammasita Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 I'm sure you could find a woman that's not in the military that has these views also. I was in the military, and I wouldn't agree to not spending most of my free time with my SO. 1
mammasita Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 With all due respect why don't you just get an escort once a month? You don't want a girlfriend around, you want your space, you don't want sex that much, you just don't want to bother with a relationship. Military women are like any other women. They want a connection, they want time with their man, they want a commitment, fall in love, and the whole package. Military women aren't more busy. They leave once in a while on training or on mission then they're back on base and it's 7h am to 3 pm day in - day out. Yep, exactly. Or find you a nice FWB.
Author Darren2013 Posted August 21, 2014 Author Posted August 21, 2014 (edited) With all due respect why don't you just get an escort once a month? You don't want a girlfriend around, you want your space, you don't want sex that much, you just don't want to bother with a relationship. Military women are like any other women. They want a connection, they want time with their man, they want a commitment, fall in love, and the whole package. Military women aren't more busy. They leave once in a while on training or on mission then they're back on base and it's 7h am to 3 pm day in - day out. But there's a chance they will have to go overseas. That's always the risk for any Military persons. If she gets called out to war and has to be away for 5 months then that's a perfect setup for me. Especially if I happen to find one who has a history of boyfriends who were too clingy and had a hard time accepting that she couldn't spend alot of time at home. To meet me would be a breath of fresh air for her. A woman who puts her career before her boyfriend works well for me. As far as not wanting sex that much? You got it all wrong. I don't want it at all. I've been in enough relationships in the past where sex didn't satisfy me anyway. Edited August 21, 2014 by Darren2013
Gaeta Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 But there's a chance they will have to go overseas. That's always the risk for any Military persons. If she gets called out to war and has to be away for 5 months then that's a perfect setup for me. Especially if I happen to find one who has a history of boyfriends who were too clingy and had a hard time accepting that she couldn't spend alot of time at home. To meet me would be a breath of fresh air for her. A woman who puts her career before her boyfriend works well for me. As far as not wanting sex that much? You got it all wrong. I don't want it at all. I've been in enough relationships in the past where sex didn't satisfy me anyway. Why do you want a girlfriend? You don't seem to need or want anything related to a relationship or women. 3
preraph Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 Or you can date a rock star. They're always gone. Either way, glad you found your niche. I salute you!
irc333 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 He just wants a military, hard bodied piece of arse when it's convenient. If she ships off for 5 months..... he'll be tappin whomever is currently on base lol Why do you want a girlfriend? You don't seem to need or want anything related to a relationship or women.
Gloria25 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 (edited) Ok, while I've seen military women who act the fool both in garrison and while overseas...not all military women are out having sex with the whole battalion. I was in the military and nothing has changed. I can go months, weeks, years, without dating/having sex - but don't think that had anything to do with the military. I was like that before and after the military. I don't need a series of men going in and out of me to know my value or to keep me entertained. Now, what you gotta watch out for are these military "wives/girlfriends/etc" that those young men get involved with - which amazes me to this day. They get involved with some needy, bored chicks who need constant attention and have no life...so as soon as their guy is gone, they are doing the whole military base. Gosh, once I was in an apt complex with one of those. She was an ex-marine and her husband was Army and as soon as he got deployed, she was at the clubs, the military officer's club. I mean, lonely? Really? It's like she had a thirst she could not quench. And there were different men coming in and out her place all times of the day/night. Actually, a news article came out recently about a Marine's wife who went missing. Well, they found the body...and she was preggo with her neighbor's kid and seems like the neighbor is the suspected killer - while the husband was deployed....When will these guys learn how to pick a woman instead of these flakes with a smile? But gosh, I watch like the trash TV sometimes and wonder how those women come on TV and after X amount of men don't know who their baby daddy is? How can you have so many men in and out of you like that? Yikes!!! I don't know what the OP wants. Seems he is like in some mode of self-infliction of torture. I love sex, I love men. I would never intentionally deprive myself of the pleasure of enjoying a bf/husband if I had one (but that doesn't mean I'm gonna run the streets to get laid - especially if I have someone I am in a committed RL with). Actually, I think that if you are in a RL and intentionally neglect the other person you are also being cruel to them. Edited August 21, 2014 by Gloria25
no changes Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 I am a 34 year old male and I know myself at this point. My relationship needs are fairly low maintenance. I don't want to see my girlfriend more than once a month. I like spending the majority of my free time alone and eating out by myself. So now I realize I should go after women who are in the Military. There's a good chance their busy schedule will fit with my desire to not spend alot of time with them as they may be shipped off overseas for months at a time. There is someone to fit everyone and if I were a woman I would be a compatible wife for a boyfriend who goes away on missions for months. I also wouldn't care if my girlfriend looks at porn and has flings while she is overseas. She has needs that have to be met regardless of having to go away on assignments or not. If you do not want to see her more than once a month, you should think as you do need relationships at all ? Or maybe you just want sexual discharge? Not required to look for a girl in the military, you can find girls from Eastern Europe and get to her once in 1-2 months, but be careful because my trips ended with wedding. https://mymagicbrides.com
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 As far as not wanting sex that much? You got it all wrong. I don't want it at all. I've been in enough relationships in the past where sex didn't satisfy me anyway. You realize all of this screams closeted homosexual right? I mean honestly, I have never in my life heard of something like this. What would be the purpose of having "girlfriend" whom you did not see, speak to or have sex with - and in fact hoped she was screwing around - but for her to serve as your 'beard'? You don't want a girlfriend or even a partner. You want a hollow title to what, prove a point to others? 2
Gloria25 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 (edited) You realize all of this screams closeted homosexual right? I mean honestly, I have never in my life heard of something like this. What would be the purpose of having "girlfriend" whom you did not see, speak to or have sex with - and in fact hoped she was screwing around - but for her to serve as your 'beard'? You don't want a girlfriend or even a partner. You want a hollow title to what, prove a point to others? Ouch, that's harsh.... I don't think the OP is gay....Misguided? Yes. Why? I don't know...maybe his self-defeating attitude or how crazy dating has gotten now a days? Unfortunately, due to my broken home, I have issues getting close to people and although I'm in my 30's and know where the behavior comes from, I still have problems breaking the behavior and am so set in my ways. I have and continue to date people in casual situations - who are often "unavailable" - in other words, they may be involved with someone else. And, because of that, I do not see them on the regular. Now, the part I am "not" like the OP is in him actually "wanting" someone to be sleeping with another person. Cuz, yeah, while I've gotten involved with people I knew were involved with others...it's not like I got excited about that. I mean, last guy I was in a casual thing with one day felt he just "had" to tell me he was sleeping with more than just me and that's where I just didn't wanna see him anymore, and it slowly deteriorated. Anywho, over the years I've gone on "droughts" where I am not seeing anyone. During that time I may be chatting with guys but may not budge much. Why? Lately it has been stress, but over the years I just think I get to the point where I don't wanna be bothered. I mean, lemmie tell ya. A few months ago I went out with a guy in his 30's like me, and he literally ate with his fork. My most fondest memory being a child was my father showing me how to cut my food and eat with a fork and knife. Now, granted at home and with no guy around, yea, I lick, my fingers and pretty much may need a bib to eat at times...lol. But, when I go out or am in the presence of others I display "manners". So, I went on such a lengthy rant cuz of situations like that, I've often asked myself 'Am I gonna waste my evening getting all dolled up just to have some guy ruin my evening, or am I gonna chill with some good food and something on the TV?'. Yea, I bet many of people think I'm a lesbian...what ever. They see me without a guy, and I do a lot of "guy" stuff and I drive something a guy would drive...Well, since they don't pay my mortgage, I could give a ratz' behind what they think. About the OP and all this "hard to get" nonsense, he'll end up with drama chicks or alone...And, maybe that's what he wants. Maybe he needs to go to the doctor to have his testosterone checked for his lack of interests in sex, cuz while my casual RLs usually mean I didn't get sex on the regular...I didn't intentionally push away the guy(s) I was seeing. I mean, even in times of me being stressed I made sure the needs of the guy I was seeing was met cuz you can't be in a RL and blow off the other person...that's just wrong. Edited August 26, 2014 by Gloria25
Zeurich Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 yeah good idea go with a bullet proof vest. Because military woman accept no nonsens like you mention above.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 Ouch, that's harsh.... I don't think the OP is gay....Misguided? Yes. Why? I don't know...maybe his self-defeating attitude or how crazy dating has gotten now a days? Unfortunately, due to my broken home, I have issues getting close to people and although I'm in my 30's and know where the behavior comes from, I still have problems breaking the behavior and am so set in my ways. I'd agree however OP is demonstrating more than just a few of getting close to people. This is an out and out desire to have a girlfriend in name only. I too am the product of a broken home, two broken homes and yep, struggling to let people in, etc is just one of the many things we have to deal with. But at no point in all my (albeit short) life have I ever wanted to date someone, even casually and A) only see them once a month, B) condone or expect them to have various "flings" while we're dating C) say I have zero interest in sex with them. What purpose would having someone in your life like that serve other than as a "cover"? Maybe he needs to go to the doctor to have his testosterone checked for his lack of interests in sex, cuz while my casual RLs usually mean I didn't get sex on the regular...I didn't intentionally push away the guy(s) I was seeing. I mean, even in times of me being stressed I made sure the needs of the guy I was seeing was met cuz you can't be in a RL and blow off the other person...that's just wrong. At this point though, having perused some of OPs past threads I'm beginning to wonder if he's asexual rather than gay.
Gloria25 Posted August 26, 2014 Posted August 26, 2014 At this point though, having perused some of OPs past threads I'm beginning to wonder if he's asexual rather than gay. I don't get him either...he seems to be hooked on an ex, scared to talk to new people, pushes away any potential new people, plays games to try to create interest with potential new people, but still wants a gf that he will not have sex with. I also don't get why he is trying to get someone (by playing interest games), but really doesn't want someone. Not sure if he feels that society expects him to date, or that since we humans are gregarious creatures...he's trying to have "some" contact with others. Cuz, I'm not a people person, but I do socialize to an extent that is comfortable for me. Some people say I'm very quiet, but once I warm up to them I'm pretty cool. Oh well I hope he has some joy in his life because his ambivalence about relationships seem to be causing him too much pain.
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