noob_saibot Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 im sure everyone has been through this and what not, i am not all quite sure how to deal with it. my gf gives me the silent treatment all the time. its really frustrating because sometimes she gets mad for no reason, then she explodes and says abunch of harsh things to me, then she wont talk to me. often its when she doesnt get her way. she uses the silent treatment so much that i know when its coming but i dont know when its going. because i have never learned how to flip the tables around whats your take on the silent treatment, what worked for you to get them to stop? how do you switch it around.
Elle1975 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 I would sit her down, explain that the passive aggressive behavior needs to stop now, and that communication is the tool you both should use. I would keep on explaining that if her emotional blackmail doesn't stop, you will leave. If she keeps on doing it, do leave. I dated someone like that, NEVER again. Life is too short to be manipulated by a 4 y old kid in the body of an adult. 2
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 im sure everyone has been through this and what not, i am not all quite sure how to deal with it. my gf gives me the silent treatment all the time. its really frustrating because sometimes she gets mad for no reason, then she explodes and says abunch of harsh things to me, then she wont talk to me. often its when she doesnt get her way. she uses the silent treatment so much that i know when its coming but i dont know when its going. because i have never learned how to flip the tables around whats your take on the silent treatment, what worked for you to get them to stop? how do you switch it around. She immature. Has been since you wrote here the first time. If this isnt a break or breakup, Id suggest another section of this site.
D-Lish Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 The silent treatment is the worst! I'd do the same as mentioned above and talk to her about it first, let her know it has to stop or you're going to leave. I used to get upset and give my exH the silent treatment before we got married. It wasn't until he turned the tables on me and didn't speak to me when I had calmed down and decided to talk to him again. That really taught me a lesson and I never did it to him again. He waited a few days to respond to me and I thought I'd lost him for good. When we did talk, he was clear that my behaviour wasn't acceptable and wouldn't be tolerated anymore. I straightened right up... You have to mean it and enforce it if needed. It's no way to live having someone being mad at you all of the time.
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